For you, does a long term relationship mean commitment to monogamy?

[OlderAndWiser]

I think I know the answer to this question, but sometimes, younger users insistently tell me that “people have changed and dating has changed.” I don’t think the desire for an exclusive relationship is going to change just because you have a smart phone and a huge flat screen TV. But. . . I’m willing to consider the possibility that I am wrong, so. . . how do you feel about monogamy and a long term relationship? Does a long term relationship mean commitment to monogamy?

Yes. A long term relationship is based on monogamy!

Not necessarily, if both partners agree to having a threesome, swapping, or an open relationship.

No, I can love someone without possessing them sexually.

Other answer/explanation. (Please leave a comment.)

[coachTanthony]

A long term relationship for me does not mean a commitment to monogamy. I have had several relationships that were long term but not monogamous. I traveled 99% of my adult life and mostly dated flight attendants and others who were in my same spot.

Could they of been monogamous... sure but in reality they just were not. We were happy when we got to see each other and that was okay with us. Doesn't mean we couldn't see other people.

So my answer would be no.

[OlderAndWiser]

Makes perfect sense in those circumstances.

[Adam_INTJ]

Any romantic relationship means monogamy. You're not in a romantic relationship if you're not monogamous.

[cipher42]

I can assure you my relationship is very romantic, despite the distinct lack of monogamy

[Adam_INTJ]

That's a cute delusion

[cipher42]

And what exactly makes you think you know that my experience is a delusion? Can you explain how non-monogamy prevents romantic-ness?

[Cynicaldreamer]

Absolutely! If I'm in a relationship with someone, I'm only dating THAT person. And I expect the same from said partner.
I don't share well with others, and that includes the men I'm with, lol

All these people in poly and open relationships? No. That's not a real relationship.

[shane85]

Hi thanks, you got your point... you seem to be passionate and possessive... strong character... but your expectations may not change the person.. And no two person are alike..

[Cynicaldreamer]

@shane85 Which is fine! If a guy wants to be in an open relationship or date others, that's his choice! I won't try to change him and his lifestyle-

I just won't date him! I'll leave him be, as long as he doesn't try to screw with my heart and emotions.

[cipher42]

Lol just cause you can't handle a poly relationship doesn't mean it ain't real.

[shane85]

Thanks Cyni... U r tough... i can see... Feel sorry for your man... Ooops

[somonenice]

Absolutely right... I can't understand how come i love someone but its ok to sleep with another , They just can't admit that they only looking for more sex.

[cipher42]

@somonenice For one thing, it's possible to love more than one person. For another, it's also possible to love one person and to have sex with a different person. I just really don't get what's so hard to understand about that

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Ok to me for myself, a relationship and monogamy are one and the same. To each their own. I don't disapprove of others who have open relationships as much as it's I don't understand. Isn't the point of being in a relationship to be with that one person that completely gets you and fulfills you? So, no I'm personally not going to date people that are going on dates with others at the same time much less be in a relationship of any kind with someone that's going to have sex with anyone else. I'll share money if have it to spare. I'll share food. I won't share my man nor would I share what's his with any other man.

[sejla]

Yes it is the only thing I feel comfortable with. If someone I'm with wants to leave or be with someone else just tell me and we'll end it. We don't have to be tied for life but for the moment yes.

[nightdrot]

Voted "Not Necessarily," but that is not exactly the right answer. In fact, the answer sort of changed as my gfd's relationship with me developed.

We have been together for 14 years, living together for 12 and have three children. We are not married because, to our own surprise, the idea of getting married did not appeal to us.

We love what we share. It is natural and beautiful, and we felt that an expensive ring, an elaborate ceremony and a permission slip from the state needlessly complicated that. It just turned us off even though, in many ways, we are otherwise quite traditional.

However, when we started together I had come off a bad relationship - girl I had been dating aborted our baby without telling me. I was hurt and my mood would swing wildly. So when I got involved with my girlfriend I was not sure what I wanted.

So in what we call now our "Wild and Crazy Days" we were pretty easy going about sex. I had sex with other women, we did threesomes and - VERY long story - I had a gay relationship (and it was her idea!) I was having sex with a friend of my gfd's even while she and I were having sex - and there were even a couple of pregnancy scares. (My girlfriend too had sex with other men, but nothing like I was doing.)

It was pretty much out of control. My attitude was it helped me think that I was not fully committed to anyone. My girlfriend, who works in family law and policy and sees a lot of research, thought it was perfectly natural and healthy for a human male to want to have sex with as many women as he can. Even if not ideal.

Then, I am not sure why or exactly at what point, but I realized that I loved my girlfriend. I was enjoying the free sex. Great for any guy, I guess, but I wanted her and the sex I had with my girlfriend was the sex I enjoyed the most, that felt the best and that made me happy.

Long story short, and I say this in all sincerity, we lived happily ever after. My girlfriend and the three little gifts she has given me are the center of my universe. I would not mind sex with other women, and my girlfriend and I once, years ago, agreed that if I ever got a woman pregnant, or if she ever got pregnant by another guy, that we would treat the child as our own - a part of us.

It was kind of a silly promise. I only want her and she has said that she never wanted anyone but me - sappy as that sounds. So, long answer to short question, a long term relationship need not start with monogamy - but you will always want it to end there.

[JeffStryker]

Let's see... the divorce rate in America is about 50%. The two main reasons for divorce are money & sex. Monogamous marriages often result in cheating. I'm not sure how flat screens fit into this picture, but who knows...

Yes, times are changing. It's not from smartphones, it's because the human species is evolving. Women aren't as dependent on men for money, and welfare allows single mothers to have as many kids as they want.

Also, women are no longer the devils they used to be, back when they had to wear the "scarlet letter" on their chest. The slut/stud thing is beginning to even itself out, so that social stigma isn't as prominent as it used to be.

Granted, hookup apps have made hookups much easier, but I think the desire to hookup hasn't changed much. The number one best selling book genre of all time, is romance novels. That's porn for women. That Fabio dude riding the stallion on the cover, sure wasn't the husband of anyone in the story. But romance novels didn't make women go out and cheat, it just made them dream about cheating.

I think now, younger people are questioning the fairy tale marriages, and wondering if they even want that. Couples are getting divorced right and left, so it can't be all that much of a fairy tale.

But to answer your question... I don't want to be in a long-term monogamous relationship. But that doesn't mean it's going to be a free-for-all open relationship, either. It will involve inviting others to join us for fun times in the bedroom. It will be well structured and full of rules.

[BlessedDaddy]

Having been through 5 decades of sex with 4 of them fucking, I can tell you this:

Nothing had changed except that young people blame everything, and I mean everything and everyone for their actions and their lives. When people bitch and complain more, it seems like there are all these new problems. That's when cell phones and the internet do make a difference. Everyone has to hear it now.

The more things change. The more they stay the same.

Hookup culture?

It's called fucking and trust me, we were doing it too. Your fucking egos are out of control man. Sorry boys, no one is out to get you and ruin your lives and dating. Except for you.

[OlderAndWiser]

Amen, brother!

[Daniela1982]

I think a lasting relationship will be with monogamy. You won't have the possibility of someone else stealing your S/O away when they sleep around. It is not that dating has changed, it is because people are beginning to expect a relationship to be all about sex, and that is why they won't last. You get tired of or unable to have sex and your relationship is history. If it is based on love with a single person you have a much better chance of it lasting til' death do you part. 100 different lovers may make you better in bed but it will never make you a better person.

[AlienParasite]

Voted B, though I'm very monogamous. The thing is as a standard most people want a monogamous relationship (me included). So when we talk about relationships we normally consider they are going to be monogamous. However majority wanting monogamous relationships doesn't mean there aren't some long lasting relationships of switchers, open relationships or poly people.

I know it's harder for a non monogamous relationship to last but not impossible. Also a monogamous relationship can fail as much as any non monogamous one. At the end of the day a long lasting relationship isn't necessarily based in commitment to monogamy, but commitment to a shared values, a common life project and a same way to feel and understand the relationship.

[Daniela1982]

If a relationship is based on love, it will stand the test of time more than any one based on sex, which non monogamous ones are primarily based on.

[PrimalInstinct]

To me, a long term relationship can only be monogamous. It's nothing about being possessive it's about having respect.

A lot of pro-polygamy websites talk about dealing with jealousy. It's the biggest pill to swallow. Well duh. When your partner is shopping around the neighborhood & you're competing against the sexual prowess of others, of course, you're gonna be jealous. The fact is, a few ex-polygamous people on blogs more or less called their 'relationships' a (stressful, even demeaning) game of one-upmanship.

Funny thing is, in a caring monogamous relationship with respect jealousy shouldn't really exist.

[Justacatlady]

I think a relationship is whatever the people involved want it to be. If there is clear communication about what is acceptable and what isn’t, then that is good. Everyone lives their life in the way the fits them best so their relationship should be the same

[OlderAndWiser]

Understand all of that. The question is: "FOR YOU, does a long term relationship mean commitment to monogamy?"

[Justacatlady]

For me, it means I’m open to what I said above as long as it’s clearly communicated. I don’t have to monogamous but I do like it. I don’t have to have a partner that is either. If that person steps outside our relationship without talking to me first, then we have a problem.

[quizz]

As long as the boundaries are defined clearly I would be able to be happy in an open relationship. Sex is important, but its having someone to make your day suck less, having someone to make you feel needed, someone to hold when your cold or sad or scared. Someone to go through every day with you, and still want to.
These things are what fill a heart, the rest can be figured out.

[OlderAndWiser]

"Someone to go through every day with you," If your partner has another guy she is screwing, then she won't be with you tonight because she is at his apartment getting laid. She won't be there every day or every night.

[Oram52]

Does a relationship have to be a monogamous by default, not really. People are free to choose whatever type of relationships they desire, any for of non-monogamy or monogamy. I have nothing against it at all, and LTR aren't monogamous by default.

However for me personally I'm only interested in monogamous relationship, and such relationships are only thing I've pursued. I've no problem with non-monogamy but it doesn't mean I have any interest.

[Oram52]

Also if I remember correctly about 51% of people said they'd be willing to try open relationships, likely will ebb higher in younger demographic.

[OlderAndWiser]

Previous generations have been somewhat more receptive when they were younger but became more monogamous when they got older. Your generation depends on CNN, Time, Cosmo, and MSNBC to tell them what to think. Of course, organizations that have a liberal bias want young people to abandon anything that is traditional.

[OlderAndWiser]

Also, what people say they would do, and that they actually do. . . that's two different things. How many guys say they would like to have a threesome vs. how many actually do it?

[Oram52]

It'll be overly simplistic to say that somehow conspiracy theory about liberal media bias is poisoning young minds, its saying young people are incapable of thinking by themselves. Also such media should've had disproportionate influence yet we see no such evidence, even if clearly media is marred by propaganda, hence trust in media at all time low. Also young people get their news from social media.

Swinging or non-monogamy is nothing new, in the past people simply had to hide it due to societal repercussions. You were ostracized so people hid it, research goes back decades. Evidence does show non-monogamy is more prevalent in younger generation due to societal acceptance.

Traditions have no inherent value, they're abstract, product of our environment. Traditions are losing influence even in traditional cultures in Latin America, East Europe, Middle East, Subcontinent etc. With rapid progress and change there is no way to save guard traditions people have no interest in. Traditions need collectivism, traditions need to be imposed.

With triumph of Enlightenment Values and individualism, people desire individual liberty. Do what they desire to do without religion or culture shackling them, in such case its impossible to safeguard traditions. Life, Liberty and Pursuit of Happiness.

[Joe_Barbaro]

Of course it does. And anybody telling you people and dating have changed is full of shit.

Facts speak for themselves, and they are saying that human race is actually moving TOWARDS monogamy as we evolve. It's not natural for us (considering our primate roots are quite promiscuous in nature) but first we adopted it due to our consciousness and intelligence, but now we are actually being "rewritten" and it's slowly becoming the default setting for us. Promiscuity, many partners etc. are for the less involved, less intelligent species (and individuals).

Even statistics prove that promiscuous people are inferior in practically every area of life, and are much more likely to be in dysfunctional relationships/marriages, to end up as victims of depression and suicide etc.

[ShortCircuit]

Yes, I am a firm believer in monogamy. I ultimately don't care what other couples do, but third party sex of any kind is not conducive to a healthy relationship, and if a couple decides to have a threesome, let alone go "open", I reserve the right to say "I told you so", when it inevitably destroys their relationship.

[DiscomfortZone]

There is no such thing as a "long distance relationship". A relationship based on texts and webcams, without presence, without contact, without really knowing more than 10% of a person - is NOT a relationship. I have no idea what it is about this generation that encourages such desperate self-deception, but if they're gonna be that stupid the least they could do is feign a little dignity and refrain from whining about it afterwards...

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, but the question is about a long term relationship, not about a long distance relationship.

[DiscomfortZone]

Humph. Well, colour me embarrassed :)

[EmbraceThePain]

It has to be based on monogamy due to stability and practicality. There’s a good argument for the expedient nature of monogamy, which made it phase out all of the mating methods over time.

So, yes, long term relationship definitely only means monogamy.

[kaylaS91]

For me, I would only consider getting into a long term relationship with someone who’s down with being monogamous.

I get the appeal of being open and all but I’d only feel comfortable dating someone who I could see myself remaining committed to in the long run. I’d consider my having scratched that whole ‘openness’ itch when I was clubbing and all in my early 20s.

[Mickey9999]

Absolutely a long term relationship would mean commitment to monogamy regardless if it involves marriage or not. To me a relationship is based on all levels of intimacy not just sexual so if I’m going to trust you with my innermost aspirations, fears, and thoughts, you better believe I expect the same with our sexual intimacy. I realize that there are aspects of physical sex that some seek out to fulfill and that should be all based on a safe method of compromise. Not a what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her way of it.

[Sensmind]

I hope you are right and monogamy stays around for a long time. All these new fangled sexualities , I have no doubt that some truly exist but most of these young people are hopping on the bandwagon and 90% of them will be driving their kids to XYZ practice every Saturday morning come their late 30s

[Definitely]

Not necessarily. But if it's not monogamy you'll have to split your attention to more than one person. If you lack in time, that is an issue.
Of course, I'm talking here when all the people involved have agreed to it, as per the relation's definition.

[mat_username]

I didn't really know ho to choose between B and C. I personally think that open relationship can be good. And I definitely can love without sexual exclusivity. I think each couple should be able to define themselves what they want for their relationship.

[katiee01505]

It depends on what you or your partner wants. I've been with my husband for almost ten years now and monogamy is something that is important for us. However, when I was younger I was in a polyamorous relationship and it worked well for us. We were all happy and never had issues because we communicated and knew what we wanted. The same with my husband, neither us have ever had the need or want to explore other options (with or without each other) and both of us know that, if he came to me and decided he wanted to have a threesome or something like that as long as the person we'd do it with was someone I liked and respected, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

[jgokgotit]

God intended for us to marry one man/woman and only have sex when married. God's standards (which is the truth of the world) does not change just because humans want to do whatever they desire. Many more problems occur from not sticking to one person at a time than there is in marriage.

[SirRexington]

To me, being commited goes beyond voluntarily and mutually agreeing to have sex with other people or have threesomes. Commitment does not count if you are in an open "relationship" which I refuse to acknowledge as a relationship in the first place.

Monogamy is essential.

[ShyBoy05]

If I'm in love, YES. One woman will do. Always.

If I'm just having a Good time, I don't mind. But, if the girls find out, then, it's over. /:
Even if it's a "Free", Girls don't like to share their man. It has happened to me.

One time, I ask a girl to be my Girlfriend and she said "No", but, she was willing to have sex with me anytime, anywhere.

So, I started seeing other girls and the girl who said "No", started saying that I didn't wanted something serious that I was just a player.

I mean, COME THE FUCK ON! I asked her to be my girlfriend, she said "No"!
What am I supposed to do? All of a sudden it's my fault she didn't wanted to be official?

See what I mean?
Peace. (:

[leonidas69]

Long term relationship is only defining the relationship by time. So friendships count if they're long enough; mentors, teachers, personal trainers etc... What defines a relationship is not monogamy. You can have relationships that are romantically exclusive, monogamous and long term. But that is not the only long term relationship that can be defined.

[WhiteShoulder]

Definitely

If you have a boyfriend and you both wanna let each other hook up or mess around sometimes, I have no problem with that, but it's not for me. I'm a jealous little creature :-).

[KatherineJ]

Girl, me too! I am definitely not into sharing.

[WhiteShoulder]

@KatherineJ totally

[D2theB666]

Me too. Ain't nobody fucking my girl but me. Couldn't even look at her if she was fucking another douche

[Carbon-12]

You can have an open long term relationship. If that is what you both truly want, good for you. You can also have a committed, long term, relationship with three or more people. Like a relationship where three people are all exclusive to their other two partners. Again, if that is what you want, good on you.

That being said, I do think most people still want monogamous relationships.

[AzureGirl]

It’s true that things have been changing over the years and things such as polyamory is becoming more normal but nah, monogamy all the way for me. I don’t share and don’t want anyone other than my partner.

[Iron_Man]

Moral values don't ever change. The younger naughty kids today make it like get with the times so they can get a free pass from society making it ok to screw everyone in site and of course they always claim well he's my boyfriend so its ok. How many times are they going to use that excuse? Which is wrong at any times

[Serenity2014]

I believe monogamy is VERY important for a long term relationship. If I’m going to date, I would only date with the intention of things being long term.

[Agape93]

Chose B. I prefer open relationships and can’t stand monogamy, personally speaking.

[Agape93]

Ah well aren’t you a delight. Reported.

[Agape93]

Happy trolling

[Agape93]

Now is that truly necessary? Such harsh language oh my

[Agape93]

My oh my I am so offended 🙄 get a life and take a hike

[some101]

You are so sweet!! by the way where can buy a life? I might need extra one🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Agape93]

Figure it out. Any further communication and I’ll consider it harassment and I’ll get a mod involved. Good day.

[some101]

Thanks for making my day 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Agape93]

@wankiam
@OlderAndWiser

[OlderAndWiser]

I can't PM you unless you follow me.

[Agape93]

Ah apologies :)

[worldscolide]

Man you and I disagree fundamentally here but why the heck is harassment necessary..

[Agape93]

Disagreement is perfectly fine. Pretty sure I know who it is, and if so, it’s not the first time he’s done it. This was just the most blatant in a while.

[worldscolide]

Yeah I'm sorry that sucks..

[crazy8000]

Who are you really talking to with those 4 first comments on your own opinion?

[worldscolide]

@crazy8000 she likely reported them and the comments were deleted. The guy was being an asshole..

[crazy8000]

It's better to erase everyone in that case since she's gonna look like a mental patient from sing sing.

[OlderAndWiser]

@crazy8000 Admin keeps track of how many comments you have removed and if it gets excessive, they may terminate your account, so we don't hide the innocent user's comments, even if what remains makes them look mental.

[arabgoddess]

I'm old school in this respect so you can't change my mind about it

[OlderAndWiser]

I have no desire to try to influence your opinion. I, too, am old school!

[arabgoddess]

Lol I don't mean you.. No one can change my mind, though I am open minded, I can understand others but I find it hard within to change that feeling

[OlderAndWiser]

Got it!

[cipher42]

No. I don't need monogamy, in fact I'm rather happier being in a poly relationship. All the benefits of a regular relationship without any of the nonsense drama that can come with weird boundaries around monogamy.

[Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over]

It has, then it hasn’t, then it has, and now it doesn’t. And as you stated, long term relationship, so it is not a casual hookup. It has fluctuated according to my age, life experiences, what I want from a relationship, and my self-confidence.

[Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over]

@OlderAndWiser Also, I’ve learned you can’t keep a man who doesn’t want to be kept and people are capable of loving more than one person. I am not competitive. You don’t have to get all your desires from one person. That’s too much pressure. Lol

[CourtneyJane]

Yes it does. I've been cheated on before, multiple times by my first serious boyfriend the same year I started college and that pretty much destroyed me. I wouldn't inflict that on other people.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the dynamic. For myself, my own mentality lies more in monogamy than polygamy, and I could never have a short-term relationship that wasn't monogamous, let alone a long-term one. There are individuals who are polygamous, and they take better steps towards their long-term relationships (Communication being a big one) that monogamous couples are too afraid to take.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Yeah and it's the best thing in the world to be able to share your life and love with ONLY ONE PERSON

[tslater]

I don't know who I'll be in the future, so I guess I'm leaving this open ended
Right now, yes, monogamy is definitely what I want cuz that's beautiful to me. But, maybe my mind will be opened in the future, I don't know

[Flower7]

Yes, to me it means monogamy. I don't believe in open relationships.

[Moonchild714]

For me a Long-term Relationship and Monogamy go hand in hand pun intended... I'm not saying that is the case for everyone, some people live Polyamorous Lifestyle they have a different take on Relationships and that's great for them what makes them and their Partners happy is all that matters.

[anon1903]

Monogamy doesn't necessarily is a part of commitment. however, all partners in a relationship should seek consent to continue seeing their respective partners. cheating is wrong.

[Mustachekitteh]

Depends on what the couple decides to do, for some they make open relationships work.

For me then it would be based on monogamy.

[shane85]

Thanks.. Well said... Does it necessary have to be collaboration... When the outcome is same?

[Mustachekitteh]

@shane85 Both people in the relationship should have a saying in what each one wants.

[shane85]

Alright

[White_Widow]

I think everyone has their own perspective on this matter and that's it's the art to find a partner who has the same perspective as yourself.

[WhiteShoulder]

Very good point. Not everyone's perspective is the same on that issue.

Nice to see you back :-). I'm the former QueenOfCups.

[White_Widow]

Thank you on both.

Nice to see you too again! 🙂

[rjroy3]

This is one of those "only on the internet" things. By and large people believe in monogamy on average, they pursue that, they intend to have that life and will firmly disagree with the idea per their own life experience. That's most people.

Granted how many of them hold true to that is another question entirely

[Avicenna]

Yes, it's implied and a crucial aspect of the relationship.

[KatherineJ]

What’s the point of being in a relationship unless it’s monogamous?

[some101]

Exactly!

[crazy8000]

Some people doesn't open up for really deep feelings.

Some other's are just possessive and insecure, this group are the ones that makes most fucked up drama/messed up behavior.

[cipher42]

It's just like a regular relationship, but without worrying about insecurities surrounding monogamy. I don't know what's so weird about that

[DizzyDesii]

A relationship period for me is monigamous as long as we’re labeled bf/gf

[Jamie05rhs]

"relationship period"

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs no like a “relationship, period, ...”

[Jamie05rhs]

Ahh. That's an important comma, though. Lol

[kangy]

long term relationship means full commitment.
I am not keen in open relationships. I believe once u r in the committed relationship , your heart has to be committed too

[SPRGRL]

Well, for me if I get into a relationship is to be monogamous. If not, I don't start a serious relationship, just a fling

[Drumlin2001]

Personally yes. But everyone has their own thing. As long as your open and honest with partner and between you you can agree parameters if you want an open relationship thats ok

[pleasestopthis]

I voted B. Some people enjoy unconventional relationships, like open relationships.
Not my case because I don't want to sleep with someone beside my partner, but still.

[Physics-Man]

It absolutely is! I will never share the love of my life with someone else! Only I can enjoy and be intimate with her, and not any damn one else! She has to feel the same way as well! Open relationships aren't true relationships!

[txbiker636]

As long as it's the couple in control of everything together then I think it's ok, but only if totally agreeing on the terms

[OlderAndWiser]

Understand all of that, but the question is: "FOR YOU, does a long term relationship mean commitment to monogamy?"

[Meropatrick]

It depends on what people decide. Some couples decide an open relationship. But for me i am with monogamy as its the best way to avoid a nasty sti. And solidify relationships

[Browneye57]

Of course it does. Or do you just do anybody you feel an attraction to?
There are plenty of 'progressive' young people that think you can and should. When they implode their primary relationship then they stand there wondering where all the good men or women went to. Along and lonely. But they had their five minutes of 'fun', huh?

[just_a_potato]

I'm always monogamous but even more so if it's long term

[Daniela1982]

There you are. Wondered where you had gone to. Thought maybe you wound up Au Gratin or Hashed Browns or something.

[just_a_potato]

Don't worry my fair lady, I'm still kickin

[worldscolide]

Absolutely it does.. Open relationships signal the death knell of a monogamous relationship..

[Hurlyburly]

Any relationship means monogamy to me, not just long term ones.

[DiegoO]

It's equal to a functional long term relationship. Nothing functional comes out from polygamy.

[cipher42]

Polyamory can be plenty functional if the partners involved communicate well

[DiegoO]

@cipher42 until jealousy takes over.

[cipher42]

It doesn't, as long as the relationship is well balanced and involves good communication. The key is being open about needs, and making sure you're not spreading yourself too thin

[DiegoO]

@cipher42 we all are humans and you never get to know someone fully well, or predict others behavior.

[cipher42]

Yeah, sure. But that's an issue for any relationship.