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My girlfriend just found about my sexual past and is upset about it. Help? (Page 2)
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You want justice for having lived as a slut? :D why a woman does, is she slut but a man not? Maybe you do not believe in double standard but you played with her feelings. Be glad she didn’t break up with you!
Well why did you try hiding it from her you should have been open and honest?
You know, some past encounters aren't worth discussing because they didn't mean much to you. What is going on with the person he's with now and how serious he is about her is what is important. That doesn't compare to how he was with those past people. It's not the same. He didn't abuse anyone. Didn't treat anyone badly. They ended as well as they could've. I'm sure if he had a serious relationship, he would've discussed it. Honesty in these cases often leads to hurt feelings over nothing.
But how it's worse no? wouldn't it be better to be honest?
My ex spouse kept asking me about how other men were in bed compared to him. I wasn't with them. I was with him. It was a bizarre question that I felt had something to do with his lack of self esteem and confidence. I wasn't going to answer it and possibly injure him. My answer would've. So honesty is not always the best policy.
Here's an example: Have you been with women more beautiful than me? Sure. So how were they more beautiful than me. Well XXX, YYY. So my XXX, YYY isn't as good as hers. I didn't say that. But you just said she was more beautiful than me and those parts of her is what made her more beautiful. I don't have those parts... What good is that kind of crap? What good is knowing it?
True but there's a difference between saying who's better and hirting the guys feelings or saying whether you were in any sort of relationship at all
I think important, valuable relationships are worth mentioning. I'm sure most people have a few. But if they weren't serious and you simply went your separate ways, I don't see the point of bringing them up. I had two of those. One bad one. My first. No others are memorable or important.
A bit weird that u slept with someone close to her even after the fact. But it sounds like she either thinks u r a lowkey player or the body count is important to her. Either way its something thats in her mind and belief and u got to put urself in a different light in her mind
Your girlfriend is very inexperienced and naive to take such a stance. She needs to face reality and not be so narrow minded.
You can't change the past so she's going to have to get over it. Have a serious talk with her though.
You have baggage and she gets to decide if she's willing to tolerate it. There is nothing you can do about it. It's all on her now.
I's already over my friend. If you stay together every time your late from work you'll be under suspicion. Move on and get over it.
You can't change the past, all you can do is wait for her to need you... if you really do want to stay with her after seeing her reaction to your past, that is.
@CubsterShura
I didn't mean cheating cheating is best up
You don't need to tell me its you're chose I'm smart enough to know that. Do whatever makes you happy in life I hope you find a good men. But just don't judge to hard
Judge too hard on what? Just said that if you want to have extramarial sex don't chase people who want to keep sex within a marriage and certainly don't lie to someone about it to get into an affair with someone whose beliefs on this matter aren't in line with yours. I can't judge or force people to do anything, but I can definitely choose who I wanna be with and who I don't wanna be with. Simple.
I don't care about my partners past. As long as she doesn't cheat on me and treats me well and I do the same for her I don't see the problem. I was under the impression religious people weren't supposed to judge others.
Look for someone less complicated. Beauty isn't worth the crazy. It won't get better.
Thats tough, because i had done the same before dating my boyfriend. But explain to her it was in the past, and you didn't find what you were looking for until you met her. You probably weren't in such a great place mentally.
You're just 16 and you have done casual sex already... What a disgusting slut you are and can't imagine what you will be in 20s or 30s
Lmaoo im 17 but yeah i have done casual sex. I had some rough parts in my life, and it doesn't concern you. You dont need to shame anybody for how they used to be
@alex_x988
You're only 19 and what a disgusting judgmental person you are. I can't wait to see the judgmental hypocrite you become in your 30s, like Joseph Smith Jr., Jim Bakker,, Joseph Bishop, Jimmy Swaggart, and many, many, many more
@Intraluminal idiot what are you doing than? Lol
Just treat her well, and give her some time and space to think about it, dude. Reach out to her in a a few days and see how she feels.
I hear you bud but just cause you have a past. Not your fault you got a big Cox and it's not her fault that she didn't know how to give it away that's life deal with it girls
You kinda made a mistake by letting her know. Its entirety irrelevant to your current relationship.
Congrats on finding someone abstaining till 23. That ain't common at all these days lol
Hahaha i am sure you would not date any woman with a higg body count
She needs to get her shit together and fix herself.
She says she isn't mad... She technically is but hiding it by making her distance.
This is a good lesson for everyone... If you cannot accept their past you should not be with them.. Regardless of gender..
Try to stick it out, but don't be surprised if she leaves.
Close the gap, talk to her. If you give her the space you think she wants she'll start to think you don't want her.
You dont deserve her, you manwhore. Go date someone like you. You probaply choose her for her virginity