Do you find yourself able to give others really good advice but not take that advice yourself?

[coachTanthony]

yes

no

Other ( maybe let me explain in the comments )

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[scholastic_vibez]

Usually I give good advice that I also accept for myself. But, the hardest part about taking your own advice is when others make you feel competitive.


I have a Bachelors in History, so nominally when it comes to things like investing in the stock market, I have the benefit of knowledge of historical marketing trends that some of my business and management friends don’t have. For example, all those friends buy a lot of margins of shares rather than the full shares, and I just laugh because I know the inherent dangers; that was a large factor in the 1929 crash. But, they don’t know any of those factors to consider. So, I’m cautious to only buy full shares.


Yet, as soon as I make a profit my friends encourage me to buy more, and sometimes the competitive spirit between us makes buy more than them. I haven’t bought too much that I can’t afford to lose, but in spite of what I know about the markets historically, it’s hard to follow my own advice with them egging me on to buy more.


They trust my knowledge, and advice to a point, but I always feel like deep down they’ll never really 100% trust my investment ideas because my academic background isn’t from traditional business and marketing. It’s kind of like, does the testimony of an anthropologist in a child custody case matter as much as a lawyer’s? Probably if that expert argues a valid argument, but the judicial system would still be biased to take the opinion of the lawyer more seriously, and the legal team with the anthropologist probably doesn’t usually win. It’s kind of depressing to think about. C’est la vie.

[BigPunny]

I'm probably an exception here, and maybe it will come across as if I "know it all," but all advice I've given on GaG is based on my experience and it is advice that I take myself, and have used myself.

I have a very healthy, happy 23 year relationship with my wife. I've learned so much over these years and have reached a point in our relationship where we are just always on the same page.

We had our volatile years, our years of "omgurd why do I torture myself," intermingled with years of happiness, only to finally rest on "okay, I get you and you get me."

As a result, I'm able to offer experience-based advice to people about what worked, what didn't work, what is 'normal', what is not 'normal', etc.

So, the advice I give is 100% rooted in the successes - and failures - of things that occur in my relationship, either now or in the past. Thankfully, I can honestly say that I practice what I preach, 100% (as it relates to relationship advice).

[nandinikhaneja]

So true. Like, I will uplift, motivate others, will help them if something is bothering me but when it comes to me, I am unable to do any of these stuffs. I really hate it that when I am showing love to them, why not to give some of it to yourself. Also, I will compliment others, will tell them that how beautiful they look, but when it comes to me, very less people will do the same towards me.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Hahahaha... the summary of my life in a nutshell.

It's ironic I can give great advice to others, especially regarding relationships and dating, yet I can't even help myself most times, or when I wind up in those same situations, I don't listen to my own advice.

It's easy to give advice when it doesn't involve yourself.

[Cathy7734]

Can you give me relationship advice? Everyone I meet seems to be self-centered and self-absorbed that they can't see beyond their own nose unless they want something from me. Most people I meet love to talk my right ear off because I'm a good listener. Are guys just this way nowadays?

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Cathy7734 "Are guys just this way nowadays?" No, PEOPLE in general are that way nowadays. I've met selfish, self centered women as well. It's just worse with each generation, as is dating. Unless it benefits that person, some people don't care, as bad as that sounds.

The good news is there are good people out there. The problem is finding said people- you know people that genuinely care and want you, and don't just want to use you.

You being a good listener is actually a good thing as it means people trust and respect you enough to confide in you and get your opinion. And yes, one day you might find a guy that likes that about you. The problem is finding a guy worth your time and effort. Just be patient.

[Cathy7734]

@Cynicaldreamer
It's true that I've met some men and women that aren't self-centered and so forth. But they are already in a relationship. It seems those people are quickly taken. And it seems that they don't mind being in a dysfunctional relationship, where they do most of the giving.

[OlderAndWiser]

Oh, Coach, YOU know the answer to this question, don't you?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Guilty as charged... what about you?

[coachTanthony]

Wow you are up late !!! Yes absolutely... many times!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

More fell asleep early so woke up but thankfully fell back asleep... having coffee now

[coachTanthony]

Ah well my days are upside down lately so I am up late and sleeping early.

[TwistedTube]

even worse, I'm capable of giving absolutely sound advice. But when I'm in the exact same situation, my reasoning is all over the place and I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. For some reason I find it far easier to think up stuff when it's for someone else's sake rather than mine

[notbot]

I am able to give advice to others. I do that a lot on Internet. Not like free advice but when they want it. And it often helps them. But if i face such problem, i would act as i adviced others. But I don't usually face same problems as them. So i can't comment on later part of the question, as i am restricted by the dataset.

[Cathy7734]

I'm sold on the idea that daily exercise is essential to lead a happy and healthy life. But I struggle with it.

[BUNroaster]

Been working on that sort of thing. Used to preach a lot about God while I went home n cussed out the ass and jerked off 10 times a week to some of the raunchiest porn. Weird stuff. Not proud and no long preach much of anything.

[Coulis]

No, I don't get all salty when people tell me about my ass.

[exitseven]

I sometimes have to be reminded but I try to not being a hypocrite.

[jamesgoldman]

I couldn't afford to take the advice I offer but it pays out well and I can sometimes get a cut

[Anonymous]

It's definitely easier for me to talk about things that could help than to apply them in my own life. But I still take my own advice.

[AFellowWeeb]

hmmm, actually interesting question, but no, i dont just preach, i also like to follow what i advise others to do

[Citizenkirk]

Most advice I give is derived from personal experience, and I wouldn't suggest something to someone in a situation I have been in, if I wouldn't take that advice myself given the benifit of hindsight.

[rievious]

Yes. I always seem to find myself saying "that advice doesn't work in this scenario"

[Iron_Man]

Usually I do but I can't always exercise if there is problems in the family

[InferiorElegy]

Nope, I don't think I'm smart enough that my advice would ever come off as potential.

[Shihab91]

When i give advice it's what i would do if i was on that situation.

[Shihab91]

In that*

[HawkPerception]

That's basically my life story. I'm the biggest hypocrite I know haha.

[jimmy2]

Oh no my advise comes from my experience so its my wisdom

[es20490446e]

I give plenty of advice, and take plenty of advice.

[es20490446e]

If there's something I don't take is commands without any explanation.

[Dude_777]

I give good advice and apply same advice to myself too.