Sugar Daddy Relationships

Question

I am 22 and I am dating a 40 year old doctor. We don't have your typical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. We meet a few days a week and have a nice dinner and enjoy a few cocktails, and some passionate, GREAT sex to follow. I'm in college so he give me $6000 every month so I don't have to work and I can spend all my time with him...so basically he's my sugar daddy..

We have been doing this for about a year now...

What do you guys think of this?

Would you look down on me for having a sugar daddy?

Would you date a girl who had a relationship like this in her past?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As I was reading your question I could not help noticing the quote "I'm in college so he give me $6000 every month."  First, if, and I mean if, you are in college it is certain you are not an English major, I am guessing cosmetology.  The manner in which you write indicates that he does not see you as an equal and that is good for a proper sugar daddy relationship.  He will marry a younger equal, keep a younger sugar baby.  He is intelligent enough to know that you would die to be the "real" girl and already can't live without the money; however, a real relationship is never going to happen.  I keep a lady in a similar fashion, nice car IN MY NAME, nice home IN MY NAME, nice credit card IN HER NAME that I pay, latest and greatest cell phone IN MY NAME so I can monitor it and a lovely internet connection IN MY NAME so I can legally put tracking software on it so I know the second she types one word.  Essentially I own her and when I say she is MY girl, I mean it.  The current lady is in college, though since I came along she has dropped back to part time.  Most of the ladies I have kept were in college and I keep them for a year or so at most.  Most I believe believed that they were well on their way to getting a big rock for their finger, but alas, not so much.  My advice is to bank the money he gives you, live meagerly and be ready for THE DAY that is coming.  It will arrive sooner than you think but until then enjoy it for what it is.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's not even the age that matters.

I wouldn't "use" a girl for sex. I'm sure there are guys out there that would love to have sex with a beautiful woman, but far and few of them would actually "use" her for sex. Assuming that each slept with said woman, most would have genuine feelings about her, and want her as a person. Sure, you'll always have the "few rare cases that make the news," but that's because their acts are "newsworthy." In reality though, nearly all men don't "use" women for sex. Same thing for women; nearly all women don't "use" men for money.

That's exactly why this kind of relationship would seem disgusting to me.

If I ever found out directly from a woman that she did this in her past, I would (1) give her credit for being honest, (2) have doubts about starting anything long-term with her.

If I ever found out indirectly, I would stop seeing her immediately.

How can I trust a woman who allowed herself to be okay with using a man for money? Her past conduct just says to me that "at one point in time, this woman thought it was perfectly okay for her to be with a man for his money." Umm, I think I'll take my chances with other girls that may "think" about doing that, but never actually act out on those urges, or at least keep them under check.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Guys don't need to know everything in your past. These kinds of relationships are very controversial so I would just not mention it because most men WILL judge you and write you off just from knowing this.

I see nothing wrong with it. Many girls your age are falling for a**holes who are just using them and really not doing anything to benefit their lives at all, they just THINK it's love at least you're coming up. I wouldn't look down on you, sh*t if I knew you I'd ask how I could get one too!

It's funny how people will judge you for having a mutually beneficial relationship but say nothing to girls who have hook up buddies for free. Basically they are putting miles on their vagina and getting nothing out of it but a wet ass and some memories...or if the girl does have a boyfriend he probably can't do anything for her financially but expects her to do things for him. Girl get it how you live and f*** what haters have to say. MOST guys would use a girl for sex if given the opportunity but it's a problem if a girl gets money out of the equation? So she should have sex with a guy only if she likes him but he can use her? Please

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

IMO, to each their own. If you love it and you guys have a great time, more power to you. I tried doing the whole sugar daddy thing. I have met with and slept with around 10 older men that I met on a website. The first one I met, I actually dated and he never even gave me money.

80% of them were one night stands because I honestly hated it. And I was trying to find someone I connected with. Well that didn't happen.

They were all for varying sums. The most I ever got was $1000 for one session of oral. But that's in the past. I am disgusted by the fact that a man 2x my age wants to use me for sex. The money is great, but ultimately, it ended up not being worth it to me in the end. At all. I am completely disgusted by the whole idea of it at this point. I suppose it has a lot to do with the fact that I am in no way romantically attracted to older men.
I did it for awhile and thought it was a good deal, tolerating the sex part, but now I've gotten over it and I will never do anything like that again.

ray658 · Accepted Answer

I try not to judge others, and you're still young, having fun and figuring out what you want, but...

You may not want to disclose this to men that you take seriously as potential relationship partners. It may be something you can discuss later in a serious relationship if you feel comfortable, but I wouldn't go around bragging about it at first. It may make men feel that you will be after them for their money. Contrary to popular belief, your future boyfriend does NOT need to know everything about your dating life prior to him.

Also, you may want to think about how this will pan-out in the long run. If you break-up will he expect the money back? Will you feel a sense of obligation to him for a long time? Money can make relationships (even marriage) very messy. I know it seems awesome that he is helping you out, but it may backfire if you're not careful.

Good luck!

WalterRadio · Answer

Sounds like it is working for you, but $6,000 a month is way above average unless you live in SFO or NYC.

There is also the problem that if he gives you more than $14,000 a year, he is supposed to pay gift tax on it and list you on his income tax return. One way around that is if he pays your tuition or other educational costs directly to your school, those amounts are not taxed.

I know several sugar baby - sugar daddy couples and they find it is just perfect for them at this point in their lives.

Quadrophonic84 · Answer

We all have our priorities. Some of us care about dignity first, others care about money first. And don't feed me your Santa Monica BS. I've lived all over California. You don't need $6k a month to survive as a college kid. What is your dorm Chateau Marmont or something?

katiesmuff · Answer

Well basically you are a VERY HIGH CLASSED WHORE, but more power too you. That said you are both consenting adults and if he thinks your twat is worth that much every month, take it for as long as you can. Just think of it as a business relationship and the fact that you enjoy the sex with him makes it double worth your time.

I'd do it for that kind of money

kgrrl2323 · Answer

i just hope he doesn't have a wife and kids deal on the side.  if not then it doesn't matter to me who you dated.  unfortunately it might not be the same deal for guys.  they might see you as a gold digger robbing the grave and that it might be all you're looking for in a guy.  it might not be the case for you but can you prove it?  or they would be intimidated by it. they might think they can't provide for you the way that your ex did so they would worry about that.

Anonymous · Answer

I have been in your shoes before, girl! I keep reading the guys saying "You're just using that man"...Trust me he's using you as well! It's not like He's forty and obviously make great money and he gets loving from a 22 year old girl...sounds to me like the man has it made! I wouldn't bet your last dime that a relationship will come of this...sorry..

But have fun with it! Let a man spoil you for a change!

GUYS: You can't honestly say that you wouldn't do the same if you had the money! Don't play dumb!

snowboarder720 · Answer

well the most important thing is, does it bother you?... You shouldn't judge YOUR relationships on how others think. If he makes you happy, terrific. If it makes you uncomfortable dating someone whos old enough to be your dad, then mayyybe you should reconsider your decision to date him.

Well, not everyone doesn't like gold diggers. But hey, you gotta do what you gotta do to be successful in this rough world.

justintime · Answer

Make the most of it. Be happy while you can. I'm sure he is happy.

What I think about it... I wish I was him.

Would I look down on you for having a sugar daddy... no. As long as you are both happy.

Would I date a girl who has been in a relationship like this... Yes why not. Part of lifes experiences.

Remember we are only on this earth but once and when we are dead and gone does anything really matter?

Have fun... both of you.

MileyHouey · Answer

I have used some sugar daddy dating service like Sugar Benefits which you can read about on
I have to say that I liked the men from there whom I dated, they were very nice and polite to me and helped me a lot. So, it can be a good option for you I guess. But be very cautious, of course...

Anonymous · Answer

i think it's fine..you enjoy being with him and he enjoys being with you.  some guys just like to spoil their women more than others. if you're really uncomfortable with the money thing tell him and see what happens from there, it doesn't automatically mean he's paying you to see him/sleep with him.

tex151 · Answer

So you met a guy who pays you 6 grand a month to hang out with him, and have sex with him, yup your a hooker.  Instead of getting paid by the hour or the night, you get paid by the month.

Remington87 · Answer

Omg this is really weird but you might be dating my god-father... He's been known to do date college girls in the area like so. Good guy, but still. LOL please don't tell me he lives in malibu... If so, GAG just hit a little too close to home.

chrislight · Answer

I'd never go out with a girl knowing she has been a lazy ho, it's a mind set and I know she'd expect to be spoiled without doing sh*t, she's just a doormat

Killfest400 · Answer

Basically, that's prostitution.  Yes, I'd look down on you for it, and I would not date someone who had a relationship like that.

Anonymous · Answer

How the hell did you meet?  When did you start exchanging sex for money?  And no, I wouldn't feel comfortable dating a girl who did his in her past, but then again she'd probably be uninterested in dating me since I'm both unable and unwilling to bankroll her to the tune of $72K a year for opening her legs.

natrickk · Answer

Having sex for money is one of the oldest ways to get by for people who don't have the will or means to make their own money. I'm not going to look down on you for it.

Nice222 · Answer

I think it is great. Nothing wrong with doing what you have to in order to get through school. And if you have some fun and good times it's even better. I certainly would date and marry a girl who had a relationship like this in her past. Maybe even while she was still doing it. As long as she could handle both relationships at the same time.

Chocobo93 · Answer

If you can see the relationship going for the long haul then I don't see any problem with it. I think it's really great that you can focus on school and such since he helps you pay for it.

Anonymous · Answer

aw. stop it while you can. every person is worth more than that. earn your money by a good and decent way.

bubblegumcandy2 · Answer

My mom wants me to have a relationship like this, I see nothing wrong with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think that I could respect a guy who needed to pay me to keep me around.

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