There is a difference between being attentive and being clingy. I like attentive , clingy is a little much. Everyone has outside interests to their relationship and should be able to pursue them.
Yeah your right! I know I need to be vulnerable to fall love. I'm working on it I have s date coming up. I'll try and get out my comfort zone we'll see
Affectionate isn't 'clingy'. It's a matter of clarifying descriptive terms. Clingy is when they make you their drug of choice. It's like a mental illness.
If brain sizes/IQs match approximately (or even relative to others) then it isn't clinginess. Even when it is I don't mind it either/prefer it to the non-availability weak girls market as 'being independent'
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Most people just want a lot of alone time I guess. I am very clingy and everyone always says I'm annoying because of that.
Not to me Clingy to me is when someone won't give you any space or time alone at all not someone who wants to spend time with you and text and stuff when apart
Then what the point of a relationship. If you have a relationship but almost never spend time together. That's not a relationship. That's just a friendship.
Because being clingy means your partner depends on you way too much which in turn can lead to suffocation. I don't want to be suffocated, I want to be able to breathe and still have my own space. If a relationship shouldn't feel like a chore.
But relationships take work. In a relationship she would go into your life and you into hers. Any kind of "work" is a chore but that doesn't mean it's bad. You can work on it and still love it
Of course. I agree with that. But it doesn't have to be overbearing. Relationships require work, that in itself isn't bad. But that can be done without being suffocated. If you're being suffocated then you can lose the love of the relationship.
But if she doesn't care about spending time with you and seeing if your okay, showing care and wanting to be with you a lot then she'll probably leave and I'd be wondering during the whole time If she really cares
Not being clingy doesn't mean you don't care about your partner or you don't want to spend time with them. You don't need to be clingy to show how much you love someone. I appreciate you want to spend as much time as possible with the one you love. But there's a healthy balance involved. It's like that saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder". But that doesn't mean you need to be apart for your love for your partner to grow.
I don't think it's stupid and neglecting to want to spend your time with different people. Of course your partner is your priority and most of your time will be spent with them, but I don't think ALL your spare time should be spent with them. People have lives and would like to do different things with different people. That's not neglecting in my opinion, it's actually healthy.
Yes of course I connect emotionally, but there is a difference between emotionally connections and someone not being able to manage without you because of being too emotionally clingy.
Again needing someone in your life is not the same as someone not being able to cope without the other person, I'm talking on a day to day basis. You clearly don't understand this. In a long term relationship you can't be in eachother pocket night and day, it just doesn't work like that, a health relationship it one where you spend time together but you also spend time apart. It is very important for people to have their only time. You'll learn this in time.
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There is a difference between being attentive and being clingy. I like attentive , clingy is a little much. Everyone has outside interests to their relationship and should be able to pursue them.
What's the difference?
If she interferes with my hobbies and wants me to stop seeing my friends that is clingy.
I agree! Relationships seem to involve a lot of games and that takes the fun out of them.
No joke. I agree
I don't know. I've always been told it's negative so I remind myself and back off when I feel I'm becoming too emotionally attached
I don't think it's bad at all
Most of the time I worry about pushing him away and getting hurt so I just keep my guard up
That sounds like your trapping yourself
I know I've nude been hurt a few times and don't want to get hurt again
It's not that I don't want to, I do, I just bet into my head about it to be 100% honest
*get
Being honest is important. But building walls where there doesn't need to he isn't healthy
Yeah your right! I know I need to be vulnerable to fall love. I'm working on it I have s date coming up. I'll try and get out my comfort zone we'll see
After a while clingness can get annoying and obsessive especially if a person is that way
In a relationship are you not wanting to be with that person a lot?
I'm not in a relationship
Affectionate isn't 'clingy'. It's a matter of clarifying descriptive terms.
Clingy is when they make you their drug of choice. It's like a mental illness.
If brain sizes/IQs match approximately (or even relative to others) then it isn't clinginess.
Even when it is I don't mind it either/prefer it to the non-availability weak girls market as 'being independent'
Most people just want a lot of alone time I guess. I am very clingy and everyone always says I'm annoying because of that.
Alone time in a relationship? Sounds like a friendship
Yep I don't understand why people want alone time in a relationship.
Me neither
What you describe is a normal relationship I don't class that as being clingy
It is? Not clingy?
Not to me Clingy to me is when someone won't give you any space or time alone at all not someone who wants to spend time with you and text and stuff when apart
Because that means you have no idependance. I already had an overbearibg mum dont wanna repeat that
Have your own life...
Then what the point of a relationship. If you have a relationship but almost never spend time together. That's not a relationship. That's just a friendship.
There is a difference between spending time together and being basically co-dependant
Im not there to be your comfot blanket all the time. Gotta learn to take care of yourself. No guarentee there will always be someone around
So do you not care for the other person? What are they to you?
I do care about them of course. But you need to be able to at least handle yourself for the most part
I have no issue helping but uf you make no attempt to even try to understand/learn from it then thats your problem not mine
At that point i would feel like im being taken advantage of. Been there, not fun and never again
But wouldn't you want to spend time with them? What's the problem with wanting to spend time with them?
Again you are missing the point. I have no issue spending time with someone
But if you have to be woth someone all the time then you can't be alone which is a red flag to me
Ah... Honestly being alone is boring and I have nothing else to do anyway
Because being clingy means your partner depends on you way too much which in turn can lead to suffocation. I don't want to be suffocated, I want to be able to breathe and still have my own space. If a relationship shouldn't feel like a chore.
*no "if" in the last sentence.
But relationships take work. In a relationship she would go into your life and you into hers. Any kind of "work" is a chore but that doesn't mean it's bad. You can work on it and still love it
Of course. I agree with that. But it doesn't have to be overbearing. Relationships require work, that in itself isn't bad. But that can be done without being suffocated. If you're being suffocated then you can lose the love of the relationship.
But if she doesn't care about spending time with you and seeing if your okay, showing care and wanting to be with you a lot then she'll probably leave and I'd be wondering during the whole time If she really cares
Not being clingy doesn't mean you don't care about your partner or you don't want to spend time with them. You don't need to be clingy to show how much you love someone. I appreciate you want to spend as much time as possible with the one you love. But there's a healthy balance involved. It's like that saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder". But that doesn't mean you need to be apart for your love for your partner to grow.
It just seems... dumb.. why would I purposely not spend time with her when I can? That's seems stupid and neglecting
I don't think it's stupid and neglecting to want to spend your time with different people. Of course your partner is your priority and most of your time will be spent with them, but I don't think ALL your spare time should be spent with them. People have lives and would like to do different things with different people. That's not neglecting in my opinion, it's actually healthy.
They obviously don't love and aren't the relationship type.
I mean those, who say clingy is bad or see clingy as a bad/desperate thing.
It’s not bad. It’s people who aren’t mutually interested to the same degree.
Nope, it makes it easier to find them when the food supply runs low
Because I don't want to be their emotional crutch.
So do you not connect emotionally?
Yes of course I connect emotionally, but there is a difference between emotionally connections and someone not being able to manage without you because of being too emotionally clingy.
If you don't need a relationship or don't need someone in your life. Then what's the point of even being with someone.
Lol having a relationship is not the same as not coping without someone.
If you don't need someone in your life, shouldn't you just cut them out?
Again needing someone in your life is not the same as someone not being able to cope without the other person, I'm talking on a day to day basis. You clearly don't understand this. In a long term relationship you can't be in eachother pocket night and day, it just doesn't work like that, a health relationship it one where you spend time together but you also spend time apart. It is very important for people to have their only time. You'll learn this in time.
Men think it’s good, women think it’s creepy
I'd love it if a woman was clingy. It means she actually wants to be with me and I'd not have to worry about her cheating
I don't find it creepy, I think its awesome when guys are like that. Its so sweet when I see couples like this, like look at them crazy kids. ❤
bad. give me some personal space.
So you want to be in someone's life but not at the same time? I'm confused
no to needy, clingy and smothering people.
Yeah. True
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