Guys what do you think of girls hitting you?

[Manduh]

The same way a guy hits a woman would it be the same if a girl hot you? I'm talking about being in an abusive relationship where the female is the abuser, where she is physically abusive. It doesn't matter if you get hurt or not, she's still hitting you. Have you ever experienced something like this? Playfully hitting is a totally different thing and slapping while having sex is a different thing as well. It's not necessarily abusive unless they're raping you and it's not consensual sex. What would you do if that happened to you? Or has it already happened to you?

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I feel like Cherry wine by Hosier fits perfectly with this post.

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+1 y

I am opposed to violence but if she deserves it, she deserves it. If you have to defend yourself, defend yourself. That's it.

[humanearth]

Oh yeah, i had a girlfriend and a ex-wife like that.

Did you ever see the comedien Chris Titus? He talks about his ex and you think he was talking about my ex.

Yeah, there had been a few times I had to call the cops on her.

The old girlfriend was not as bad. She was the warm up act. For the next crazy bitch that became my 1st wife.

Just like Titus ex, my ex was short and Jewish

https://www.youtube.com/embed/FNrMXuLJ8Xw

I am not making this up. What he talks about. Was almost just like what it was like for my first wife.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/IyrBahdDa3U

[Manduh]

Damn. I'm sorry you had to go through that. It doesn't make a difference but I'm glad you're not with her anymore.

[humanearth]

But I still have to deal with her. Even all these years because of our son. My son maybe an adult now, but this crazy woman is always trying to start shit and we been apart for a very long time. I think the only way I can get total peace. Is if she dies

[Manduh]

People like her are parasites. I'm sorry but it's true. It sucks that you have to still deal with her. My mum is like that sometimes and my dad has to deal with it even if they're not married anymore. His current wife is turning out to be worse than my mum. It's just so painful to see him go through this. I understand that some women will drain you of everything and they still wouldn't feel happy or content so the best thing you can do is cut ties with them. It's difficult but it must be done but sometimes you just have to deal with them until they're dead. Morbid but true.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I won't hit her back, I have worse ways to make her pay.

[Manduh]

Like what?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Make her lose her job, tweak her schedule, making her find ther car's tires slashed... I'm against physical violence, but I'll follow the Zersetzung (decomposition) technique against my enemies.

[Manduh]

I see. It sounds better than hurting her back physically.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Violence is never the right answer, and like they say, ruining a person is like killing them over and over.

[Manduh]

I feel like if you hit back you're no less than them unless they're really hell bent on doing some damage in that case it's okay to defend yourself.

[chHaynes]

That is definitely a better alternative instead of hitting back you can just slasher tires and some other things but don't hit her

[Manduh]

Exactly my point.

[MCheetah]

If a girl - or anyone else over the age of 11 - seriously tried to hit me, I would knock their f*cking teeth out. Woman, man, teen, senior, cripple, cop... Doesn't matter. I'm a peaceful person, but considering I had an abusive childhood, I don't f*ck around with that, one bit. In fact, I took boxing classes for four years; 2015-2019, and was even a part-time bouncer, and armed guard, from 2011-2015, and it still hasn't made me feel any more safe or secure with that. I legitimately feel uncomfortable in situations like that; but not out of fear of what they might do to me, one bit. Out of fear of what I might do to them, cause I'm not trying to go to prison because someone decided to make a huge mistake with me that day. I'll always try every way to de-escalate a situation, but if someone tries something with me, they damn sure better have more fighting experience than I do and a steel jaw, cause I'm totally willing to break my hand on it.

So no. I don't play with that. The best rule for everyone is to not put your hands on anyone outside of a ring.

[NamerOfStars]

Abuse is abuse. My last relationship ended when, in the middle of a very intense argument (we really weren't a good match), she drew her hand back to slap me, but I caught her wrist on the downswing and held it fast. I looked her square in the eye and said "No. No violence." You'd think that would have ended it; that even if the words didn't sink in, the fact that she was struggling to the utmost to free her hand and barely moving mine would. It didn't; she just tried to hit me with her other hand. I caught that, too, and held her still until she stopped struggling. The relationship died then and there. Some things I just won't tolerate.

[Manduh]

You are so right and I'm so glad that you stood up for it! You don't need someone like that in your life at all. I'm glad that relationship is over.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Never been in a relationship before, but if someone hit me, I probably won't tolerate them.

I may not hit back, simply due to the fact that they're a partner (not due to gender), but if a person can't control their anger and behaves like that, then it's a deal breaker - I posted a poll about something similar to this before and so far, everyone voted yes:

Do you consider it a deal breaker if a partner destroys your possessions when they're angry?

[pigoat]

My sister abuses her boyfriend

But he lives with us and if he did something to her he would get kicked iut and be homeless

Or live an another abusive home where gangbangers and drug dealers live

So he's between a rock and a hard place

[Manduh]

That sucks. I hope he gets out of that relationship tho even if it means living with people like that. At least he'll be away from her

[pigoat]

No

he chooses her over people like that he has the choice but he feels he has it better living with us because he gets more shit handed to him and overthere he has to work for his money

[Manduh]

Have you tried talking to him?

[hahahmm]

Outside of mutually agreed to entertainment it's not allowed. Period. She will be treated just like a man doing it to me. Yes, a man who is shorter than me and weighs less but still a man.

I disagree that "playful hitting is totally different". You see, that depends who is in on the joke. If I'm not in on the joke then I'm not going to take it as totally different. I will instantly retaliate with enough force to say, "don't do that", I mean if she's with me. If she's a stranger I would light her up like a terrorist on the CIA hit list, regardless of what she claims she meant exactly as I would do to a male.

[michael1469]

That ain't gonna fly. Had an ex TRiED to hit me... in a fraction of a second i grab her hand that tried to hit me and i put my forearm on her kneck up against a wall. Told her to not hit me as she stuggled to release her hand to try to hit me. I kept her pinned until she complied. She knew she was in the wrong. But seriously, why would she bother. The argument was over the fact she brought drugs into the house and i had a little daughter who's mother would had made an issue out of that to not see my daughter. So defend my time w my daughter or side with getting my dick wet... i picked my daughter.

I am not proud that i was in such a heated argument. But damn, it literally was like a slow motion film and flawlessly executed movement to protect myslef and my time with my daughter.

[michael1469]

So needless to say, i got out of that relationship, her cheating and her doing drugs wasn't worth losing my kid over.

[FatherJack]

Have had a crazy ex girlfriend that slashed me , unprovoked & out of the blue with a knife... she was instantly binned... and out of the door with her stuff too , I shoved her out. Involving the police would have been a major mistake as they ALWAYS assume male = guilty party & aggressor. The marriage I ended years back chipped away at me mentally , personally much happier staying single , I became a single parent as a result.

[Manduh]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad you're out of it.

[Dchrls78104]

Disgusting, as well as disrespectful. Proof that the abuser is a bitch and was never worth his time. Recently one such sod in my country, aged 20, was arrested after her 41 year old boyfriend called the police on her after she stabbed him and threw boiling hot water on him. Good riddance to her and I hope he has the sense to dump that garbage and choose better next time.

[Manduh]

I'm glad she got what she deserved.

[Brian___1731]

Fights are a part of the relationship. I believe dealing with the chaos is necessary because your partner will keep checking if you can deal with the problems. But I'm sure if she disrespects me I will break up with her. I might defend myself but won't ever dare to hit her back.

[Levin]

It's a non issue since I wouldn't be in a relationship like that.

There's enough drama and imposed sickness in the course of my life. There's no way I'm actively inviting it or tolerating it.

Seems there's a song for everything!

https://www.youtube.com/embed/mAh--lH0H3U

[Anonymous]

In my early 20’s I was in a very abusive relationship and she would leave bruises.
But when I tried to get help, I was told to “suck it up”, “stop being a bitch”, “stop doing things to piss her off” and other bullshit.
I had no shelters to run to, and no one to call.
Then when I called the cops on her near the end, they took me away not her.

[Manduh]

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. We should really stop saying things like that to guys because they're human too. No one should be told to be strong just because of their gender or to not feel pain. That's unfair and inhumane. I'm sorry for the bruises she left on your body and I'm sorry that she treated you like shit. You didn't deserve what she did to you and I hope that will never happen to you again.

[TraceyByrd]

I hope that scum whore gets hit by a truck anyone that does that is filthy

[Manduh]

@TraceyByrd you really have some nerve calling me a whore. Did you even see my replies to these posts? In what way do I seem like a whore? Please tell me. And even though you're 15 and you've blocked me for God knows what I hope you become more mature sweetie because whatever you said just makes you look dumb and what you did makes you look like a coward. I hope you get a life. You desperately need one.

[MrOracle]

I've never been in a relationship like this, and I certainly wouldn't stay in one that was like this. That's just unacceptable.

[Manduh]

It is unacceptable.

[NoblesseObligeKK]

Its all about context, if at the time I was being an asshole; I would shamefully accept it. Simillarly, if she was just play hitting me; it'd be fine. However, if the situation did not call for it; Id give her the benefit of the doubt. If she kept it up, I would see it as a huge red flag and move on.

[hahahmm]

Be careful. Women who get violent will escalate until they're hurting you or you're in the hospital with a knife sticking out of your eye. Best to nip it in the bud on day 1, regardless of whether you were being an asshole or not.

[WesBrewer]

Whenever girls hit me I don't do anything back, I usually don't care anyway because it doesn't hurt, it would be a bit odd though, hitting each other in a way that isn't meant for damage is usually something tight-nit guys do.

[SunnySri]

Just take the fight to her not physically but legally. Like girls should too which I think a lot of them don't do because of some reasons.

[SunnySri]

No one should put up with a violent relationship.

[Manduh]

You're right.

[GiventoFly01]

I wouldn't put up with it. Thankfully I've never been in a situation like that

[Manduh]

I hope you won't have to be in one.

[GiventoFly01]

I dont think I would be. I am extremely easy to get along with

[Manduh]

That's great!

[magiusX26]

this is the main reason behind the old saying "if she puts herself in a man's place..." i for one will hit back. in an appropriate way mind you. likely inly enough to stun her from striking again then hold her diwn till either she calms or coos get there.

[homystew]

If a girl hit me, I would break with her up immediately. And be sure to never see the scum ever again. asap.

[CuriousBear2003]

Physical violence should never be condoned in a relationship. If it is, leave because on a typical day 20,000 calls in the US are for domestic hotlines. I don't want to know the fatalities..

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

If it happens one time, I'll warn her to never do it again. If she does it again, I dump her right then and there. You don't negotiate with such people. You exile them.