Why does my ex Girlfriend find reasons to contact me??

[wonderwhy]

We were togther for 3 years and broke up 9 months ago. She got a new Boyfriend right away and they got a place together. I stopped talking to her because I didn't want to hear about it or be involved at all. Months later she apologized for having had hurt me and tell me how nobody will ever compare to me. I appreciated it but stopped taking to her again after that.

So now every so often she will text or email me a question about something random that she already knows the answer to or could easily find out on her own. If it's not that it's something else. This morning she emailed me that she's buying a house (which there's no what she could be doing tthat BTW). So question is why does she do this and what is she really saying. I just answer her questions and leave it at that. Why does she do this though?

[Quadrophonic84]

Obviously her new guy is a rebound which usually means they have a lousy emotional connection. If she was with you for 3 years you two probably had a good one. She misses that because all women (once they get their fill of your cash and penis) ultimately remember they are emotional at heart.

I broke up with a Girlfriend two years ago and she instantly got with this other guy (a guy she was talking to while we were together and I think was trying to talk her into leaving me - that's not why I left her though). Just a couple months ago she noticed I released a new CD and using that as a starting point is talking to me about her every day life and health stuff. I answer her (like you) but I know she's sniffing around like a dog looking for crumbs on the kitchen floor. It's pathetic. That's probably what yours is doing. Plus she probably feels stupid + guilty.

[BlackBear18]

My friend, the reason why your ex-girlfriend is contacting you back so many times is because she might want you back as her boyfriend. Either that or she really regrets how the relationship between you two ended and still wants to be friends. But from the description of your situation it sounds like she wants to take you back as your boyfriend. What you do now is up to you my brother. Hope my advice has helped and good luck on your situation.

[columbiafutueralumni]

She still has some attachment to you. You must have been special to her in a way even though she hurt you. You did something special to her and now she can never forget you, just knowing you are still...out there makes her happy. She wants to make sure you're happy, she cares about you somewhat. She may not even want to be in a relationship with you but sh emay want to be friends or at least aquaintances. Instead of just not talking to her, you need to explain that you do not wan to talk to her. You are only encouragin her when you respond.

[purple4ever]

Wow ... are you serious? The girl wants you back, I mean she's showing you all the signs, even you know she's bs when emailing you questions she already knows the answers too, so I guess the question you should really think about is, if this girl is worth your time? Not in a harsh way but if your willing to give your heart out once more, will it she do the same? Both of you starting all over again...if possible and if you want to.

[lillianAngie]

You offered something back than that her new boyfriend cannot offer now. She wants the best of both worlds.

[pincer]

Quadrophonic nailed it the other guy was the rebound guys gave her feelings of security but not 'love', she wants you back. If you can understand that the other guy she got with straight away was just the rebound, then maybe you could forgive her.

if you are 100% over her...

then tell her crystal clear, call her/tell her face to face so she understands...