I lied to my boyfriend about my age twice.. what should I do now (please read )?

[Anonymous]

Hi..
First of all I'm 18 years old now me and my boyfriend did not have sex before that, and my birthday is in September.
I apologize about the grammar as i'm not a Native

3 and a half years ago I had to quit school as my family did not have both money and emotionally to support me I lived with my Grandma (She is my grand pa's big sister) and my half sister I started a job as a receptionist at a tiny guesthouse and people always look down on me as i'm the youngest in there they give me no respect at all. I met one cute foreign guy ill refer him as Jim I met Jim and we liked each other but he had girlfriend at that time and i was too young (He didn't know that) we didn't hangout properly but we have each other's social media...

7 months ago we started to talk he asked how old i am and i told him im 20.. that was before September a month or 2 after i felt bad and told him that im actually 19 so ill be 20 on September and his reaction was not too bad he said that he already like me and before we talk if he know that i'm under 20 he wouldn't talk to me...

a week ago he flew to meet me for 2 weeks after he flew back to his country he started to tell his family about me and everything seems to be so so real and and starting to hit me more and more and i feel like i have to tell him but I'm so afraid i will lose him.. what should i do now..

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+1 y

I just told him but he’s drunk so he said he will talk to me about this tomorrow

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I was happy and thought that everything will be so good as he is so kind and cute but every time I thought about our future i feel so bad in my chest cause i know everything will be so hard thanks to you guys I told him last night through text (as we are not in the same country) he need to know this.. he is a great guy and not deserve to be lied to no matter what the reason is I hope i can at least have a voice call with him if he will leave me..

[Anonymous]

Depends on his reaction to hearing 19. Was he even slightly bothered? It only went down from 3 years lie to a two year lie. So there's no doubt the flase disclosure made it worse. I'd personally not be upset to hear. But I also dig the implied insecurity which would compensate for having lied to me. Just don't get defensive about what you did and it will go as best it can. Good luck.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Honestly? Show him that up there ^^^^

Otherwise if you try and explain it, he will never believe anything you say again!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Well yeah. I did say not to tell him!

[Asker]

He is pretty mad right now, he told his family about me yesterday and I understand that he is mad but I don’t wanna lose him

[TommyMountainFigure]

Of course he's mad. He has no reason to believe you still aren't lying! That is why I suggested you showed him your question.
However, it isn't too late.. when he's sobered up and calmed down I would STILL show him that question.. complete with the answers because as much as I wouldn't want my business be banded around for all and sundry to comment on, I would at least know for certain it was FINALLY the truth! And that is the ONLY chance you have of keeping him.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You see, you haven't JUST told us what you haven't yet told him, but you bared your soul and I can see pure 100% honesty in there.

[Asker]

After 27 hours of waiting he decided to break up with me cause he said it’s a high risk to gamble his time with me.. an 18 years old girl who no matter how much experience I had or how I survived everything in the past he still think that age is important I understand that it’s wrong for me to lie but you really think it’s not worth it to try this? 😞

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm telling you one last time. Show him your question and then give him time to digest it. He will see if he's as smart as I hope he is that you asked on here out of sheer desperation for a way to finally come clean. Lies tear relationships up and you understand that now.

[Anonymous]

We'll that's a big mess up. I think the only way is to tell him. I would tell him that you lied about your age because you weren't really confident telling him.
And don't let it pass a lot more 'cause it will get worse

[PrettyPriya]

It is best to be honest with him about what your age is and why you felt you had to lie about it.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHG

[nawtee_me]

ne honest as you should have been in the first place. You reap what you sew...

[Twalli]

Why did you lie in the first place?