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When a single woman dresses "provocatively", she's showing she's available and has interest in getting together with men (actively or subconsciously).
It's like a social/biological thing. Like a peacock spreading his brilliant long feathery tail to attract a peahen. Like other animals who show off something they have to attract their mate.
That is why "these" men approached their gfs when they dressed "provocatively", they were attracted. And now that they're in a firm relationship, they don't want their gfs to continue the "provocative" dressing because they subconsciously connect it with the availability of their gfs, and they definitely don't want their gfs showing interest in other guys or other guys attracted to their gfs.
Smoking isn't a way of attraction but repulsion instead. So it doesn't exactly go the same way as clothing.
You wouldn't like your boyfriend doing something that attracted other single girls to him either
Well, I can understand because I am trying to understand where the man is coming from. A lot of people don’t think what if the same happened to me they just think about themselves. I think if you don’t expect him to behave a certain way then don’t behave it yourself. Personally I don’t even like to show cleavage because I think it is tacky and cheap looking. I used to wear very short tight skirts in my early teens, I don’t anymore. I think it’s so much more elegant and classy to dress like a lady. It looks so regal. There is nothing wrong with a shorter dress or skirt as long as it doesn’t show your bum. Also skin tight clothing is a bit meh kind of gives people the wrong impression and they will look and try to make advances towards the woman. If someone is showing cleavage and bum they’re definitely trying to get attention I mean there is nothing innocent about it and I wouldn’t be friends with cheap people who dress like that either.
Not all women who dress provocately are on the market, simply feeling good for themselves. There’s nothing more self assuring then putting on that right dress you couldn’t wear for years, and knowing you look good.
@SarahElizabeth98 Well, I mostly agree with you for everything you said and appreciate your honesty and neutral thinking. The only thing bugging here is calling them cheap because people do that subconciously. Even if they think they are willingly doing it, it's a common thing for us to seek attention. I am glad that you saw through all that nonsense and chose to become better. Other than that I think the same as you I mean people do look elegant in long dresses like Elven king Thranduil, Elrond, Arwen, Legolas XD. And men wear suits on most occasions which cover their whole body while making them look all classy, why don't the women compete with that right? A bespoke suit always fits😉
@Kaytiee You are right. Self-assurance makes you feel great. But as we are generally speaking, I did not take those women in account just like the asker didn't take those men into account who let their gfs wear what they want. Thanks😉
Insecurity, or they think she’s looking for new or better attention through the way she dresses.
In reality what is the reason one dresses provocatively? It is seductive, it is for attention, it shouts out “I want you to see me and want me”. Whether she sees it that way or intends for that is up to her.
It’s not really fair that we generalise how people dress means certain things, but it is the way it is.
We think you’re going to cheat, is the bottom line. That we’re not good enough so you’re looking for better company or attention, etc.
There are a lot of women doll up just for the sake of making other women jealous, not necessary for men's attention.
To be honest if I knew a woman would do that, I wouldn’t want her anyway. I see that as being toxic to other for no real reason. It’s not always a contest or competition to see who’s “best”, or “better”.
I can understand why, though.
I think the answer lies in the intention, or his perception of the intention might be misunderstood. A smokers intention is to get their fix, what is the intention of wearing certain clothing? To you it might just make you feel better, to him it could seem as if the intention is attracting a better prospect. Communication as usual is the key to these issues. If you clearly align the intention, and are honest, and he discounts it, height lack the required maturity to be in a serious relationship.
There are some guys who smoke just to appear "cool"
Absolutely, but it took communication to come to that conclusion...
I really think your question should have begun "why do SOME men..."
Most men don't mind.
As to those who do mind, I think it stems from a combination of controlling behavior (they might find it difficult to keep her attracted to them because they are not very interesting/exciting themselves) and/or insecurities (they fear losing her).
Sometimes it's not insecurity dude it's love. Even girl is average girl and if he finds another man if you love her would you say okay i can find another one? Even you look like Brad Pitt you would feel bad of losing your love. Then after some time you could move on.
*if she
I think it depends on their assumptions. One might assume that a given woman just dresses the way she does, in which case it would indeed be ridiculous to expect her to change once she's in a relationship.
However, if one assumed that she wears revealing clothing in order to attract men (because the world does revolve around us after all) then once her revealing clothing successfully attracted a man, he might not see any reason for her to dress provocatively except to pick up another man.
That's my guess anyway.
It's a insecurity thing and they feel that she is seeking attention from other guys. It doesn't bother me considering for the most part she is coming home with me , Now if she was barely ever wearing revealing clothes while she was with me but starts wearing reveling clothes to go out with her friends Then that's a Red flag, that she is up to something and seeking attention from other. guys behind my back , so it just comes down to her actions
I wear revealing clothes even when my partner is not with me but I will make sure I look tasteful, not the hooker type of dressing.
Then he. has. an insecurity problem and needs to get. that under. control or u will get fed up and leave his ass lol
I can't relate to your question for these reasons -
IF a girl wears clothing that is TOO revealing, I'm not going to pursue a relationship with her because right off the bat, she's not going to be "my type".
IF a girl wears clothing that tastefully shows off her assets in a classy way, then she's got me.
That being case, I'd still want to see that in her choices for clothes and I'd have no need to do try and restrict her choices. She knew what she was doing before, and she knows what she's doing now. I'll just sit back and smile.
It sounds like you already know WHY they get upset. I don't really get why you are asking this question. But I will say that you should respect him when or if he does get upset because that shows he doesn't want to lose you, and maybe he lacks some confidence. If you wear revealing clothing other men will find you attractive, if you are indeed attractive. And when that happens some men will try to flirt. The same way you don't want anyone flirting with your husband, or boyfriend. He doesn't want anyone flirting with his wife, or girlfriend. So if he worries that you will be more of a target for flirtatious single men, you should take that as a sign that he wants to defend his love for you more than anything else.
That's not the issue. We all need a good loving bf/hubby. The main issue here is a man pursuing a woman despite knowing how she tends to dress up and then acting like something is wrong with her. Isn't it hypocritical? I mean, why even choose to be with a woman in the first place that you believe dresses in way too revealing clothing? Why not date someone that wears modest clothes to begin with? Or maybe you won't talk about it because you realized that you probably wouldn't be approaching her in the first place if her revealing clothes didn't entice you enough 🤷
You aren't asking to get an answer your asking to argue your own opinion, because of that I'm not going to reply anymore, I've already given you my answer. You know my perspective.
I already got your perspective, and you really have to start questioning if it's hypocritical or not, because it actually is.
Hypocritical how? You wear something slutty to go to a bar with your boyfriend and he gets upset because guys start hitting on you, you can't fucking blame him. No one wants some other lonely mother fucker to hit on their girlfriend. the same way you don't want some slutty bitch hitting on your man. Besides of the first time I met you, was when we were in a library studying for a test, and you were dressed like you had self respect. I could start dating you and think you only dressed immodestly to impress me and such. And most people don think nothing more. But after you've already been dating someone for a while you don't have to impress them anymore. All your doing is impressing everyone else around you, who thinks you're a single hot slut, because your dressed like one. If your boyfriend gets upset that you dress like that he has the right to. And that's not hypocritical, look of the definition of a hypocrite. He'd be being hypocritical if he told you not to wear revealing clothing because it attracts other men. And then you told him not to wear extremely tight shirts to reveal his muscles, because it attracts other women. Or something like that. You have no right to be upset just say okay and move on if you actually love him.
It is hypocritical in a sense that you yourself hit on women for their revealing clothing and choose to date women whom you saw wearing clothes like that from the beginning and then acting like you have a problem with it later.
Your dumb
So dumb you don't know Your, is supposed to be you're
Are you talking to yourself at this point 😂
Partially yes, but you are infact not the brightest crayon in the box.
Never claimed to be one 🙄
It's controlling behaviour to want your S/O to dress a certain way and it's typical with insecure men.
If you feel you cannot trust the person you're with then you do them a favor and dump them. Just because someone's sexy doesn't mean they have no self control, we're not neanderthals anymore although some people seem to not have evolved past that stage.
Let's say a woman wants to go out naked would it be controlling or insecure of a man if he doesn't want her to do that?
What's the difference?
@ThisGuyDucks I doubt anyone sane would go out naked. It's controlling because you want to control how someone dresses, if you can't see the problem in that then you are part of the problem.
I've had guys hit on me when i've been in a relationship regardless of wether it's July and i'm wearing short shorts or December and i'm covered top to toe. Neither of those times have I done anything but kindly reject or simply ignored those flirty guys. Maybe if women hit on you when you're not single you'd have issues rejecting them and you're therefore taking for granted that all people have such non existent impulse control but that's not the case.
Okay, if you as a woman go out dressed revealing because you want attention from other men, is it okay if your boyfriend goes out and gives attention to other women who are also dressed revealing.
Is it controlling of you as a woman do not want your boyfriend to give attention to other women dressed revealingly?
@ThisGuyDucks lol nailed that slut
@alex_x988 You're both insecure incel pussies. Most women dress for themselves. And going up flirting with someone is hardly the same as dressing a certain way. One thing is others looking at you which creeps will do regardless of what you wear, the other is going out of your way to walk up to someone and flirt with them on purpose. You probably also believe a woman deserve to be raped if she wears a skirt in the summer because it's "revealing and shows skin". Bohoo. Get your insecure bullshit checked out by a therapist
If women dress up for themselves, why do they only dress up when they step out of the house?
Shouldn't they then be dressed up when they're alone in the house?
And incel? really? You're going to virgin shame me because I have the opinion that people shouldn't dress revealing and your partner has every right to be comfortable.
Well since you've resorted to name calling me already.
You stupid attention seeking cunt, go be with a cuck that would enjoy watching you have sex with other men whilst he jerks his dick to it, these kinds of men won't have any 'insecurity' about their slut or a girlfriend's dressing.
I'm sure your simp of a father enjoy when your rotten whore of a mother walks out naked.
I think anyone who rapes should be given a death sentence.
Just because I believe women and men should dress modest doesn't make me a bad person, stop assuming shit about me, I'm not a rapist.
You rancid fucking cunt.
I wish you weren't anonymous, so I would know what kind of a stupid fuck of a woman would interpret everything about me as negative as she could because I like modesty.
I really want to know who you are.
You deluded cancer
Lol we can totally see who's insecure now and triggered too. Psychotic dumbtard bitch sod off.
They want us to wear a potato bag when we are in a relationship but then cry that we stopped caring about our appearance since we started dating them 🤷🏽 I did have an ex like that.
Thank God my fiancé loves it when I dress sexy when we go out. He knows guys might check me out but he also knows I'm his and no one else.
I like my girl when she wears a revealing dress... it's good as long as appropriate place wise
Men get upset because who else is she trying to attract? also who wants a bunch of guys gawking at their woman. I agree with your assertion, that they should go after girls who are already modest, if thats what they want long-term.
Its why I stopped going after girls who dress immodestly
Finally someone paid attention to the question lol
@VIVANT :) You can't tell a woman to change, it never works out! You gotta let her be, and if she wants to change to make you happy, she will do it on her own. :)
At least thats what my mom told me haha :p
Guys don't get upset when their girlfriend wears revealing clothing. They may get upset when they wear revealing clothing around other guys. They may get upset, because they now what guys tend to think when a woman is wearing such clothing, and they don't want other guys having there thoughts about their girl.
Couldn’t agree more😊 I don’t think it’s rigjt for women who are taken to go out dressed so revealingly like in their bras if they have a man already... why should other guys look at your partner like that and end up potentially cheating on u?
@Gstacy1989: makes sense to me. Though there are some guys who like other guys to see a lot their girl's body, because they get some kind of thrill knowing other guys want her. An ego thing, partly. But it makes no sense to me, to have other guys seeing a lot your girl's body and lusting after her.
This is a huge gray area. Lots of variables. 1st and foremost you don't want unnecessary attention. Men are dipshits. You look sexy, say hi a certain way and you may have just put yourself in danger, orñ just bought yourself your own private stalker. Lol.. really tho. Be careful..
Next, you were single too when you guys met. Means you were looking for attention. Little birdie named insecurity just whispered in his ear "why she still look like she's looking for a man, maybe you ant good enuf".
Also, everybody likes a compliment, so yeah, show some skin, remind him that you deserve his attention.
A woman can dress for herself men... sometimes feeling like you're pretty is. You guys are just as bad as we are so back off...
They don't realise that girls enjoy dressing sexy and it's not necessarily to attract guys, we just like to look pretty for our own confidence etc.
All the guys that downvoted you can't believe the AUDACITY that... *Gasp!* Not everything women do is to get attention from men.
@amanda_smith Haha I know, amazing isn't it?
He's embarrassed of her showing her body to the world with no shame and slutting it up. How can a man have pride for his girl if she's showing the world what God gave her? That's embarrassing to be around a woman with little class. A man wants a woman to show everything only to him. It's better to cover it up in public and flaunt it in private with her guy. Otherwise you are just like any other classless whore out there. There's no difference between you and a prosititue selling her body on the corner.
No its not hypocritical. The revealing clothing is a sign saying you are looking for attention from the opposite sex I. e. you are single and looking. When you stop being single and looking you should stop advertising yourself as if you where single and looking otherwise your just disrespecting your partner. That's kind of like saying that you agreed to go out with your boyfriend because he hit on and flirted with you ergo its wrong of you to be upset when he hits on and flirts with other women.
That is your story as to why she is dressed that way she may actually like the style
You should ask upfront if she intends to continue once in a relationship then make your decision accordingly. Not just assume it’s for attracting Guys and it will change.
Some people like their body and enjoy different styles that don’t hide it. I’m sure some people dress to attract but you can’t decide that is unilaterally true for all people.
@VIVANT That's not "my story", that is literally why you dress that way, you do not dress revealing for yourself, you do it for male attention, period. Any statement otherwise is just an excuse (after all, the argument is "its the styel she likes", then the question is why? Because it makes her "feel good", and why does it make her feel good? Because it causes guys to pay attention to her.). So yes its for attracting guys. So if you want your boyfriend flirting with every girl he sees that's fine, after all, he isn't doing it to attract girls, he is just doing it because he enjoys it and you should definitely ask him if he will continue once in a relationship rather then assuming that he will suddenly stop hitting on women simply because he is in a relationship.
Would you want your boyfriend/husband to constantly get hit on by other girls and dress in a way to encourage it? That is the reason. And the majority of women that dress provocatively while in a relationship are purposely trying to get the attention of OTHER men because they aren't loyal. If they truly just liked to dress that way then they would also dress that way on days when they are just going to stay home with their SO too. If they only dress that way wen going out, it proves they are doing it for attention from other men and are disloyal.
As @JimRSmith pointed out, it could be for him (which would boosted his ego amongst his friends to land such a hottie) or for herself (boosted her confidence).
But there's also chances she's wearing to attract other men despite being in relationship.
Unable to tell for whom she's dressing for is the reason men got upset.
Because of your first sentence. They dont want other guys who might be better than them to be interested in their girl. I think I'm a catch tho so o don't worry about it even if I maybe should, I like showing off her body as much as she likes showing off her body
I think it's wrong to ask her to change if it's her normal way of dressing. You have to love her for it since she's your girl and she dresses like that :D
I guess guys could become jealous if they thing she's using the outfit to flirt around :o
But often they'll just be afraid that may happen and stupidly overreact :o