Would you leave your partner if they wanted full say on how YOUR kids were raised? (Page 2)

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So, I have 3 kids. I met my boyfriend when my youngest was only a year old. he's great to my kids, yes, but he gets frustrated and becomes an asshole when he gets in those moments. Screaming. Freaking the fuck out for literally, the littlest of mistakes they make, etc. My kids are 9, 7 and 4. We met when my youngest was 1. In the beginning he was respectful enough but as soon as I moved in with him, he completely took over and made me feel like I had no idea what I was doing when it came to parenting. He has no kids of his own but definitely had the "I got this" outlook on life. So, soon after moving in he developed this attitude of "I am the dad now. Obey me." Which, in turn, took away all my say when it came to the kids.  He grounds them. Yells when necessary. Spanks my youngest when he misbehaves enough to do so (usually when he hits someone else first). Never confides in me when it comes to any of it. Whenever I try speaking to him about this, he INSTANTLY jumps to "I'm just going to check out. They are your kids and you have more say anyways." I have tried telling him numerous times that that is NOT how this works and that if he wants to be with me, it needs to be 50/50. He can't just "check out". He stepped in, which I am grateful for, but he CANNOT overstep me. I have tried instilling this in him so many times but he doesn't grasp it at all. He just wants to 'check out' whenever I bring it up. Now, my question, would you stay with someone like this? I'm having a hard time figuring out whether or not he is a complete control freak (hence, him making me feel like I have zero say over my kids) or if he truly has the best intentions at heart. Please help.

nictarleton27 · Answer

Yes, them are YOUR children. I get him wanting a day biy full day is a bit much in my opinion.

EyesOfGod · Answer

This is why dating single moms is the worst thing a guy without kids can do. You try to be a dad in you own house and get berated for it.

fantasticstatik · Answer

Depends on if I had major issues that contributed to my parental skills. Maybe I have a substance abuse issue or mental illness.

Anonymous · Answer

Gentlemen, this is why you don't seriously date single mom. One night stand? Good. Friends with benefits? Also fine. Long term relationship? No no no

modelUN242 · Answer

Lol I can't believe this loser would be with someone with three kids that aren't his own. No wonder he has a hard time.

jasco · Answer

Your almost 30 with 3 kids either A your a idiot B you are responsible C something else happen that would cause not once, not twice but three times so in short you do need stability and so far he's doing better then u are I mean honestly I do believe that it should be talk over but even so it's his house his rules and plus what are u gonna do go back to being a single mom who more then likely isn't able to raise her kids due to work

worldscolide · Answer

None of what he is doing is acceptable. Where i your children's real father i would break that mans jaw..

Myk13 · Answer

I would like to think that somehow that conversation would have come up prior to them becoming my partner.

Myk13 · Answer

I would like to think that somehow that conversation would have come up prior to them becoming my partner.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

You are with a control freak. It won't end well.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

That's a hard one. It depends

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