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" How can I make him see that I made a mistake in the past" You can't, that stigma will stick with you till your last day on this place we call Earth.
Tbh you should be grateful he stays with you. You shouldn't lie about it, but also you can't just expect people to be okay with that. If you are really upset about his judgements, then you can always leave him.
You are sleeping in a bed YOU made for yourself. He is not the problem here. You have given him a very good reason not to trust you, and now you are living with the fallout.
Honestly, if I were in his shoes I would not trust you either. He is not the problem here.
My advice to you is to keep your cheating past to yourself in the future. Cheaters cheat.
He should break up with you.
It is obvious you two aren't compatible.
He is just too lazy or blind to see it.
He isn't happy with you if he has this much anxiety.
He needs to find a loyal girl.
Believe this: when a girl is honest about her past, no matter how sordid it is, it builds trust. It doesn't destroy it.
If he is not willing to look past it. Love him. Treat him right but do it both on your way out.
add me back
Okay, I will.
I wouldn't want to date a past cheater myself. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
Not necessarily. Some people learn from their mistakes.
@Matt24694 doubt it, and i'd rather not date someone with that kind of past of knowingly being a cunt.
I was foolish enough too cheat on a girlfriend once and the pain and upset I caused at the time makes it more unlikely I'll make the same mistake again.
@Matt24694 glad you learnt from it. but i wouldn't even put myself in the place for it. my preference.
My current girlfriend is aware of what happened as she knows the two girls involved and trusts me completely.
then to me she's a fucking idiot. but good for you.
They say that "once a cheater always a cheater", so it would take time for you to earn his trust.
But they can be wrong too. Cheaters can change. Not a good record to have but what's done is done.
@Jlegacy yes but you proved you were untrustworthy. There's also almost never a reason to cheat unless sex is just being withheld as a MEANS TO HARM.
However way you interpret what I said is fine by me but people change and even if you disagree, it won't change my mind. So agree to disagree?
@Jlegacy i never said you can't change. I am saying dont expect an overnight switch to just flicker on for the person you just cheated with. They have a right to take all the time they need to digest what just happened and make their own decision and that needs to be respected. If it happened once it's forgivable. If it happens a second time you're a piece of shit that probably doesn't deserve their love. Repeat offenders get zero excuses in my book. If you got drunk then never drink around the opposite sex unless its with your partner or mother or something. Take preventative measures.
I agree that cheating is wrong and an offender who is prone to it should take precautions but I also believe that there is room for brisk change in this life. I have never cheated but I do believe anyone who does can change and her honesty, ought to convince anyone that she wasn't happy about it. Unrepentant offenders would just hide the truth and keep hurting the one's they claim to love.
You're calling it a mistake so I wonder if you'll make the same mistake with him
Hey, you told him the truth, soif he's gonna act creepy than maybe its best to cut him loose.
a trust issue is a tough one.
He may of had something like that happen to tehm in the past, or the old addage, once a cheater, always a cheater.
I can't trust anyone who would cheat so maybe he will need time to work through it
Or does it define you absolutely until next time... The chronicles of the cheaters
You shouldn’t have told him. I never discuss my past relationships with my husband. Your fault tbh
Can i know what he is doing that disturb you so much?
I mean he chose you. If he can't let that go, that's his failure
Once a cheater always a cheater? Wow so that only applies to men eh !! Nobody is giving that analogy now
@Aakash_Hangargi Once a cheater always a cheater? ↗
Check my opinion
#StopAssumptions
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Yea as a man that has been cheated on in every relationship it's pretty heart breaking and makes it hard to trust women again.
You did the right thing by telling him about your past, so that he can take an informed decision. And I think he's made his decision, obviously he don't want to be with you. So move on
next time keep the pussy tight
He thinks you'll also make the same mistake with him
That’s not called a mistake! Haha the word mistake means without your cause or control. Tornado ripping off your roof would be a mistake, haha
Mistake is actually an action or judgment that was misguided. We have control over our mistakes. We don’t have control so much over an accident. A tornado ripping off your roof would be a natural disaster.
That’s just something losers say. Is not by accident that less than 5% of people are fit / happy / wealthy.
What she wrote is the actual definition of the word Mistake, it's in the dictionary.
"Tornado ripping off your roof would be a mistake" That is not a mistake, it's a accident.