About how long should a single mom wait before moving in with her boyfriend? How will she know when it's right to do so (other than the time)?

[Anonymous]

[ChrisMaster69]

I have it from the other side.

a lot comes down to when you know the other person as an individual and how they get on with your child (REN).

there is a huge trust thing to cover off, ignoring the sexual side of things, can they cope with looking after a kid, take to school, remember to pick up, lots of things parents take for granted.

it is a hard thing to work out, however you do get to know your partner deeper than simply dating,

[ZackBan]

The only healthy thing to do is let the kid decide when he/she's accepted the new man as a caregiver and pretty much wants him to be around.

If the kid is too young to know the difference then you handle it like any relationship but be careful to always have backup options in case you have to leave his house suddenly somewhere to sleep as no kid is gonna grow up unaffected by childhood hardships caused by their mother's poor choice in men.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

I would ask advice from people who know about your relationship dynamic or a family councilor. I think your kids have to be comfortable with him and consider him a second father. Like the woman below me said Marriage would be important because it’s almost an insurance that he is willing to commit to both you and your children

[pleasestopthis]

When she knows the guy is trustworthy enough to not rape or abuse the kid in any way, and is kind enough to treat the child as part of the family.

[awebee]

When every thing around you seems to syncronise effortlessly like clock work... peices separate n scattered makes a mess.. putting it together is not easy.. all the right peices need to fit in all the right spots after a few trys taaa daa you a clock if it tells you the time correctly the that means a the pieces synchronize.. only time will tell if you built a rolex or a coo coo clock

[joco57]

A single parent M or F should concentrate their efforts on their children and forget getting involved with another person. Once the children have entered their mid teens is the only time a single parent should start to look for a partner. When the new relationship fails, which stats show a very very likely, it will only go to traumatize the children, again.

[Theo21]

When she has a backup plan. And when she just feels it's right and when u slept over for a week or even a few months to test the waters

[Anonymous]

you don't because your name's not on his lease or his mortgage and if you and him get into a fight he could kick you and your kids out and you and your kids will be left on the street homeless. you always have your own place never move in with a boyfriend when you have children otherwise you and your children could be living in homeless shelters if things hit the fan between you and your boyfriend

[Avicenna]

I’d exercise some caution on this and not be in a hurry.

[modelUN242]

So... she’s okay with the boyfriend molesting her kids?

[LightxGreen2]

Hmm I think it's more about how well does she know him. Obviously the mom's gotta think for the kid first. When she is 100% sure that the guy she's seeing will not be abusive and treat her kid well enough then she can move in.

[JackBlackHeartAttack]

A few years back my mother moved in with her boyfriend and it didn't work at all. It was just screaming matches between him and I.

[Joshua0213]

Whenever she gets to know him and knows he won't do anything to the kids

[Nahid1707]

A few months in the relationship first perhaps
Trust and commitment are important in a relationship

[Shy_Steve]

Probably do it when your feeling good in the Relationship.

[Anonymous]

When she marries him.

[ThisAndThat]

BINGO!

[sheikalana]

I'd say. Date him for one year first.

[Twalli]

It really depends on what he can provide

[Dinosaursandanime65]

At least 3/4 of the year.

[bamesjond0069]

After 18 years.