Boyfriend fixed my car for me, but charged me for it. Should I refuse to pay?

[Anonymous]

So my car needed some mechanical repairs, and the quote from the mechanic was a bit out of my price range for now.

My boyfriend is good with the cars, and said he could do it for me and save me a bit of money.

Turns out, he meant labour only, but still expects me to pay for parts.

Is this fair? Surely my boyfriend of a year, who makes more money than I do, can afford to pay for the parts as well?

[WalsallGuy90]

Somebody has to pay for the parts, you don't just get parts for free. If it was his own car he was fixing he would have had to pay for the parts and do the labour himself, so if it's your car that he fixed then surely it makes sense you should pay for the parts when he's doing the labour for free? He's done you a massive favour and saved you a decent chunk of money, and it seems like you're no being a bit self-entitled for it.

Put it this way. When you go out to places together and you're driving, do you expect him to pay towards your fuel? I'd be surprised if you do.

I'm all for people in relationships doing favours for each other, but there is a limit. He's been incredibly generous by sacrificing his own time to help you out and save you some money, so the best thing you can do is be grateful, pay for the parts that were fixed or replaced, and continue with your relationship, and the next time he needs a favour from you repay him in kind by helping him out then.

[David291185norris]

Not being funny is he the man of ther relationship did she drive him about. So putting u hand in pocket for ur bird is the man thing to do ur nuts

[WalsallGuy90]

@David291185norris A relationship is a two way street, the idea of 'the man of the couple' being the one to have to do everything and be the one to provide everything is a bit outdated. Given plenty of women work and have decent careers now, I would rather be with someone in an equal partnership.

My last girlfriend, I earned more than she did, but we both have jobs. We went for a day out at a local attraction once, I insisted on paying the entry, so she made a point of getting us both lunch. We split most responsibilities or costs fairly equally and it worked well. It's the 21st century, equality is a thing now.

[ChefCurry]

@David291185norris LOL

[Clarke498]

40 likes, 0 dislikes :)

[ChefCurry]

@Clarke498 female entitlement pisses everyone off even females. Even tho females still feel this way but are unwillingly to admit it

[OlderAndWiser]

If he was not your boyfriend, you would have been faced with a bill that you could not afford. He offered to help you, he did the labor for free, he is only asking to be reimbursed for what he spent on the parts, and you are complaining. You feel that since he makes more money than you, he can afford to pay for that, and therefore he should pay for it.

By this logic, he should also pay your utility bills and buy you groceries, right? Maybe he should occasionally pay your rent. Is this the way that you think relationships are supposed to work? If you want someone who will take care of you as if you are a little girl who can't take care of herself, what does he get in return?

Think about this from the guy's perspective. How attractive is a girl as a long term partner if this is how she behaves?

[Cynicaldreamer]

It's more than fair! He offered to fix your car for you and for cheap... paying for the parts is not asking too much out of you. Hell you should pay for the parts and offer to buy him dinner or something!

Trust me, if you went to a mechanic they sure wouldn't give you that kind of deal.

[EmmaMary]

You should be damn grateful that your boyfriend is skilful enough to undertake actually repairing your car.
Now, do the decent thing and Pay Up for the parts/materials he got for you.
On the other hand if you can't afford to run your car, sell or get rid of it.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[sejla]

Pay for the parts unless you share the car.

[the_Hofius_]

It would be different if you were married and shared the bank info. Cause it'd be coming out of the bank from both of y'all. So it really wouldn't matter. However being a son of a mechanic and a noice mechanic myself. Someone has to pay for parts. Parts are cheaper than labor. Labor you have to factor the time and energy spent on it where as the parts are cheaper. Say if was a job to say replace a belt for your fan and maybe a oil change that'd cost maybe about 20-25 dollars depending for the belt plus about 15 bucks for oil (the kind meant for your vehicle type and engine). So far the totally is maybe $35-40 at most. Where as you add the cost of time and labor that's like an 5 hour job minimum and a shop for labor charge $25-30 per hour. So just for labor it'd be $125-150. So in total parts and labor you're looking at a minimum of $160-190. (Tires are even more expensive around $200 per tire depending on size and make). So be glad labor is free. And again someone has to pay for parts. He took money out his pocket probably and bought them he just wants you to repay so he can save it and make it grow even more.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Um, yeah. He is going out of his way and doing a favor for YOU. Now your going to show how ungrateful and self entitled you are by bitching that he did all the work for you for free and has the audacity to expect you to pay for parts? How self centered can you get?

[Bri070]

Smells like entitlement to me. She needs to stop using this guy and find another more suitable for her.

[cavmanier]

Yeah it's totally reasonable for him to do the work and have you pay for the parts. He still did you a big favor. I would have likely bought the parts for my girl, but there's nothing wrong with what he is asking. I would not want to support a gold digger type of girl. I'd want to pay for them just to be nice.

[Skelmir_Nathair]

Do you know what labor rates in the shop are? That is most of what you pay for with any repair job. He just saved you a butt load.
Yes you should pay for your parts. Ita your car ans your responsibility.
Try simply being grateful for what he does for you. Instead of demanding more.

[etf0nehome]

I'm sure you'll downvote me for this... But isn't it unfair of you to ask him to pay to do work for you? He's saving you a fortune on labor. in my opinion he's already going out of his way to help you and you're being ungrateful. If you were his wife and you two shared the costs of everything then yeah, he should pay for at least some of the parts. If I told my girlfriend that I could fix something so she doesn't have to pay for the service and she said I should buy the parts to fix it too then 100% I would dump her. He's already doing you a favor... why should he also pay out of pocket for something that isn't his fault or responsibility?

[spartan55]

Wow, you have some sense of entitlement on you wtf? What was the repair? Labor rate for a car mechanic is $$$$. Your boyfriend did you a big favor... I really hope you didn't ask him to pay for the parts already?

[FakeName123]

I have nothing to say to this other than I hope your boyfriend breaks up with someone as ungrateful as you are as soon as possible. There is a word for people like you that starts with a T and with a specific word that pepole get when they suffer from dermatitis.

[FakeName123]

@David291185norris

At least I have a functioning dick, mate.

[goaded]

Titch?

[FakeName123]

@goaded
Then it would have started with a B.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't pay for labour, but you should DEFINITELY pay for the parts. I don't understand why you think you deserve to get off free?

Wow, I just re-read & he's not even charging you for labour. You're just being ridiculous.
It's YOUR car. Pull yourself together girl, you would've been charged both labour AND parts if you got it done professionally.

[Unit1]

Finally! A woman with common sense!

[Hurlyburly]

It is YOUR car. Why do you expect him to pay for the parts? That's ridiculous. Instead you should think of a way how you could return the favor. He invested his time to repair your car after all

[admles]

You can't be serious.

He's already saved you more money than you would have had to spend, and you're expecting him to save you more?

Grow up, pay your bills like an adult, and do something nice for your boyfriend for sacrificing his time like that.

[LalofromLA]

Well maybe if you don't want to pay for it, ask if you could pay him some other way (and I don't necessarily mean something sexual. Food or something else would also work). He offered to do the labor for free, which is by far the most expensive part of taking a car to the shop to get repaired. Depending on what broke, the parts themselves shouldn't be expensive relative to what you paid for it.

As for the principal of it, I couldn't tell you if he's in the right or wrong simply because I don't know how your relationship is. Personally, if the damage was my gf's fault, I would definitely charge her the parts so she learns from it and doesn't do it again. But if it was like just wear and tear or something out of her control, I wouldn't mind doing everything for free.

[Bluebot]

ofc he expects you to pay for the parts, its very generous of him to do it without charging for labour. Any decent human being would greatly appreciate it and gladly pay for parts only.

[VaIiant]

You think just because he makes more, you’re entitled to his money? Jesus, woman.
Your boyfriend sounds incredibly sweet. He’s doing this for free. He did not “charge you for it”. He is not going to buy you car parts randomly.

Be grateful, buy the parts and shut the fuck up.

[Izumiblu]

Lol whut. Seems like you should pay for the parts and then take him out to dinner as thanks

[Glue-Sniffer]

I don't understand why you think you shouldn't pay for your own car?

[Grobmate]

It's your car not his. Free labor is very kind of him. Yes, you should pay for the required parts. Not him.

[Seket]

Of course it's fair. He is not your husband yet, he can refuse paying for something.

[Anonymous]

I think it is completely fair that you pay just because he is your boyfriend and he makes more money then you doesn't mean jackshit you guys aren't married and it is your car so yes it is fair that you do pay him

[highjinx]

if you dont pay then maybe a BJ and call it even.

[Opinion Owner]

@highjinx no she should pay

[bamesjond0069]

@highjinx how is a bj paying? She is giving him bjs anyways. Sex is never a bargaining favor.

My new girlfriend tried this the other day saying she give me a bj if i did something. So i specifically did not do it and said you will give me a bj anyways and then she did. That is wrong wrong wrong. Sex is mutually beneficial and not something you should give a monetary value unless you are dealing with a whore.

[Opinion Owner]

@bamesjond0069 🙌 totally agree

[Kiran_Yagami]

@highjinx BJ? Try anal.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

@highjinx Maybe if they were both like 15 years old and still in high school then that might be considered a fair trade. For two grown ass adults, using sexual favours as a bartering tactic is just sad.

[highjinx]

@Kiran_Yagami ass gas or grass no one rides free!

[wankiam]

why should he pay for parts... its your car and he was kind enough to do the labour for free but parts cost money and its your car