Is it wrong to have feelings for one girl and nobody else?

[SasukeNinja2000]

I tried moving on many times, but I still have feelings for her. I’ve never felt this way about anyone before. I can’t help, but feel this way.

Yes, it’s wrong.

No, it’s not wrong at all.

[Aysen]

I don't think there's anything wrong with being emotionally invested into someone you deeply love/care about, even if you're not with them anymore.

If you've shared great memories/moments with them, if you grew as a person with them by your side and/or some of your most happiest times were with them, I'd imagine it'd be near impossible to forget about them and it'd be very difficult to move on. That just shows how devoted and passionate you were to her; how you can't imagine life without her there by your side. That kind of loyalty and passion is hard to come by nowadays!

If it's possible to be with her again, then you shouldn't give up your feelings for her by any means! If you're not able to, you'll either need to allow time to run its course or you'll need to start investing your time with someone new to help you move forward and not be stuck in the past. It's encouraging to know people like you exists and I have a good feeling your love life will be a happy and fulfilling one, once you find the right woman in your life 😊

[SasukeNinja2000]

Very well said, thanks. We were never in a relationship, but we’ve had good times together and had great conversations with each other. Those moments may not mean anything to her, but they do to me. She’s never been in a relationship before and has never gotten this much attention from a guy from what she told me. I have many reasons why I like her, but the number one thing is that she brings out the best in me, even when I’m having a bad day. She isn’t interested in me and I respect that. I’m fine with being friends and caring for her in that way, but I hope she’ll come around, since she’s only 19 years old and still has a lot to discover about herself, and what kind of person she’s looking for.

[Aysen]

You're very welcome!

For someone who brings out the best in you, has the potential to be at the very least, a best friend in the long run! I don't see any reasons why you can't wait for her at the moment, just to see if this friendship evolves over time or not since you both are at a very young age currently. I'm just curious how long you'd be willing to wait to see if she has a romantic interest in you? 3 years? 5 years? 10 years? The rest of your life? :)

[SasukeNinja2000]

You’re right, I’ll see through the friendship we have and wait to see how things go. I’ll wait however long it takes because I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I was in a relationship three years ago. I didn’t feel like this at all back then. I truly care about my crush. It has gotten to the point where I’m concerned about her getting the coronavirus because she doesn’t really wear a mask. She’s tells me that I shouldn’t worry because she’s not afraid of the virus. That’s her view and I respect that, but that doesn’t mean I’ll stop caring. I can tell all this is first and it’s a first for me too because I’ve never had deep feelings for anyone before. She’s the first. I just thought all this might have been wrong from girls point of view.

[horsenrhinounicorn]

This typically means one hasn't healed from the pain of the loss. There was possible something significant that you experienced with one person that is difficult to find. Each person will have their own unique attributes, this one person had a lot of those attributes you later realized you wanted. Women usually move on after they let their emotions out. Men try to hold everything in and don't want others to see and because of this, it takes much longer to let go. There are at least 12 stages of emotions. Each emotion has to be accepted, do not deny the emotion, embrace it. When you are in love breaking up is like being removed from a drug that a person is addicted to. Be thankful that it’s done, and you didn’t waste a second more on a relationship that was doomed to fail. Don’t focus on what you did wrong or what you could’ve done better; if they won’t tell you, then it’s time to move on and try again because what applied to one person may not apply to another.

[SasukeNinja2000]

You’re right, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Depends on for how long and how much you actually interact. If you see her everyday at work or something it is not so weird, if it is a couple of times a year, then it is odd. But you can probably do something about it then, remind yourself not to occupy your mind with her so often.
Anyway, it only potentially hurt yourself, unless you were to stalk her or something, so up to you how much you will work to let the feelings decrease and maybe make space for another girl.

[SasukeNinja2000]

We interact quit frequently. We see each other every week. I appreciate the advice, but she has my heart and I’ve never felt this way before. Not even when I was in a relationship three years ago. Honestly, she brings out the best in me that nobody has done before. I care about her and would like to be there for her. I’ll continue to be her friend and be there for her in that way.

[Opinion Owner]

well, my 'advice' was : "so up to you how much you will work to let the feelings decrease and maybe make space for another girl." and that it is not weird if you see each other regularly. anyway good luck with it, hope you enjoy having the feelings :)

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’ll try, thanks.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Is it wrong that I’m in love with her and care for her this much, when we’re not together and she doesn’t like me at the moment. Things can change. Girls feeling can change overtime, right?

[Opinion Owner]

Feelings can change, but betting on it has very low odds.. keeping hope alive for something unrealistic is not always good.. I personally think it is better to focus on something else.. her feelings can change even if yours is at bay.

[Apulu_3]

It is not wrong of you love her enough to let her go and you are not obsessed with her. If loving her is the thing which will make you happy then surely do it but make sure she is happy and you don't do something stupid if she doesn't accepts you. Don't poke your nose in her life (I don't mean not to support her in hard times). Don't ruin her life for your happiness and respect her views. If you follow these things then no it is not wrong.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I have to ask. Is this the feeling when you’re in love with someone and you tried moving on multiple times? Do girls know, when you’re in love with them? I told me crush that I moved on multiple times and she seems fine that I’m still interested in her. She’s never told me to move on. I’ll wait however long it takes for her to be ready to start dating because I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I was in a relationship three years ago. I didn’t feel like this at all back then. I truly care about my crush. It has gotten to the point where I’m concerned about her getting the coronavirus because she doesn’t really wear a mask. She’s tells me that I shouldn’t worry because she’s not afraid of the virus. That’s her view and I respect that, but that doesn’t mean I’ll stop caring. I can tell all this is first and it’s a first for me too because I’ve never had deep feelings for anyone before. She’s the first. I just thought all this might have been wrong from girls point of view. To be honest, she brings out the best in me, whenever I’m around her and talking to her. Nobody has done that before. She’s different and is special to me. We’re friends and see each other every week. I believe I have a chance because she’s only 19 years old, has never been in a relationship before and told me that she’s never gotten this much attention from a guy before. She’s still young and is still discovering stuff about herself and what she wants in a guy. I truly feel like she’s someone I’d like to be with. She’s not interested, but I feel like that can change because of what I told you. I care about and want to be there for her. We’re just friends and I’m just showing her I care as a friend. She brings out the best in me, whenever I’m with her and talking to her. When I was in a relationship that person never brought the best in me. My crush is different and I’ve never felt this way about anyone before.

[Apulu_3]

To be honest girls avoid to think that their friend is having crush on them because they don't want to ruin the relationship with a misunderstanding. It is nice that you care for her and I think she see you as a best friend or you are also Her crush because of what you said about her if she is not like this with everyone. Try to see the changes in her when she is with you and with her other best friends and you will know how much you are important for her. But as you said she is still learning about herself then you need to wait till she knows which kind of girl she is and which kind of guy she can suit with. Everything will be revealed after time so you just need to wait.

[Apulu_3]

And yes this is the feeling when you truly love someone from what I know. I gave the opinion from my views and it maybe not really accurate as I still haven't seen the real world and the feeling of love.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Thank you for all the advice. It means a lot to me. Is it wrong that I’m in love with her and care for her this much, when we’re not together and she doesn’t like me at the moment. Things can change. Girls feeling can change overtime, right?

[Apulu_3]

They may change many girls are fake too but remember not all girls are same. The girl you are talking about maybe extremely fake or extremely nice. And there is nothing wrong in caring about her all the time but remember to give her some privacy too otherwise most girls would misunderstand and feel like you are controlling them so keep space also. And there is nothing wrong in loving someone. Best of luck!

[Chivaslover21]

Hey I am in the same boat as you. I have a similar situation with a girl that I really care for and have feelings towards. But also keep in mind as wait you and continued to have those feelings it can prevent you from meeting new girl that actually returns those feelings as you have. She is still young and has a lot to experience out in the dating world. So she may not be ready for the type of commitment that you are looking for. From the advice of my friends and family, they say to be there for her as friend and also be open to the idea of meeting new people. This would help you grow as individual and her as well. It could be she just needs time, we guys fall for girls easily, but they take longer than we do. But when she does fall for you it’s the real deal. Your not alone, I feel the same way.

[SasukeNinja2000]

It’s hard for me. She’s one of those people who’s perfect for me and brings out of best in me. Some friends told me that I could do better, but their opinions don’t matter to me. I like her and care about her, that’s what should matter. Yes, you’re right. She’s still young and has a lot to discover about herself and what she wants in a guy. She’s never been in a relationship and has never gotten this much attention from a guy before. She’s 19 years old, if I didn’t mention that.

[Chivaslover21]

I know its hardest thing to do. I am still struggling with it everyday. Mostly people have said to move on but I don’t want to either. But waiting and doing nothing will slowly eat you inside, make things worse in the long run. By opening to yourself to new people, it can reinforce those feelings for her and potentially make new friends along the process. Our paths in life don’t seem to be align with our girls at this moment, but maybe down the road they will. If it does then the wait was worth it. But the main thing is we if just sitting and wait around like there is one else, it will slowly kill us inside. That will ruin any chances with have with them.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’ll keep my hopes up. I’ll say this though. She has my heart and I never felt that way before. Not even when I was in a relationship three years ago.

[Hellraiser1984]

I am in the same boat. I knew a girl a year ago and can't get her out of my mind. It's consuming me. She was my dream girl. Problem was she was my therapist. I can never ever see her again for the rest of my life. That sucks. Hopefully with your situation you can see her again. We liked each other. We kissed. Life sucks and so does love. If there's still a chance with her go for it. Don't sit here like have and let it kill you inside.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’m sorry to hear that. Well, I see my crush every week and believe I have a chance because she’s only 19 years old, has never been in a relationship before and told me that she’s never gotten this much attention from a guy before. She’s still young and is still discovering stuff about herself and what she wants in a guy. To be honest, she brings out the best in me and shows me that she cares. I truly feel like she’s someone I’d like to be with. She’s not interested, but I feel like that can change because of what I told you. I care about and want to be there for her. We’re just friends and I’m just showing her I care as a friend. She brings out the best in me, whenever I’m with her and talking to her. I was in a relationship three years ago and that person never brought the best in me. My crush is different and I’ve never felt this way about anyone before.

[dustybiker]

It just shows how much you love her. That kind of love is hard to find. It’s a shame it didn’t work out for you. You will probably always feel strongly for her, but you will be ready to move on at some point.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Is this the feeling when you’re in love with someone and you tried moving on multiple times? Do girls know, when you’re in love with them? I told me crush that I moved on multiple times and she seems fine that I’m still interested in her. She’s never told me to move on. I’ll wait however long it takes for her to be ready to start dating because I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I was in a relationship three years ago. I didn’t feel like this at all back then. I truly care about my crush. It has gotten to the point where I’m concerned about her getting the coronavirus because she doesn’t really wear a mask. She’s tells me that I shouldn’t worry because she’s not afraid of the virus. That’s her view and I respect that, but that doesn’t mean I’ll stop caring. I can tell all this is first and it’s a first for me too because I’ve never had deep feelings for anyone before. She’s the first. I just thought all this might have been wrong from girls point of view. To be honest, she brings out the best in me, whenever I’m around her and talking to her. Nobody has done that before. She’s different and is special to me. We’re friends and see each other every week. I believe I have a chance because she’s only 19 years old, has never been in a relationship before and told me that she’s never gotten this much attention from a guy before. She’s still young and is still discovering stuff about herself and what she wants in a guy. I truly feel like she’s someone I’d like to be with. She’s not interested, but I feel like that can change because of what I told you. I care about and want to be there for her. We’re just friends and I’m just showing her I care as a friend. She brings out the best in me, whenever I’m with her and talking to her. When I was in a relationship that person never brought the best in me. My crush is different and I’ve never felt this way about anyone before.

[dustybiker]

It’s the feeling of being lovesick.
No, just like with men, woman don’t always know how you are feeling unless you tell them.
Ask her if you can sit down and talk with her. Tell her how you feel in a few direct words, the part about you feeling she brings out the best in you is nice.
See how she responds. She may or may not feel the same way, but she might. If she doesn’t you need to let her go.

[SasukeNinja2000]

She doesn’t feel the same way at the moment and I respect that. I still have feelings for her though. I’m sorry. It’s something probably didn’t want to hear from me.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Is it wrong that I’m in love with her and care for her this much, when we’re not together and she doesn’t like me at the moment. Things can change. Girls feeling can change overtime, right?

[dustybiker]

I wouldn’t waste time waiting for her. We can’t decide who we fall for.

[KrisPW]

It's not wrong, but if it's unrequited then you have to accept that and move on. Meet more people and I'm sure you'll find someone else that lights your fire too.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I tried moving on multiple times. I’ll wait however long it takes for her to be ready to start dating because I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I was in a relationship three years ago. I didn’t feel like this at all back then. I truly care about my crush. It has gotten to the point where I’m concerned about her getting the coronavirus because she doesn’t really wear a mask. She’s tells me that I shouldn’t worry because she’s not afraid of the virus. That’s her view and I respect that, but that doesn’t mean I’ll stop caring. I can tell all this is first and it’s a first for me too because I’ve never had deep feelings for anyone before. She’s the first. I just thought all this might have been wrong from girls point of view. To be honest, she brings out the best in me, whenever I’m around her and talking to her. Nobody has done that before. She’s different and is special to me. We’re friends and see each other every week.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Is it wrong that I’m in love with her and care for her this much, when we’re not together and she doesn’t like me at the moment. Things can change. Girls feeling can change overtime, right?

[PrettyPriya]

No, that is the way it should be if you have strong feelings towards someone. There should be no feelings to anyone else.

[SasukeNinja2000]

That’s good to know. I had to ask because I’m not sure, if girls get annoyed by a guy still liking them.

[PrettyPriya]

@sasukeninja2000

Maybe she does? But, those are YOUR emotions and thoughts. Hard to change the way you feel about someone, agreed?

[SasukeNinja2000]

Yes, I agree. She should know that. We were never in a relationship, but we’ve had good times together and had great conversations with each other. Those moments may not mean anything to her, but they do to me. I have many reasons why I like her, but the number one thing is that she brings out the best in me, even when I’m having a bad day. She isn’t interested in me and I respect that. I’m fine with being friends and caring for her in that way, but I hope she’ll come around, since she’s only 19 years old and still has a lot to discover about herself, and what kind of person she’s looking for.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Is it wrong that I’m in love with her and care for her this much, when we’re not together and she doesn’t like me at the moment. Things can change. Girls feeling can change overtime, right?

[PrettyPriya]

@sasukeninja2000

Absolutely they can change over time. I grew up, matured, and my priorities changed.

[RawIronhide]

Yes you can help it. Stop thinking you know what's best for yourself all the time. It's not wrong but get a clue don't forget reality.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’ll keep this in mind.

[RawIronhide]

Good luck man.

[readyplayer001]

it happens, a few of us are feeling the same and in the same boat as you, not wrong.
what is the context of the relationship, crush, friend etc?

[SasukeNinja2000]

It’s nice to know I’m not the only one. I’ll wait however long it takes for her to be ready to start dating because I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I was in a relationship three years ago. I didn’t feel like this at all back then. I truly care about my crush. It has gotten to the point where I’m concerned about her getting the coronavirus because she doesn’t really wear a mask. She’s tells me that I shouldn’t worry because she’s not afraid of the virus. That’s her view and I respect that, but that doesn’t mean I’ll stop caring. I can tell all this is first and it’s a first for me too because I’ve never had deep feelings for anyone before. She’s the first. I just thought all this might have been wrong from girls point of view. To be honest, she brings out the best in me, whenever I’m around her and talking to her. Nobody has done that before. She’s different and is special to me. We’re friends and see each other every week.

[readyplayer001]

you never know what he future holds for either of you, just go on with life best you can and everyday and see what happens.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Will do, thanks.

[BrosephBrostar]

It's definitely unhealthy to dwell on one person forever. You're going to have to get over your oneitis if you want to have a chance at a healthy relationship in the future.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I already tired to multiple times.

[t-8900]

Been there, done that. A complete waste of time but you can't control it anyways. But don't harp on her and start looking for someone new

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’ll keep this in mind, thank you.

[t-8900]

Too bad it's not your Sakura chasing you 👌

[SasukeNinja2000]

I know, right?

[Mac-One]

In all of my life I have had loving feelings for only one girl and she has been my wife for many years.

[SasukeNinja2000]

That’s awesome! Happy for you! Were you in the same situation as me?

[Flower7]

It’s wrong if whatever relationship you have with her is toxic.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Okay, good to know. Our friendship isn’t toxic.

[GoldenCage]

time heals all wounds.. but put effort to not waste your time

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’ll remember this.

[lilaccc]

its not wrong about your feelings for one girl.. but it starts go wrong when you make that girl feel uneasy.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Thank you. I’ll keep that in mind. She’s never been in a relationship before and has never gotten this much attention from a guy ever from what she told me.

[lilaccc]

it means.. maybe you have a chance as long as she's ok with that.

[SasukeNinja2000]

She isn’t interested in me, but I’m hoping things can change because she’s only 19 years old. She still has a lot to discover about herself and what she wants in a guy.

[lilaccc]

welcome to friendzone :) kidding. u have to be patient, but pls don't give it high hopes bcs it gives you pain if something's not going well😅

[Laura456]

How regularly do you see her and what makes you like her? Sounds like your love sick.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I see her every week.

[DCooper]

My definition of 'wrong' is what produces bad outcomes. So in my view, yes it absolutely is.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’m glad it’s not wrong.

[DCooper]

Hey, you do you. All some of us are saying is that the longer you feed this need to put someone up on a pedestal, the more potential damage you do yourself. If those thoughts bring out the best in you, then you'd be wise to find that motivation in a more healthy way is all. Motivating you is your responsibility, not hers. She's got her own life to live, and it's likely that will involve romantic relationships... and where does that put you mentally when you see her with another dude?

Shoot your shot with her, shit or get off the pot as they say. If it goes well, then great, at least for a while. If not, then at least you'll be motivated to deal with it. I'm not trying to cheapshot you bro, but obsession is not good for you.

[FilmGuy93]

You're wasting your time like a champ, but that's not necessarily wrong.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I appreciate you being honest, thanks.

[ChiTown33]

It's not wrong it's just foolish. Odds are she will not return the feelings.

[SasukeNinja2000]

She isn’t interested in me at the moment, but I’m hoping things can change because she’s only 19 years old. She still has a lot to discover about herself and what she wants in a guy. She’s never been in a relationship before and has never gotten this much a attention from a guy before. I’m hoping things can change though.

[ChiTown33]

Yeah and you can date others in the meantime. Hey I don't care man it's your life do what you want. I was just trying to keep you from turning yourself into a monk and wasting years of your life on some fantasy lol

[Anonymous]

It's called loyalty which very few if any women have these days

[SasukeNinja2000]

Thanks for that.

[Anonymous]

I have the same issue. Wish I didn’t have the feelings.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Hope your situation is better, than mine.

[serious]

No, it is not wrong at all.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Good to know. Thank you.

[exitseven]

I think that is how it is supposed to work.

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’m glad to know that.

[Snakeyes7]

Humans are pair borders after all.

[SasukeNinja2000]

You might be right.

[nice-girl]

I voted it's wrong in the aspect that it is making you suffer. I mean if this is not reciprocated.

[SasukeNinja2000]

That’s what you think. Thanks for answering.

[paigefaithful]

I'm in the exact same situation

[SasukeNinja2000]

I’m sure your situation is better, than mine.

[SasukeNinja2000]

Is it wrong that I’m in love with her and care for her this much, when we’re not together and she doesn’t like me at the moment. Things can change. Girls feeling can change overtime, right?

[jimmy2]

We need more men like you sir

[SasukeNinja2000]

Definitely. I just wish she saw it that way. Maybe, she does. I don’t know.

[jimmy2]

Find out

[SasukeNinja2000]

Okay.

[Anonymous]

Yers becuz she will fuck you over

[SasukeNinja2000]

Why do you say that? Have you gone through this before?

[Opinion Owner]

most men have

[Anonymous]

No, hopefully she has feelings for you also.

[SasukeNinja2000]

She isn’t interested in me at the moment, but I’m hoping things can change because she’s only 19 years old. She still has a lot to discover about herself and what she wants in a guy. She’s never been in a relationship before and has never gotten this much attention from a guy before. Also, she seems fine with me still liking her. She never told me to move on.

[ChiPaPa]

Nope~

[SasukeNinja2000]

That’s good to know, thanks.

[IronsKev]

No it's very common

[SasukeNinja2000]

That’s good to know. Had to know, if this was wrong.

[pink_and_inlove]

No it’s not

[SasukeNinja2000]

It looks like it’s not. I’m really glad to know that.

[Anonymous]

do you see her at work every week?

[SasukeNinja2000]

Yes, I do.

[Opinion Owner]

what your work? do you work together?

[IncognitoBandito]

It can become inconvenient

[SasukeNinja2000]

You might be right, but I hope you understand where I’m coming from.