Why do men get upset when their girlfriends wear revealing clothes? (Page 2)

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I want to emphasize here that these men approached their gf's while she was dressing provocatively. Isn't it hypocritical to ask her to change the way she dresses just because you are with her now. This indicates that you don't want her to get the attention from some guys like you since that is the reason why you were attracted to her before you guys decided to get into a relationship.  If I knew a guy is a smoker before I jump into a relationship with him, I can't expect him to change just for me which is why I don't date them. The same thing goes for the clothing issue. If a man doesn't like his partner to dress certain ways, get a girl who dresses modestly.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Are you kidding? Why do you think men seek out trophy wives? So they can hide them behind frumpy clothes and put a bag over their face? No, they want to be seen having a hot girl as their wife. And dressing sexy is part of that persona.

CarpetDenim · Answer

Because they don’t want their girlfriends advertising themselves as single and inviting other men to come chat them up by showing off so much of their bodies.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's not hypocritical at all. That's like saying it's hypocritical of him to expect you not to sleep with other men because he likes to sleep with you. Think about that for a moment.

Women who dress provocatively in public do so to draw male attention. Continuing to do so when you are in a committed relationship is saying you still want to draw attention from other men, which is disrespectful to your boyfriend. If my girlfriend did that and used the logic you did here, I would dump her in a heartbeat because it tells me all I need to know about her character to be sure she is not a good person and not someone I want to be in a committed relationship with.

Jammers14 · Answer

To the guys; What was your current girlfriend wearing when you first met her?  Was it revealing?  Or did her wardrobe become revealing after you started dating?

SpearsAndStones · Answer

Because they're possessive and jealous, i. e. "real men". The same sense of entitlement and poor understanding of boundaries that allows them to think they can tell women how to dress is what attracts women to them in the first place, because being a controlling dick might be really annoying, but it's also really manly.

Usernamesrdumb · Answer

Meh. I dont care what my girlfriend wears. She is free to do what she likes. But ill be the first to call her out for trying to shit test me on it. Just because i dont care what you wear doesn't mean i dont care about you. Freedom equality feminism and all that noise.

SufiStorm · Answer

U want man to give you the same space as you give them? And why dress revealing anyway if your man doesn't want it in a relationship. If you love him adjust. If you believe it's invading ur space let him go. But if next guy asks you the same, you'll be in same boat again. If you dress up revealing just to date or make people jealous you will only attract those kind of people who won't want u to continue afterwards.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Then the question should be asked would you be ok with your boyfriend dressing to impress/attract not you necessarily but the opposite sex in general be ok with you, even though he's with you?

I get wanting to look good and all that, I think everyone does, but you don't have to wear revealing, clothing to do that.

Aonisishopeless · Answer

The way you choose to dress doesn't decide your personality, men as a sex like being dominant and knowing that they have someone who belongs to them so they like to control certain things within their partners life to see the boundary of how submissive they are to them. But there is also the fact that by wearing revealing clothes they feel that you feel that others like him should approach you, frankly he's jealous that you would dress up nice for anybody including him kinda makes him feel like he's not important to you?

Ayer93 · Answer

It's not being possessive. When he met you, you were in single mode, which means you can dress however you want. Now you should be in an "in relationship" mode, which means not dressing to attract other guys. If that's your mentality on it, then maybe you're just not ready for a relationship if you want to show your proportions to the world.

chriss · Answer

Girls still get approached even if they are not wearing revealing clothes so it doesn’t make a difference. Getting jealous or possessive over that is a waste of time because you will still be checked out no matter what clothes you wear. The face doesn’t hide the beauty

Hanzo_Akuma · Answer

Well if he asked you to wear something modest is because he knows what others guys been thinking for his love and he would hate that. Plus you're in a relationship and if you're boyfriend doesn't like something you should try to collaborate with him rather than telling all guys have same type of minds. Well how will you feel if you're boyfriend is being approached by some chick who wore revealing clothes to attract your man.

Anonymous · Answer

If I'm wearing revealing clothing and in a relationship, it's because I want to look attractive for my boyfriend lol

Lavinnykins · Answer

Well said. It's very much a case of control where he obviously doesn't want any other guys looking at his girlfriend.

Ashalia · Answer

Typically Male ego lol you're "theirs" now this "off limits" and incapable of telling men that yourself. If a man is telling me I'm dressing to provocative I take it as insecurity and move on.

silvermoon84 · Answer

To me it’s about as dumb as meeting a guy at a bar, getting serious about him and complaining about his drinking habits

Kurαȷ · Answer

Why would a woman desire "attention" from other men while in a relationship? But you are right, if you pick up a skank, don't expect her to turn into a lady.

hotmom32 · Answer

because some men seen to feel like they own their girlfriends and can tell them what to wear or not to wear. I am married but if a guy ever told me what I couldn't wear I would have dumped his ass so fast.

Harley63 · Answer

Do you know this is a touchy subject but translate okay I'm going to try to answer this the best that I can okay now it depends on how provocative she's being now if she's just trying to show off a little cleavage that's not much but if she's going all out and up Kutner tops all the way down to where you can practically see everything and wearing you know things that just is very revealing then in my opinion she's just trying to get men's attention and if she's with somebody I don't believe she should do that that way that's my opinion I mean because all she's going to do is cause problems because in the way I see it if she's going to wear that kind of provocative clothing all she's trying to do is get attention from other men

Jjpayne · Answer

It might imply that she is looking for attention from other men and let me be clear, there are girls that do this, they like to play the field, it happens

a girl came up to me and a friend and closely and sexually slow danced with us in front of her boyfriend with a smile. Maybe making him jealous or just wanting to have fun

VaIiant · Answer

Wouldn't know. I only wear provocative clothing while going out, and when I go out, its with my boyfriend, who gives 0 fucks and just compliments me.

Omar5881 · Answer

I'm not fond of revealing clothes but not because it attracts other males but for other reasons , but I'd never expect a girl to change her behaviour or the way she dresses because she's in a relationship with a man , if I liked her this way then she stays this way , now people who expects someone to change for them are kinda ignorant and controlling tbh

JohnAlaska43 · Answer

Its not cool women like to flaunt their bodies in a relationship. But your right guys shouldn't be with them either. You can't change a person by demands. they either want you or she's going to dress to slutty and flirt with others.

Anonymous · Answer

Isn't that logic the same as saying, "why would you be upset if your partner still has a Tinder profile active after you're together? If that's how you met then isn't it hypocritical to be upset that (s) he is still on Tinder?"

lonquito · Answer

I think, it is a good think to the releationship, because we are gonna be honest, if we see a girl whit revealing clothes its gonna be more atractive than the girl who doesn't use it, and how we now that. We are sure that if our girlfriend use that types of clothes, another asshole can get close and start a friendship but whit intencions,

signalfire55 · Answer

For me I love if I go out with a stunningly beautiful woman.
If she got an attractive body then show it off some.
Not only does it make guys jealous that I have her on my arm and up next to me.
It makes other women look and wonder "what the h*ll has he got in his pants to have a woman like that"
😊

coolbreeze · Answer

They get insecure of other guys checking her out and listing after her. True if a guy knows a girl dressed like that dating her then its like it's hard to make her change.

Loving_Husband · Answer

I actually like it when my wife dresses provocatively and wears revealing clothes.

tzdc21 · Answer

My question is why continue to dress like that when you know you have a man at home? It's fine to do that if you're single sure, but in a relationship, no. In his mind that's putting a for sale sign around your neck when you're already taken, and that is just flat out disrespectful.

FakeName123 · Answer

Depends on the level of revealing - but essentially by wearing revealing clothes a girl puts herself on display with her sexually attractive body-parts. This is something that would be done for mating - but if you are in a serious relationship there shouldn't be a need to do that anymore.

elizamichale1 · Answer

You are absolutely right and said it perfectly honey

Anonymous · Answer

I asked my wife to show her breasts more as it was a fuck you to other guys since she was mine. She wouldn’t do it as she didn’t want the attention. But I will say, it can cause problems for the boyfriend as some guys might get aggressive and hit in her which will lead to a fight... some bitches might like that. And my wife was a smoker when I met her, she isn’t now as I helped her quit.

Anonymous · Answer

well even in the animal kingdom, "dressing" provocative is a way to attract a mate. Once you're with someone, it makes sense that they'd be uncomfortable if you keep walking around with the same look... lookin' like you're still trying to attract a mate while you kinda already have one.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Avicenna · Answer

I'd guess it's because they dont want lots of guys looking at and possibly talking to their girlfriend.

NightFlirt · Answer

It's the "You're mine now and I don't want anyone else looking at you" syndrome. For some reason they think that once you start dating them that they Own you and every part of your body is for their eyes only.

tatawvik · Answer

I think its basic instinct, which running in the male human species, which tends to save their partners from other male. Revealing clothes means more people will stare you inappropriately, which means more danger. But I think now a days it doesn't matter, nobody cares what you wear or not wear...

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think a woman like you should be in a relationship, you like attention from other men, your life depends on it.
You expect a guy to be okay with it.

The best thing you can do is to find a guy that would be fine with you having sex with other men or be polyamorous.

Stay single and go out naked, or don't date men who are possessive and protective of you.

someginger · Answer

I don't know being insecure, thinking that if she dresses sexy it means she's going to cheat. I don't know I personally don't care what she wears doesn't means she going to cheat

neoagent1 · Answer

I wouldn't be upset. I'd know she was coming home with me after the evening out in those revealing clothes :D

Cliftondbrown · Answer

Honestly the answer to this question should be very obvious. Very few guys want their girlfriends half naked in front of a bunch of other guys because it attracts the wrong attention. This is as silly as asking why don’t guys Want their girlfriends in porno’s.

LingyRolls · Answer

Not all guys. Mine has specifically asked me to dress slutty sometimes. It all depends.

Slim57 · Answer

I dont make girlfriends out of girls who wear revealing clothes so I wouldn't know

AD240pCharlie · Answer

Hey, if I'm with someone, I obviously find them physically attractive. Why would it bother me that I can see their cleavage? That's what I want!

veebee14 · Answer

Either their controlling or know there girlfriends a hot stunner and scared of loosing her for someone even better or guys approaching her and checking her out

brownvanilla75 · Answer

What if they are attracted to a girl bc she dresses decently... and after the relationship starts she wants to now wear revealing clothing? In this case, the guy would not be hypocritical for wanting his partner to wear non revealing clothes.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how often does she dress that way. If I never or almost never see my woman dressing in revealing clothing and then one day she decides she wants to wear revealing clothing I am going to suspect that something's going on. If I met her wearing revealing clothing and she constantly wore clothes that were revealing then I wouldn't think much of it.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m this type of guy. You’re wrong, I want everyone to see she’s gorgeous, but look more classy not ‘slutty.’
I want other people to see that my girl is a different level!
Also, I’d think it’s inappropriate if my parents saw my girlfriend in revealing clothing.

Let me give you an example. Imagine a pretty girl. She’s dressed in revealing clothing, I can’t help but treat her as an object and having sexual thoughts.

Now imagine the same girl, in longer well fitting clothing, not over done. I’d be more like, wow who is she? She seems classy, intelligent and modest.

To conclude, it’s all about the occasion. But I’m a guy, I never wear ‘revealing clothing,’ and it looks a million times better.

zagor · Answer

Probably because they feel that she was dressing that way to attract a man, and now that she has one she should quit advertising.

It is kind of like if you hire somebody for a good job with your company, but then see that they are still posting their resume to all kinds of job sites.

Guardian45 · Answer

Using your example, if you're dating a smoker. Both of you know smoking is bad. And you stay with them, hoping they will change. The smoker wants to quit, but has difficulties. You may want to assist them as best you can and make suggestions to quit. Do you see where I am going with this?

In the end, the smoker makes the decision, whether they want to quit or not. And you make your decision to dump them or not.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

They don't want other guys to stare or other girls to judge, but I have to agree with what you're saying.

Unit1 · Answer

I kind of agree with you.
If a girl dresses like a slut, she'll get perceived and treated as one. Simple as that 💁

I want a proper girlfriend, not a one night stand material as a (cheating) girlfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

Some guys don't understand that the level of attractiveness of your woman is the reflection to your attractiveness as man. I love when my partner is the most sexy girl in the club. If other guys stare on her... I'm proud because it's my lady.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Why do women get mad at their boyfriends for looking at women in revealing clothes? Insecurities and a feeling of disrespect i think its the same for men. It's always a bad idea to date someone with the hopes of them changing.

Neeceeb7 · Answer

Ya its just guys being insecure. And my tried and true answer dont try to change people

SilverRain92 · Answer

Why do the girl need getting attention from other guys when she is in a relationship? Would you be OK if your boyfriend would get attention from other girls? I know that too many girls are not comfortable with that. Same works for guys

Jaymal83 · Answer

If the man is planning to marry that girlfriend than he will care about her and not wanting to share her body with other men, that's a human instinct and that what differentiate us from animals. But if the man want just to use her body and pass to next one then he won't care about her sharing her body visually with others.

Jonad · Answer

Because they're idiots and don't realize it's for them. They think the girl is trying to attract others but it's just a mind game. It's supposed to be for the man, because men's sexuality tends to be based on visual cues at it's most primal state. But in the case that the woman is wearing revealing clothes intentionally to attract ANOTHER man well then, ouch.

Pink2000 · Answer

If you can’t handle a bad bitch then don’t date one.

hellacray · Answer

That's a good point you got there. But why does she dress that way to begin with? I'm assuming so she can get a guy right?

Like if I met you through a dating app and we're now a couple. Wouldn't it be wrong if I continue to use a dating app?

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