Created fake snapchat to see if boyfriend would cheat?

[Anonymous]

So far there's nothing bad. He admitted to having a girlfriend when asked and when asked about exchanging nudes he questioned it. He wondered whether the account was fake or some weirdo posing as someone else. I have to send a vid with voice proving that I'm a girl. (not gonna use my voice). Asked if he'd like to get nudes if I proved I'm real and he said no, we will see.

I think he might budge but confirm or refute my suspicions. It's just sometimes at least now, he'll have his phone acting like he's waiting for someone to text him or send him a message on something.

he did agree to be my friend though. That's an issue him being too friendly and befriending girls even over guys yet he claims he doesn't trust anyone.

Updates

+1 y

surprisingly he text me today telling me what happened. The only reason I feel like he did that is maybe because he thought someone was testing him or something. He said the account asked to send nudes and he said no, that he had a girlfriend. He did say that somewhat in the chats but he also said we will see when I asked again acting as the girl. He's leaving stuff out

[DevilishDarling]

Uh woah, yes it's true you can't physically make some one cheat but how are you going to grow trust in your own relationship if this is what you are doing. He told you that someone contacted him and asked to share nudes. That's pretty damn respectful especially for a guy, and at that a young man. He obviously values you. But if you continue to do this do you realize how much time you will have to sink? That's going to affect your relationship and guess what he might cheat or he might break up.

Talk with him about your fears, give yourselves the gift of communication first

[Asker]

if he cheats then he hed do it because he wasn't shit as my fears would have told me

[Asker]

Yeah he semi passed but probably only because he thought it was a trap or something

[Asker]

Plus he left out some important parts. This is same dude who said his ex came by being all touchy with him and he told her he had a girlfriend and felt strongly about someone. Yet they follow each other on Instagram. He's too friendly with women

[DevilishDarling]

I mean if that's what you think and feel, you're never going to be comfortable in that relationship. So do both of yourselves a favor and split.

[ragequeen]

If you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him. It's as simple as that. It's so wrong to test someone like that. It's weird and creepy. If my boyfriend did that to me I would think he was being the biggest creep ever and it would be over. I hope he never finds out it was you. But don't ever do it again. His response seemed legit, and if he told you that's a good sign at least. If he thought it was you he would have asked. Buuuut doing that to him was still kind of weird.

[Asker]

I don't ever 100% trust someone so does that mean I can't be with anyone? No

[ShadezMcgee]

The amount of mental gymnastics you just did here was ridiculous. I hope the guy wises up sooner than later and leaves you.

This type of behavior of yours is disgusting where it will be easier for you to open your fucking mouth and talk to him about it.

[Asker]

talk to him about it and potentially be lied to when I can get the information I need this way?

[Danny_dan92]

If you really have to go to this length to see if your significant other is cheating.


You really need to reconsider your relationship

[Truthatanycost]

Regardless of whether he passed or failed, without trust there is nothing.

[Hangry22]

Look you can never be 100% sure soemone won't cheat. So if you love him, just suck it up and act like you don't care if something happens

[magiusX26]

relationship sabotage right here. also one of the biggest mind games i hate.

[magiusX26]

as to your update, thats still baiting him into an argument. as to why he did not say every detail, likely 1 of a few things. he deems them unimportant because they mean nothing to him, he knows its a bs fake account of some sort, he knows its you and is playing his own mind game right back (i mite would do this if done this way too to show you how it feels), or he isn't so nit picky about every miniscule detail so forgot a few.

[magiusX26]

sorry if it seems am bashing on you but you came here seeking justification for bad behaviour that, as you may have noticed, almost everyone (male and female) are telling you how bad it really is instead of reaffirming you.

[Asker]

it's fine. I wanted another perspective too. He seems to always leave out stuff like that, it's not that he forgets. He just seems to not want me to know considering he has no issue remembering anything I say when he decides to bring it up later because he let it bother him

[Browneye57]

Ew boy, you're a disgusting wench. Wait 'till he dumps your azz.

[Browneye57]

The term 'fuktard' keeps popping up in my head. A fake account to trick the man you love? Dear lord. This will not end well, I guarantee it.

[wittymilf]

Wow... you’re scary. This seems jealous, controlling and manipulative. Why are you feeling this insecure?

[Asker]

Insecure for not wanting to be lead on, for actually wanting to make sure I don't waste time on the person I'm with and they can be trusted

[wittymilf]

Um yes. Like really Yes. How much of your energy is spent trying to test others? Love is vulnerable and yes that’s scary but you can’t spend your life trying to prove others can’t love you. I mean what if he tested you to see if you trusted and respected him... the truth is you know you’d fail.

[Asker]

He doesn't have to test me, he can just ask and I'll tell him outright that I don't fully trust him

[wittymilf]

Release him from your contract then.

[magiusX26]

@ asker. and you dont have to test him but you are anyways. i have trust issues out the wazzoo but i still let any mistrustable stuff come about in due time if any is to come. your level is more self fulfilling prophetic and self destructive.

[wittymilf]

@magiusX26 👍🏾 it’s scary the impact it will have on future relationships. It reminds me of the parable of the hotdog stand man who was told there was a depression so he bought cheaper ingredients, then when his customers stopped buying from him he thought 🤔, oh there really is a depression.

[magiusX26]

never heard that1 but still makes since. at best she will have a string of unhealthy romantic relationships unless she changes some stuff, hint hint to asker.

[Whtevernever]

You are a fucking nutjob. Just let the man be, damn.

[Dave31989]

which is technically illegal. posing as someone else, is technically illegal

[Anonymous]

This is a fundamental difference between men and women. I would consider breaking up with a girl who did this to me.

[Mayham___33]

Why do you do such poor plays? What's the reason for your trust issue?

[Asker]

he's behavior sometimes.

Crazy thing is a few weeks ago I had a dream about him cheating or some girl showing up. Literally a week after, he told me his ex showed up, trying to hug him and text him. He claimed he told her he had Strong feelings for me. I had to tell his dumb ass to block her because she obvious she showed up with a motive and it wasn't to be friends. he's too friendly to women

[Asker]

*his

[Mayham___33]

That's normal to have such dreams. Eventually that will stop.

[FriendlyEnigma]

God you're fucking toxic. I hope he realizes he can do so much better than you and leaves your psycho ass.

[Asker]

I'm one of the best he and a lot of other guys will ever encounter

[RHK36]

Nice way to create a wedge and drama in a relationship that didn't have any. Good luck to the guy that has to date your nutty ass.

[Asker]

it's not a wedge if he doesn't know but I'd like to know who I'm dealing with so I can decide whether I want to be with him

[Liam_Hayden]

So you tested him, he passed, and you still don't trust him. Do both of you a favor. Dump him and get yourself into therapy.

[Asker]

He passed but probably only because he knew it was a fake account. He left out information, like the fact that he tried to actually befriend her and the "we will see" while "denying" it at the same time

[Unit1]

I don't blame you. Trust can only go so far.

[In_Trance]

Unbelievable. You need professional help

[ItsTheNephilim]

Not a great idea.

[PushOrganic]

You seem obsessive and clingy

[Asker]

definitely not clingy but my actions may be obsessive but that's just every day life for me

[AmeerX]

I think you are forcing him to cheat

[Asker]

I can't make him do anything he's a grown man and should be able to fight temptation. His response shows he considered it. The only issue was that he thought it was a fake account

[AmeerX]

Well everyone has limits. Don't do it unnecessarily

[Anonymous]

So, you like drama huh?

[Asker]

I like for the truth to come out. One way or another