I don't think there's anything wrong with being emotionally invested into someone you deeply love/care about, even if you're not with them anymore.
If you've shared great memories/moments with them, if you grew as a person with them by your side and/or some of your most happiest times were with them, I'd imagine it'd be near impossible to forget about them and it'd be very difficult to move on. That just shows how devoted and passionate you were to her; how you can't imagine life without her there by your side. That kind of loyalty and passion is hard to come by nowadays!
If it's possible to be with her again, then you shouldn't give up your feelings for her by any means! If you're not able to, you'll either need to allow time to run its course or you'll need to start investing your time with someone new to help you move forward and not be stuck in the past. It's encouraging to know people like you exists and I have a good feeling your love life will be a happy and fulfilling one, once you find the right woman in your life 😊
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This typically means one hasn't healed from the pain of the loss. There was possible something significant that you experienced with one person that is difficult to find. Each person will have their own unique attributes, this one person had a lot of those attributes you later realized you wanted. Women usually move on after they let their emotions out. Men try to hold everything in and don't want others to see and because of this, it takes much longer to let go. There are at least 12 stages of emotions. Each emotion has to be accepted, do not deny the emotion, embrace it. When you are in love breaking up is like being removed from a drug that a person is addicted to. Be thankful that it’s done, and you didn’t waste a second more on a relationship that was doomed to fail. Don’t focus on what you did wrong or what you could’ve done better; if they won’t tell you, then it’s time to move on and try again because what applied to one person may not apply to another.
Depends on for how long and how much you actually interact. If you see her everyday at work or something it is not so weird, if it is a couple of times a year, then it is odd. But you can probably do something about it then, remind yourself not to occupy your mind with her so often.
Anyway, it only potentially hurt yourself, unless you were to stalk her or something, so up to you how much you will work to let the feelings decrease and maybe make space for another girl.
It is not wrong of you love her enough to let her go and you are not obsessed with her. If loving her is the thing which will make you happy then surely do it but make sure she is happy and you don't do something stupid if she doesn't accepts you. Don't poke your nose in her life (I don't mean not to support her in hard times). Don't ruin her life for your happiness and respect her views. If you follow these things then no it is not wrong.
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Hey I am in the same boat as you. I have a similar situation with a girl that I really care for and have feelings towards. But also keep in mind as wait you and continued to have those feelings it can prevent you from meeting new girl that actually returns those feelings as you have. She is still young and has a lot to experience out in the dating world. So she may not be ready for the type of commitment that you are looking for. From the advice of my friends and family, they say to be there for her as friend and also be open to the idea of meeting new people. This would help you grow as individual and her as well. It could be she just needs time, we guys fall for girls easily, but they take longer than we do. But when she does fall for you it’s the real deal. Your not alone, I feel the same way.
I am in the same boat. I knew a girl a year ago and can't get her out of my mind. It's consuming me. She was my dream girl. Problem was she was my therapist. I can never ever see her again for the rest of my life. That sucks. Hopefully with your situation you can see her again. We liked each other. We kissed. Life sucks and so does love. If there's still a chance with her go for it. Don't sit here like have and let it kill you inside.
It just shows how much you love her. That kind of love is hard to find. It’s a shame it didn’t work out for you. You will probably always feel strongly for her, but you will be ready to move on at some point.
It's not wrong, but if it's unrequited then you have to accept that and move on. Meet more people and I'm sure you'll find someone else that lights your fire too.
No, that is the way it should be if you have strong feelings towards someone. There should be no feelings to anyone else.
Yes you can help it. Stop thinking you know what's best for yourself all the time. It's not wrong but get a clue don't forget reality.
it happens, a few of us are feeling the same and in the same boat as you, not wrong.
what is the context of the relationship, crush, friend etc?It's definitely unhealthy to dwell on one person forever. You're going to have to get over your oneitis if you want to have a chance at a healthy relationship in the future.
Been there, done that. A complete waste of time but you can't control it anyways. But don't harp on her and start looking for someone new
In all of my life I have had loving feelings for only one girl and she has been my wife for many years.
It’s wrong if whatever relationship you have with her is toxic.
time heals all wounds.. but put effort to not waste your time
its not wrong about your feelings for one girl.. but it starts go wrong when you make that girl feel uneasy.
My definition of 'wrong' is what produces bad outcomes. So in my view, yes it absolutely is.
How regularly do you see her and what makes you like her? Sounds like your love sick.
You're wasting your time like a champ, but that's not necessarily wrong.
It's not wrong it's just foolish. Odds are she will not return the feelings.
It's called loyalty which very few if any women have these days
I have the same issue. Wish I didn’t have the feelings.
No, it is not wrong at all.
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