If a girlfriend REALLY wanted to break up with me, she wouldn't be telling me every day. She would tell me once, then she would end the relationship and we would have no further contact. That's how it works for my generation and for many of your generation as well.
I assume this guy doesn't rally want to break up so why does he make this comment. Most likely, he is reminding you that he has the power to break up with you and he thinks that your fear of a break up will make you more agreeable to do whatever he wants in a relationship.
Do you want to live with someone like that for the rest of your life? If not, then why spend more of your life with him when there are other guys who will treat you much better and not try to manipulate you like this?
If they tell you that every day, they obviously are not breaking up with you. They could be mad at you or they could be mad at themselves... in either case, it may be just a defensive reaction. If you want to continue the relationship, have a calm sit down talk with them and try to understand why they keep saying that.
Ok... so i used to do this every year as a running joke with my now wife. I said we had to break up the day before our anniversary so I could ask her out again on the day of our anniversary and every year would be our honeymoon phase.
She of course always said no, especially after we finally got married, but it did always make her smile and I'd do or give anything to see her smile.
I’d probably say well, since you keep saying that every day and never act on it, let me do you a favor and end this relationship for you. You’re welcome. It honestly - What kind of person acts like that, really. They sound extremely immature and petulant.
After she threatened it enough I'd get tired of thay and eventually tell her "I know you want me to do it for you but I won't so quit talking about it and do it already if your going to".
Thats what that sounds like she wants him to do it so she can feel she has a clear conscious.
I’d be hurt but i’d respond. WELL HOE YOU-JUST GOT GRANTED YOUR FIRST WISH! We’re over. And i may seek closure. May not. Screw em. I’ll get over em before the week ends
To me 8 months is nothing if they said that to me I'd be like goodbye on to the next one whenever that happens. I have absolutely no time for bullshit with a woman the minute I noticed they're playing games or they start that shit I'm out
If she or he said that, I would assume that they want you to be OK with it.. Because they don't want to create any lasting negative feelings. You should respect there feelings. It's ok to be sad. But if they want to go, you need to respect it.
That’s immaturity and sounds like a narcissistic firm of control that’s a red flag and no you can’t fix it best to bounce before you invest to much more in my opinion. Always know your worth
I would break up with them... they are either trying to manipulate me, or they aren't sure they want to be with be and I wouldn't put up with either of those reasons.
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Say okay and go my separate way. People who threaten this constantly (or even rarely) are emotionally draining. I don't let people continue to make empty threats. If they want to keep saying it, then it's really gonna happen.
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