Please help I am so upset😔?

[Anonymous]

I came from a very religious family we have middle eastern origins known for their own rules and so and they became a part of me despite we re quiet an open minded family.. i like to let my family know about who i am going out with like making bonds between my friends with them and their families as well..

Here comes the main part , i am dating this guy for like 7 months and one week, i introduced him to my family they didn't meet yet but he knows already my siblings and we went out toghther for several times with them and told my mom about him and she appreciates that kindness from his part.. i grow up feelings for him he is the one i really want to share my life with and build our own future and he always says that he wants that as well, we re still both studying at university he is 22 years old and i am 21.. we talked about our future plans toghther and he said he needs years to get a job and improve himself earn good money so then he can let our families to know about our relation and then he can come and ask for my hand and be my fiance.. it quiet upsets me, he didn't even try to introduce me to his family and i feel like i am lying to my family not letting them know at least about our relation so then it will be easier later at least i can garante something till we can get married and before even he can go study abroad next year.. i feel so afraid that he won't be on his words and that he only using me..

[caring__1]

Relationships don't come with guaranties, though you can raise your odds by keeping your communication clear, open and honest. He's saying it will take years before he can let the families know about the relationship. That's very vague and general. Rather than accept "years," ask him exactly what he believes he needs to do before accepting accountability for the relationship. That way, you can keep track of his progress and seek clarification when certain things aren't being addressed. You can also ask him to explain the reasons he feels he needs these things before acknowledging he is with you. Find out if he fears commitment or if he fears he won't measure up to your parents' expectations if he acknowledges the relationship before then. It sounds like he is making a lot of assumptions without learning what is true.

Let him know you want to feel proud of him and openly accept him into your life, but his delay tactics make it hard for you to do that. Let him know no one expects him to be fully established before he acknowledges he cares about you and sees you in his future. The longer he avoids bringing everything out in the open, the less likely he'll ever get around to doing it.

[Anonymous]

I think this can only be solved by talking about it with him. Communication is a huge factor of a successful and long lasting relationship. Just talk to him, ask him why and tell him how you feel. If you cannot talk to him about it or anything else then why are you thinking about getting married?

[Opinion Owner]

Also the more you think about it and the more you stress over it and try to come up with reasons yourself the worse the outcome. I have a problem myself with assuming and terrifying myself and it has caused problems. I’m not saying you have that problem I’m just saying don’t let your imagination run wild or terrify you when you could have a great relationship. He could be waiting because you aren’t. You don’t know until you ask him.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't have future plans with you

[Asker]

How is that and he so often tells me i wanna be with you till the last breath even tho when i wanna break up with him he keeps getting me back doing his best and he told me that he is serious about me

[Opinion Owner]

Why dont you ask him directly about you meeting his family