Assuming individuals generally have their stuff together, then trust in any relationship is not too difficult. However, for many people one or both often don’t have their stuff together. People bring their own experiences into a relationship. If they haven't dealt with their issues in healthy ways, they find a way to pop up in a relationship. This could be a whole separate thread/take, but let’s say a budding couple generally have their stuff together. How do they build trust? Keep in mind the following should apply to BOTH in the relationship.1. This is the most important and probably what most don’t realize. You can’t trust anyone. No one is perfect. People are flawed, some more than others. Now that does NOT mean you should automatically mistrust people (a topic for a possible future Take of mine). Instead, all your trust should be in a higher power. I trust in God's guidance. That may rub some the wrong way, but it’s actually simple. I trust that if I do what I know is right in a relationship, treat the other person how I would want to be treated, that things will work out for the best. If it ends, maybe the other person was still working on herself, maybe she wasn’t doing what she knew to be right or maybe it was me, maybe after taking a hard look at myself I wasn’t honest with myself about things, or I compromised my own principles. The main point is, you can’t trust a person, but when you put your trust in a higher power not people, it frees you. It frees you of expectations. It frees you to really concentrate on the relationship, and it frees you to see the relationship for what it is and where it could go.2. Genuineness and honesty (with the other person and yourself). No one likes someone who is fake, guarded all the time, or puts on a face for show. Now that doesn’t mean to empty out all your skeletons or open up about every little thing right away. Case in point. In my wonderful LDR since last April (stupid pandemic😠). It was hard at first going from friendship to more. We had our walls and baggage (hey, I said "generally" have their stuff together🤣), but I've been open about everything and in the beginning if there was something I wasn't ready to talk about yet, I'd just say so. (There was no fear of rejection, insecurity, etc. because of #1 above.)3. Connectivity. Relationships need to have little bonds, the more the better. Weak relationships have minimal connections. My girlfriend and I have gotten creative and found ways to connect via distance on things we mutually enjoy - netflix and chill on video calls, play games (online and board games - yes some can be played on video calls🤣), bible and spirituality discussions, and even discussing posts on GAG (she responded to your post recently🤣)4. Communication. I can’t build trust in a relationship with a person if we don’t talk often, and as the relationship progresses those conversations should become deeper, more intimate (see 2nd point above).5. Transparency about the relationship. The couple needs to know where they are and where they want to go. Relationships are kind of like a race. You have to know where the finish line is (not that you have to reach the finish line or the course won’t change) otherwise you are just running around with no direction (unless that’s the kind of race you want to run😉🤣) Unique to LDRs:6. Extra Patience. They say communication is well over 50% nonverbal, right? Face to face conversation is still by far better than any technology out there. So in a LDR it’s especially important to realize that some things may not communicate well and get easily misinterpreted. In addition it may take longer to communicate a point. Patience includes - Not automatically jumping to conclusions, really LISTENING (or reading via texts🤣) and trying to understand what the other person is saying. In my current relationship we definitely had our share of misunderstandings because of distance communication. Patience has helped tremendously.
There are people who say that they are in a relationship with someone who they met online, but have never met in person. It certainly isn't very realistic at all. You only know one side of them if you don't know them face to face. It is easy to get caught up in. You don't have to deal with the other person's day to day issues. And since you don't know "the whole person", your mind fills in the blanks. If someone is involved with something like this, I'd say have fun getting to know the person but don't take it seriously and don't consider it to be a relationship! LOL
I just trust easily until you give me a reason not to. I didn't get insecure until i saw something extremely suspicious that they just couldnt seem to
explain or if i caught them in a lie. I remember one mentioned something he did in the past but that its just his past. Come to find out, this dude was on a damn porn site, selling nudes for $3 to gay men talking about he really needed the rent money. Like dude if you dont get tf outta here with that. And he had on his profile description that he was “bisexual”. It was so many red flags. I was ready to gooo but i said lemme bring it up to him. He lied straight to my face so i called his ass out and then left. Petty mf decided to send me a screenshot of some hoe he had been sexting on there. Either way, good riddance. But yea, there was trust for 2 months until there wasn't. We had skyped and stuff but we were supposed to meet that 3rd month but didn't make it there so yea. Still i refused to become his official girlfriend until we met HOWEVER we still agreed to commit through just “talking” and that there wouldn't be anyone else. Man i was dumb as hell back then lol
U either trust them or u don't.
At the end of the day u can always create reasons to not trust someone.
Ldr or not.
I trust mine is not gonna stray and we have a ldr cuz of college.
But i believe him and trust in him.
Until he gives me a legit reason not 2 trust him. I'm going to trust him.
If ya can't trust someone else why are you dating them?
Tbh a lot of people don't trust others 4 two reasons.
1st is ego, i don't wanna look weak or pathetic if they betray me so i don't trust them. But tbh the betrayer was the weak and pathetic 1.
How does doin what ya supposed 2 do in a relationship make u weak, it's not ur fault ur S. O can't figure out how relationships work.
2nd they probably been sneakin around themselves. So they assume they partner is.
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You can be with someone physically and still not be able to trust them.
Even if you are see each other most of the time, you can still doubt them.
If you trust someone, it doesn't matter how far they are from you, whether they are with you or not.
Trust doesn't depend on the distance.
It's how the person treats you, how they make you feel, how genuine they are, that makes you trust them.
You can be with someone physically yet not know them fully, and have someone to fully share with you everything even if they are from a distance.
It's with the person's willingness to have a deep connection with you.
It all comes down to yourself.
Someone can be genuine to you yet you're not able to build trust within yourself.
Trust is something that we feel. It's a discretion. Sometimes we just know it. Sometimes it's a choice.
So I think we shouldn't judge a relationship. Whether ldr or not, I think if two people really wants something to work, it is possible.
I can build trust with an online "friend" and I do.
But never call it a relationship.
Real loving relationship begins and requires when two meets... then trust and other things can be build on.
My little sister met her husband first, then got into a LDR... started to date, her in the US, him in Europe. They are married now. Takes two dedicated people to work on the trust and others to make it work.
I am in similiar and we are moving closer, we learned to work through some issues and things are better and moving towards the next chapter of our lives.
You don't. You can learn more from 1 day in person than you can from a year LD. Meanwhile the other person is very likely seeing other people while you get all attached to the idea of them being somebody they aren't.
Even in person it can be many years before you really know someone. Imagine how much longer that would take LD given my 1 day exampe.
In (sort of) the same way as you would in person.
it's going to be a gazilllion times harder since you don't typically have any immediate feedback of facial expressions, body posture, etc when talking, and not seeing how they handle various situations in person, etc. Most of those helpful tools of gauging a relationship are left in the tool bag in a LTR.
gos you send me twice to urban dictionary just to undertand the question... ok I dont think is posible till you meet IRL. Is unrealistic, cause the moment you see the other all you gonna perceive is new. The voice gonna be different, the size, the clothes the smell. I believe the goal is to create enough trust to meet IRL. and then see if something else happen.
I think consistency, predictability, honesty, and faithfulness. Do what you say you are going to do, do things when you say you are going to do them and prove the things that you claim to say. It's a little bit of a nut shell answer but to expand, show up for dates regularly on time, whatever you say on a date find a way to prove it in a fun way, maybe even introduce your mom or show that sports car that keeps getting talked about. Share your life and time with them as much as possible
You don’t. You just trust them blindly lol until they mess up and you start questioning them. I always trust people until they make me not trust them. So it’s not about earning my trust but keeping it.
Love and Trust and Communication and Years together. Just like in person until u meet up. I know couples who are living together and still do not know each other nor trust each other. I may not see my family all of the time but communication is the way to be in touch and to show love.
In reality, the excitement of being a couple overpowers anything else, at least early on, but video chats daily usually are all you can do, along with communicating well via text.
Have you met someone?
Why bother? The idea of having an LDR relationship with someone on-line seems more like having free phone sex with the added bonus of photos and videos.
Lots of communicating, calls and videochatting, I suppose. I'm not for LDR but you can make some good loyal friendships online with people you haven't seen in person ever
I've never had a LDR that worked, and never knew ANYONE that got one to work.
I don’t trust him 100%, and he knows that.
We do have a irl date coming up in a few weeks, so we shall see how that goes. 🤪
Its really difficult, but it takes time. A lot of times and commitment
My pervious relationship was mostly on here and i felt towards the end like I didn't matter to her.
Can never trust them to 100% but one tip i have is to become friends or know their friends or family. I think your partner is less likely to cheat if you are known to their friends and family.
Same way you would in a regular relationship with time, patience and earning that trust.
Be honest. If you lie sooner or later you will trip up & your mistruths will be reveled.
When I was in an LDR, we made it a point to talk every day and try to meet at least once a month, ideally a couple of times a month! We are still friends, but we eventually drifted apart. That was probably due to the distance.
Face fuck your computer monitor while she rubs one out on her webcam.
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