Should I move on from someone who doesn’t appreciate my effort?

[AnimeNinjaFan27]

Should I move on from my crush who doesn’t appreciate the Christmas cards, Valentine’s Day cards, along with drawings of flowers, that I made for her? We used to be co-workers and now she wants nothing to do with me, but keeps everything I made for her though. Wouldn’t it make sense to give everything back, when you want nothing to do with me anymore? Do girls really hold grudges forever?

Yes, move on from her because she doesn’t appreciate what you’ve done for her.

Move on, but give her space for awhile, then try talking to her again.

[MrOracle]

It seems clear that if we had HER side of the story, we'd hear a very different tale.

People aren't obligated to you in any way unless they agree to be in a relationship with you, and it seems that that's not the case with this girl.

You need to learn the lessons that:

• You don't do special things for a girl you like UNTIL you start dating her. You can be nice to her, but don't do her a bunch of favors or give her things, etc. Save that for when you're IN a relationship
• If you DO do something nice for her, that doesn't obligate her in any way - not even to saying "thank you" and certainly nothing more than that.

You're putting the cart before the horse - out of order - and so it's not a surprise that it's not working for you. You need to ask out girls MUCH sooner, and don't overly invest in them before you ask them out. Just because you like a girl doesn't mean she will like you, and doing a bunch of stuff for her or giving her gifts usually won't change that - so FIND OUT FIRST if she likes you or not, and save the "extras" until you are dating.

[Flower7]

If she held onto the things she gave you, then that means she most likely appreciates them. Just because she might not be interested in you doesn't mean she wasn't happy about the effort you put into making thoughtful handmade things for her.

And no, it wouldn't make sense for her to give these things back to you. I mean, what would you do with them? They have her name on them and can't be used for any other purpose.

But if she has told you that she's not interested in a relationship, it's best for you to move on. The information she has told you about how she feels holds a lot more weight than whether or not she decided to keep the holiday cards that you gave her.

[Isten]

Wow, there are so many wrong things in this post and none come from the crush...
Dude, you never dated. What did you expect? That she would fall head over hills for you because you drew her a flower and gave her a "happy V day" card? Those are simple, cute gestures indeed, but to expect reciprocated feelings because you did those? Oh c'mon, you must know better than that at 27. Also, because someone appreciates the things you did for them doesn't make them obliged to date you...