This is entirely your choice. You have to weigh the options.
Personally I always liked to move around a lot, just to experience it. I would not even consider it supporting her, but a chance to move someplace else. I did a lot of moving around, and got "home" whenever I could to visit. I eventually moved back home after many years of getting the adventure out of my system. That's entirely me though.
Obviously you want to finish your degree in December. For a masters, there should be many options including online and regular universities. If you are in the US, you'd probably have to live someplace a year before you got in-state tuition.
But the only thing that really matters is how important all these are to you. Is she "the one"? You don't want to drop things important to you if this is not serious with her. On the other hand, if you do drop things and move, that can always be reversed. Neither choice is permanent.
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Leaving behind all that you are comfortable with is a daunting task. Life in a new place may not work out for you.
Ask yourself if the relationship is worth giving up employment and connections. Employment, no matter what the field, will not be the same in a different location.
If you're young and willing it's what people seem to be doing.
Tried this once many years ago. Didn't work out. I did not care for people in the area and working conditions were so different I gave up and went home 2 years later.
Sometimes you have to just go For it. You never know what s out there if you don't try.
You need to decide how much you value your relationship and if you really see a future with this person. Will you be able to be happy with just her, or will you grow to resent her for taking you away from your family? I moved away from my large family and the small town I grew up in for my boyfriends job. There are still times when I really miss my family and when I first moved it was pretty tough on me, mainly because my boyfriends job is pretty demanding. I still hope to be able to move closer to home in the next few years, but I'm happy with my choice. If you do decide to move with her, keep in mind that the transition will be tough on someone who is super family oriented. I was NOT happy at all for a few months, but once I got a job and started making friends it was much easier.
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If you think she is The One with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, how high do you think she should be on your list of priorities?
Something is missing here. It would be smarter to relocate once a job is obtained. Illinois is not a small state; if she can't get a job there, I don't see the logic in moving elsewhere. She might not get a job there either.
You could always give it a shot and move back if it doesn’t work out. Especially since you’ll have a degree you’ll be more marketable to employers and you’ll have an easier time finding a job.
Moving for a woman is the beginning of the end of your relationship. Women see a man who moves for her as weak. Don't believe me? Make and move and see.
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Stay at home with family
Do whatever you think it best for you and her.
2 words: don't move.
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