What do you do if someone wants to be your boyfriend/girlfriend but you don't feel the same way?

[Jjpayne]

I had a dream about it 😂

[Cynicaldreamer]

Politely turn down them. Tell them you're flattered they feel that way about you, and you like them- just not in that way.

I rather be upfront than lie or make up some excuse. And go from there.

On a sidenote- Please don't say, "Let's stay/be friends..." because all of us that have rejected don't want to hear that! If we decide to stay your friend after we've moved on, that's different.

But the last thing I want to hear after being rejected is the infamous, "let's be friends" speech.
Most of us DON'T want to remain friends with someone that rejects us. It's nothing personal; we just need to sulk and need time to get over you. That and being friends while you date or crush on someone else sucks.

[DanaeAdam5]

I would POLITELY tell them that I am not interested in them like that.

The word politely is written in capitals just to remind you that asking someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend needs a lot of courage, and the least you can do is turn them down nicely.

[Jjpayne]

Agreed

[OlderAndWiser]

I have had that experience. I told her that she was a good person and had many great qualities but I was simply not attracted to her in a romantic way, and it would be foolish and unfair for me to try to pretend otherwise, because we both deserve to have someone who wants us in every way!

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I'm honest, but in the nicest way possible. "You're a great person and I really enjoy talking to and being around you, but I just don't see you in a romantic way."

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I tell the truth, that I'm not interested... Far better than to lead someone on, or play games, better to clear the air and be upfront from the get go

[Desconhecida]

Friendzone definition detected

[Anonymous]

Tell them you just want to be/ stay friends. Be brutal if you have to. Better to hurt their feelings then leave it ambiguous with trying to spare their feelings.
Whatever you do don't say "I just don't think about you that way". Because no guy wants to hear that. No matyer how you slice it it comes across as " I'm better than you".
Think about rejection as killing someone you care about. Would you rather put one bullet in their head killing them instantly? Or 5 in their stomach and watch them bleed to death and suffer?

[angeliquedevereux2]

For some no, but for me definitely. My mum is my best friend, and thankfully she's usually very supportive but when she's not, I can tell and it kind of makes me feel like I need to change. For example, we were out at ikea looking for pictures, I chose one and i could tell she hated it but was trying to be polite. That got me pretty disinterested in the painting. To me, it's with guys too

[MCheetah]

Option to be friends instead and give them reasons (sometimes obvious, sometimes subtle) why we wouldn't be a good match. If they reject all of those though, then they're a stalker (and I wouldn't mind having a stalker around if she's cute).

[DizzyDesii]

I used to friendzone but usually i want no part of them so eventually just fade on em. I dont like to straight up ghost

[Anonymous]

I would tell them point blank that i don't see them in that way but in a manner that it's not hurtful.
What i i have realised with time is that making people wait/ghosting them creates negativity. Also people lose faith from love which is the worst thing that happen to someone.

[AdithyaR]

I'd turn them down politely at first, saying I'm not ready or interested in a relationship rn.

If they persist, I'll use Sasuke Uchiha's line, "I hope you have fun in your make beleive fantasy of true love. As for me, I see no reason to love you and no reason for you to love me."

[elite665]

Happened to me sometimes I usually honestly just say I have a girlfriend but if they know I don’t then sadly I have to just say I only see you as a friend

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think it's just wise to be friends with them but if the feelings aren't mutual then you want just play things as you see them

[Nxtawm]

You reject them, be straightforward and nicely explain why. Dragging it out or going along with it is never a good idea

[nodnol32]

If she seems sweet and I am single too I might give her a chance. I'd go on a few dates and see if I can grow a liking for her. If it goes well thats great, if not, at least we tried.

[PurpleTeardrops2]

I'd feel bad a little but just turn them down bluntly.

[Regmorus]

Usually I find a way to show them my dark side or that it can't work. In the most cases implicitly.

[bannacookies]

I simply say, "I don't need a romantic partner in my life to make me happy. Do you?"

They get the hint.

[Nxxha]

If I don't like the guy in a romantic way but I like him as a person I'll just tell him I'm not interested in him but I will be his Friend if he wants. Butttt if the guy is some one I don't like even as a person I will turn him down just like that

[Zeus_66]

You don't do anything. And the friend zone ain't worth it. All you're gonna do is torture yourself.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's happened to me before many times. It's just a part of life. Sometimes you're just not into them; it's not your fault.

[Iron_Man]

Then we are friends but you know friendship doesn’t last when the Girl gets jealous of you dating other girls

[jhnny1331]

Be kind gentle and compassionate will you tell them tell them how you would want to be told if the roles were reversed

[Poppykate]

That’s a beautiful answer! I usually just tell them the trust... that ‘we don’t have enough in common to make it work long term’.

[xkforcesc]

What you should do is be clear about what your relationship intentions are. But realistically all a guy has to do is not initiate anything.

[lovasucka]

I’d say I have a boyfriend or that I’m not looking for a relationship right now. Just got out of a bad one and need time.

[Anonymous]

Tell them you’re flattered, and politely turn them down. For example, I’d say I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship. I can’t even take care of myself. It’s worked everytime and is true to my case.

[V12NI]

Simply reject them, I don't know what else could I do

[Kenji87]

I would tell them the truth, but I would again as others have said do it in the most tactful and gentlest way.

[_乃尺OЩ刀_TITI]

Be flattered, thank the the beb for boosting my confidence then turn her down nicely.

Then brag to people to i know someone liked me.

[Liam_Hayden]

I don't base it upon feelings so if she were acceptable and I were single I would give dating her a chance.

[DeceptiveDanny]

i would find someone different as it is not smart to wait for someone who does not care about you

[Nigjt]

I just tell them that we can be friends with benefits all she wants Mummmm sounds good dont it they usually thinks so.
God Bless

[Anonymous]

First I ask for a blow job
Then I borrow $50
Then I tell them that I just want to remain friends :)

[JosyJosy]

I crush their hopes and dreams.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Gently turn them down

[beebella]

Tell them I don't want to be their girlfriend.

[jasco]

I just say I am sorry but I am not interested

[Amal-ove]

I tell them straight away😝

[SphynxUK]

You tell them.

[Cryptic-Game]

I'd tell her I wasn't interested in her.

[Cherokeehp]

I say no.

[cardellaaa92]

Politely decline 😅

[NorthwestRider]

Say no in a nice way

[Twalli]

Turn them down

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Be a silence