To me its about principles and standards - would he be comfortable with me buying an ex underwear. Short answer - nope.
What do you think? I need serious direction here.
After seeing that he has children with the ex I would say that it is normal. Having children means that the breakup is similar to a divorce, even if they weren't actually married. My parents are recently divorced and are still doing stockings for each other in order to keep the normalcy for me and my brothers. I wouldn't find it weird for either of them to gift underwear to the other if that's what they asked for or really needed. You are dealing with someone who will always have another girl in his life. Having kids creates a bond that is not easily broken. If it bothers you that he bought her underwear you could ask him not to in the future and explain to him why it bothers you. If he doesn't listen and buts her underwear again in the future then you can be concerned.
Thanks for your comment. He is divorcing and I told him I thought it was inappropriate as underwear is an intimate item. He didn't think it was a big deal.
I understand what you're saying, he did have a long marriage and his complacency about this being a problem suggests he hasn't really moved on from the mindset of this 'familiarity'. For me personally, I can't shift the feeling of unease about this, and anger. A lot of anger!
That is odd that he does not want to buy you a gift, but is buying his ex a gift. Do they have kids together? I don't care long I've been with someone, I would buy them something.
Yes they have two children together (6 & 13), as do I from a former relationship (mine are 2 & 3). We mutually agreed months ago to not buy for each other so we could focus on the/our children instead, which I totally understand (Christmas is for them). I'm also a single parent. But then he tells me he's bought things for his ex, including underwear of all things, so like thats ok? I feel like a fool. I'm thinking whether to end the relationship after Christmas or not.
So he still talks to an ex. I don't deal with no ex if I'm in a new relationship period.
He has children with his ex and he says the purpose of the stockings is to keep the 'normality' for the childrens sake.
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I think you should break up with him to be honest. That’s completely unnecessary of him to do.
Doesn't sound like she's really his ex.
Creepy.
I think you need to dump this guy
He is dodgy stay clear
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