When you are in a committed relationship, do you occasionally feel attracted to someone else? (Page 2)
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Been in a committed relationship for 9 years, and yes I do find there are other man more attractive than my partner. A few even asked me out.. It was tempting but I never acted on it because I simply feel no man I ever met in real life (or even on the internet for that matter) could ever measure up to my partner in every single way.
I think there is a HUGE difference in attraction and lust. I'm attracted to my girlfriend but I have looked at other women with lust. It's a deep primal need to breed that fuels that. I imagine the higher the testosterone the more that lustful desire is.
Don't even wanna look at someone other than her😅😍
That is not the same thing as saying that you never notice an attractive female.
Aawwwww 🤗🤗😚 neither me baby 😚
Women are good looking, and their personalities can be very attractive. So, yes, I have been attracted to other women when I was in a relationship. It's natural and normal. However, I don't act on it. There is no need to go sniffing after every new piece of cute ass that comes around. To do so, would be very destructive to a relationship, and it would become impossible to maintain a mature, loving relationship.
It's human nature to look at other humans you find attractive. My wife and I both recognize this. Where we draw the line is if you act upon it.
But because we understand human nature and are mature about it, we don't get mad at one another if we check out the opposite sex. In fact my wife will point out to me other hot women to visually check out if I didn't already notice them.
It's innocent fun to enjoy eye candy.
Personally, I love my girlfriend to death. I would do anything for her. However, our sex life is so boring. She's not very comfortable just having fun in bed so she pretty much just lays there like a starfish.
It's gotten to the point where, like you, I've begun to look at other girls. And to be honest I'd be lying if I said I didn't fantasize about how they are in bed.
Would I act on my curiosity? Never in a million years. But I do acknowledge it's bad because it's a sign that my needs aren't being met. Maybe other females think the same thing
I’m fine at looking at other girls, fantasising is disgusting.
If you think your guy has never fantasized about another woman, either you have never asked, or you asked and he lied about it.
Haha the other day we were reading a book with facts or something and it stated 98 (or 99) % of men do not fantasise about other women. So I guess I am a lucky woman. Haha
Well, if you read it in a book, it must be true.
Well I have to believe not all men are assholes 😃😃😃
And if a woman ever thinks about how much money a guy earns, does that make her an asshole?
I don’t know. Personally I never cared and never asked how much someone earned. Never asked my boyfriend or my ex.
Believe what you will.
You missed the point. "And if a woman ever THINKS about how much money a guy earns, does that make her an asshole?" Will you claim that you never thought about that subject with any boyfriend?
No. I never cared so I never thought about this. In relationship I don’t care how much the guy earns. Now in marriage money are important, because you want to support your kids and stuff. But I’m a grown up and I want to earn money for myself and didn’t search for a guy with money. There are other stuff I search in men. So this is a thing I don’t think about.
I’ll repeat if I was not clear. I never thought how much my exes earned. I never thought how much my man earns
Right!
Honestly I feel like I have checked out guys while in a committed relationship but I would never acted on it because I can only see myself with my boyfriend. I even told him he can check out other girls as long as he doesn't a) compare me to the other girls b) try to start something with them.
It’s not that deep. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean all attractive people disappear🙄
Nor does it mean that for him, cheating and looking are not the same thing.
Women like visuals too. Of course I feel attracted to other men because they are handsome but that doesn't mean i would ever act upon it.
if the person you felt an attraction to is someone who is not a simple stranger on the subway but rather someone you interact with regularly such as a co-worker, or friend, then that may be fester and cause issues in your relationship.
I've been in 3 committed relationships. Was with my first boyfriend when I felt attracted to who would be my second boyfriend and slowly pursued it. In hindsight, bad idea.. Thus, never done again!
Everybody looks but it should be a quick peek and then you look away. If it comes to fantasizing about having sex with them it might be a sign your realtionship is not as good as it should be.
Being in a committed relationship does not mean you are dead. It does mean that you do not act on feelings. I get feelings all the time hunger, thirst sexual and more, I dont act on them except in. the l
Maybe I'm a bad wife or something but I'm attracted to men other than my husband often. Well, and women too for that matter, lol.
Stop with the visual creatures bullshit that makes no sense.
If it is something that you do not understand, does that automatically mean it must be BS or is it possibly just something that you don't understand. . . perhaps don't understand because i am talking about a male experience and you are a female. If I started boasting about how well i understand childbirth, wouldn't you either laugh in my face or blast me with both barrels?
No it is just stupid as shit women have eyes too so it makes no damn sense
Well, I guess whatever you don't understand should just be condemned as being stupid, because if it made sense to anyone, anywhere, you too would understand it.
No it just does not make sense at all women aren’t blind get that through your head. Your girlfriend looks at other younger hot guys too.
Yes, I get that. In fact, that is my point. We do it and, by itself, it doesn't mean anything bad.
The "visual creature" reference means that men look at attractive women without consciously thinking about it, almost like a reflex rather than a planned action. That is how I think it is different for men.
@Older that makes no sense obviously if someone saw someone else that was attractive they would look at them you guys need to stop with visual creatures crap it just looks ignorant and uninformed.
It is either ignorant and uninformed, or you don't understand it. I don't expect you to confess that there are things you don't understand.
Yea it is ignorant and uninformed.
The final arbiter has spoken!
I am all committed to the person I am in a relationship
Me, too, but that doesn't really respond to the question.
I know and sorry I didn’t took time to answer the best
Yeah I think that's only natural it is OK to look at others and appreciate others beauty but don't get engaged incommitted relationship you should prefer to engage your time with your partner only don't give other girls
Only cause our relationship was ending in divorce. Never acted on it.
Nature doesn't made men monogamous, genetics will kick off sooner or later
I have always been single and so that question doesn't apply to me.