Well you have a major problem here, you see you do t have any right to complain about it because unless I'm mistaken it's women who have defined what constitutes abuse and if you try to stop him then you're effectively separating him fro a social circle and that's abuse.
Now, there is also another issue, do you have male friends on your social media, if you do then your also in an excel shakier position because of your hypocrisy why is that your allowed but he isn't.
You see then you are living in a glass House and throwing stones and your also part of a section of society that had changed things in such a way that your now being affected by those changes.
Wow slow the heck down lady.
You sound like a control freak. And that is exactly why he will end up cheating on you and destroying That unhealthy sounding marriage. Back off and stop being so toxic.
Who stresses their husband for connecting with their co-workers on Facebook? Do you pick and choose his friends for him too? Keep that up and you will be cheated on. I guarantee it.
Give the man some space and respect!
I say you are being unreasonable , You seem to have trust issues. Maybe adding his female co-workers on FB helps him to communicate about his work schedule that way he doesn't waste time driving just to write down his hours down. It can be useful. My grandmother would always say if an is a cheater he will find ways to cheat , He will never alarm his wife. I communicate with my male boss and coworkers on social media only to talk about business project presentations or sales goals and I'm married .
I wouldn't mind. My less mature and insecure self of the old would have been 100 percent against it. Now I'm like yah whatevs, cause I would never do anything inappropriate but if he did then it was bound to happen whether or not they're friends on social media.
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Some of my best friends are women from work. I've known them for years. I wouldn't dream of having a relationship with them though.
I do understand your concern though. My ex wife had an affair with her coworker. My ex after her did exactly the same.
If he has cheated then you do have need for concern. I reckon he probably wouldn't have added the coworkers if he intended cheating with them.
My ex was very covert with the affair for a long time. She certainly didn't add him on FB. Best way of telling is they change how they talk to and respond to you. Mine became arrogant and rude. They also stop having sex with you or cut it down dramatically. I tend to now look for red flags like that.
Facebook is for friends. You are trying to control who his friends are and it makes you seem very insecure.
Yeah if they make friends, it’s not my place to stop them. It’s just going to lead to arguments and him not seeing what’s wrong. It also depends on her reputation. If she’s known for being a homewrecker, I’d probably lose it, but if I don’t know her I can’t judge her. I’d be inevitably jealous, but that’s just Bc he’s my manz.
i don't think that you should worry to much about that. unless you start to see a change of behaviour or something.
we often car too much about social media that we let it controls us and our lives.
there's nothing wrong with having friends at work, someone to chat and vent about your worries in life. we are not machines, to produce only money. we need to have some kind of social interactions, that's part of being a human.
Idm my boyfriend having girl friends. I like to give people space. We're together but we both have our own life. I mean I have guy friends too.
His actions will tell me if he's worthy of my time. I already told him. He lies once, he forgets about me.
I wouldn't care, it is often just common courtesy. I know my boyfriend just accepts all the friend invites he gets and only deletes someone if their posts get on his nerve. Wouldn't want to be the unreasonable jealous girlfriend who makes drama because of something so trivial. My relationships is based on trust afterall.
I mean without me knowing about it he don't have to run everything by me he does however I don't play when it comes to certain things like my guy talking to other women online or texting or even in public because some women can be really funny and flirt with your man even when you're there! I'm the jealous type because I care haha
I think you are overboard. I don't see anything wrong with adding friends on fb. I even accept strangers (depends on my mood) sometimes. Workplace are not just strictly for money. You can create great friendship in there and building connections to improve your career.
Honestly think it's a massive overreaction unless he is only friends with females of a similar age. I'm friends on FB with about 20 people from my last job, males and females and dont see why it should be any concern. Sounds like the issue here is a lack of trust
If he wants he can make friends male or females. Aren't you allowed to have male friends? So why can't he have female friends. Going to work doesn't mean you have to be antisocial. Having a good relationship with your coworker will surely brighten your day in the work space.
I dont do Facebook. However for my significant other, its a networking thing. I dont care at all. In fact I encourage her to. I like us both to be successful and make $.
If people are going to cheat, why the hell would you let social media tell on you? Its counterintuitive.
Lol. My best friend is also my coworker. Besides it's Facebook. I add random people I don't really know and will only delete them if they creep me out. Don't let your insecurities about Facebook ruin a good thing.
It's part of his experience as a person. Why would you make his world revolve around you? Sharing this meme cuz it's too real lol
No issue there, it's a social media contact, does not mean necessarily they are flirting, are you jealous or insecure about his behaviour on social media? Maybe have an open discussion first, rather than accumulating hatred or anger about social media contacts!
I don't think it's unusual to add coworkers on Facebook. She must be very pretty for you to feel concerned about it. Do they seem very close or like/comment on each others' posts a lot?
I think you're paranoid. There's nothing wrong with befriending coworkers on FB, as long as he's not obsessed with it.
I'd have no problem with it. It's just social media ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You sound pretty possessive.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
I have my coworkers on social media and it means nothing.
It should be a non issue. FB is the correct social media to add a friend or coworker. I wouldn't care if my s/o made friends just as long as they don't lie about it.
id be okay with it as long as were both happy and we get to see eachother and have a good laugh or anything together its a okay by me
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