Guys, Relationship? Would you have a problem if your girlfriend or wife wasn't a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Lately it's like no one really cares about it anymore. I'm a virgin and I want it that way till I'm married but when I'm with my boyfriend I sometimes feel its kinda old school.

My boyfriend knows about my wanting to be a virgin till I'm married even though we eventually won't get married to each other and he might never get to touch me that way.

When I'm with him I know I want to be with him that way but I know what I'll feel afterwards (regret), I feel I have this crazy obsession with being a virgin till I'm married cuz that was something my mum told me all my life, being a virgin till I'm married.

I wanna know if its really not that big of a deal for your partner to not be a virgin.

[bamesjond0069]

its a huge deal. You are highly desirable as a wife. The second you have sex a large amount of men will never marry you.

Now dont get confused. A ton of men on here will say its no big deal just have some fun but they are guys that are fat with pimple faces work at some min wage job and live with their mom. Forget those losers unless that sounds like your ideal husband. 🤮

Personally i say no hymen no diamond. And i stick to it. Unfortunately its nearly impossible to find virgins to date so i do date non virgins but i do tell them marriage is absolutely off the table. And tbh i expect the relationship to end because i never feel committed to them.

Trust me you dont want men to think of you like that. Pump and dump you. Even your boyfriend might. He obviously finds you as a virgin attractive but many times if you have sex he will feel like he conquered you and that you're a slut for giving it up and dump you not long after. Happens all the time.

So please wait. If you dont want to wait any longer then get married.

[Asker]

😂😂😂i still having a lot of waiting to do before marriage.

[Asker]

Still have a lot of waiting to do before marriage😂

[bamesjond0069]

Why so much waiting?

[Just_Another_Nerd]

Do you realize you're a hypocrite?

[Asker]

@Just_Another_Nerd Me?

[Asker]

I just got into college about a year ago and I feel I still have a lot to do before talking marriage.

[bamesjond0069]

Young virgins are the most highly desirable women for marriage. Just from a mans perspective.

[Asker]

I didn't know that but I hope to get married early tho but I just can't say exactly when. Just hope I'm able to keep myself till then.

[Jamie05rhs]

It is a big deal.
Keep doing what you're doing. Don't change.
People who give up their moral standards lose all of my respect automatically.

[OlderAndWiser]

Ain't no virgins at my age. What I care about is that she is not promiscuous and that sex means feelings and commitment.

[Just_Another_Nerd]

I think the reason matters. Like, if you're not a virgin because you've been married before, whatever. For a lot of guys it's about commitment. Think about what you would want from your future spouse. Do you want someone who has self control, or someone who doesn't?

Now, if you do end up having sex, make sure you use some form of protection. Having a child out of wedlock is a recipe for poverty and massively shrinks your dating pool. If you're not a virgin because you messed up, but you get it all back under control, the right guy will understand and accept you anyway. If you're not a virgin because you just slept around a bunch for fun, there's definitely a lot of guys who won't consider you marriage material.

Final thought: living with and sleeping with each other prior to marriage is kind of like saying, "I want everything you have to offer, but I reserve the right to dip out the moment something better comes along or I get tired of you." Marriage is more than a piece of paper, it's a commitment to be there for each other when things are at their worst, and that kind of trust in each other matters. Knowing that there is no underlying threat of "well, I'll leave the moment you no longer suit me" makes sex so much more special.

[Searlas]

People who choose to remain virgin till marriage are either conservative or religious and its only fair to marry their match. A mismatch in this leads to a boring and unfulfilling marriage (One experienced partner with a non experienced one). Why, there some things expected by the one with experience (e. g. alternative forms of sex, oral, anal, the art of seduction etc) where the other partner isn't open to such (remember he/she is a conservative or religious).

It's selfish for any man who isn't a virgin to have an issue with a woman who isn't but for a virgin man, its justified.

So, if you want to remain a virgin till marriage, get a virgin who will wait, otherwise no man who have tasted a pussy can wait forever.

Or, you can decide to let go, no regrets, a happy marriage is not guaranteed either way.

[Asker]

Some guys sleep with their girlfriends but still have plans on getting married to a virgin. Maybe being their first and exposing them (the girl) gets the guy excited 🤷🏼‍♀

[Anonymous]

It's a personal choice, and one I've never cared about. I honestly can't believe how big of a deal people have always made about virginity. But I also personally believe that it's a huge mistake to wait until marriage because you need to know if you're sexually compatible with your partner as well. People don't seem to take that seriously (especially women) but if you're not, it can cause so many problems in your relationship, and leads to things like cheating etc, even divorce. Best to find out before you get married. However, I also do suggest doing anything you KNOW you're going to regret. Don't be pressured. Make sure it's 100% what you want.

[Ripper_E]

No. It's unrealistic to expect her to be a virgin.
Would I love to be her first? Of course. If I have to choose between being the first or the 10th, I'd rather be the first, but I could be the 100th and that doesn't mean she'll want me less or that it won't mean anything to her or me.

[MrCommodore]

No, not a problem or a big deal. I mean most women I would consider dating are 28 - 43 age bracket, so its unrealistic to expect them to still be virgins.

One ex of mine was a virgin from years ago, I didn't actually know this until afterwards.

[Grond21]

It's a big deal to me. I'm a virgin, and I would prefer my partner to be a virgin as well. And I have turned down offers for having sex before, as well as opportunities. It's important to me to save myself for marriage. And while I wouldn't necessarily say no to a woman who hadn't, I would at least want her to value it like I do

[b5fan]

It is not generally a big deal in most the the US. Generally if you stay a virgin till marriage, you get married early which leads to being married young. This could lead to a long marriage, but will most likely end in divorce. Have a backup career ready in case the marriage doesn't work out and delay children until you both are established in careers.

[simonqq]

Personally I think it's very waste waiting for marriage. Personally I wouldn't marry either for a long time so waiting for sex during that time we might as well stay friends.

[Anonymous]

It’s a big deal. This makes you highly valuable and desirable as a wife. Every guys dream. I personally would have a problem if my wife was experienced because I’ve only had sex once. The only way I would be cool with it is if she let me have sex with other women so I can “catch up to her”.