Would you lend your boyfriend/girlfriend money? (Page 3)

Anonymous · 2020-12-10T22:01:15Z

Hi, My boyfriend of 3 years recently put a down payment ($1000) on a used car which they will release to him once he's paid it in full (the agreement between them is he'll pay it in full no later that the end of this month). He didn't consult with me or let me know he was doing this at all. He approached me last Sunday and told me about the car and said he'd like it if I could 'loan' him $5,000 to pay it off because he doesn't have any where near this amount and he doesn't want to take a loan from a bank and pay interest. I'm hurt, angry and totally frustrated that he would 'assume' I'd just hand it over and it sounds like this was his plan when he made the decision to buy the vehicle. He has a car already so this is not a necessity for him. He simply wanted a 4-wheel drive. He promises he will pay me back in full by the summer. This amount happens to be exactly what I have in my savings account which I suspect he saw when I was depositing a check a couple weeks ago. Loaning him this money would leave me with zero and it's money I've been saving to do needed repairs on my house (I own the house we both live in) He's always paid half the mortgage and utilities but I pay for all the maintenance or needed repairs since its mine. Also I bought him a used car a couple of years ago that was only around $3,500 because he was in desperate need of a car for work after his completely broke down. He never paid me back as promised. When I brought this up he promised he'd pay me back for that one as well. I can't help but feel stupid and like I'm being used here because he seemed slightly angry and agitated when I said no... He's insisting we discuss it again this weekend in which my answer will still be no. He even argued that as a couple I should 'have his back' and support him just as he would me. I would never ask him to drain his entire savings for something I didn't absolutely need though...

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Maybe, but in your situation definitely not

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Anonymous
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No. Nope. No. He’s using you.

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Yes , I have done in the past...

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If I had any money, yes

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Yes with a complete contract at 9% interest

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I would, but he's already wealthy. Lol

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Lunatic1 Follow
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Small amounts, maybe. But nothing like that.

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lanadelrey25 Follow
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Yes, of course.

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Anonymous
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Just wondering what's the car?

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  Some kind of 4WD truck
  
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I don't think I would

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Small amount sure.

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Yes.

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Hell no.

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Absolutely no.

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Nope. Don't do it.

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