If more girls went old-fashion, is this a good way to weed out users or those stringing us along?

[Anonymous]

If more of us went back to the old way and keep our v-cards then would this be a good way to weed out these guys:
- Pump and dumpers who are smooth talkers but once you have sex, they leave
- Those that want to keep forever gfs, but they never gets proposed.
- Those that even take it to the next step: a 5 year-old eternal engagement (proposed but no wedding date)

Those girls in the 3 examples gave in and that's what they got as a result: either a user or someone stringing her along. But if more of us went all fashion like our grandmothers used to (waiting till marriage) then would those current ''Been living with my boyfriend for 8 years, why isn't he proposing'' or ''We're engaged for 5 years, why isn't there a wedding date'' issues be solved already?

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+1 y

A couple of my friends are going old-fashion for that very same reason. They've seen it all; the games, the stringing-along, the fake promises, etc. They're getting tired of all that.

I don't deny there are girls that are only into sex too but those players and those stringing us along should go find those girls... not the girls that want a family.

[Seangreen]

That goes both ways if you go to old-fashioned you might turn somebody off from you and then they're just going to say I don't know if dealing with that shit and then again it depends on what your opinion on old fashioned oats your age compared to my age would you might consider old-fashioned is normal for me so who knows I don't know what you kids do nowadays

[slatyb]

No, instead we would have a lot more couples marry only to discover that they are sexually incompatible.

Your grandmothers weren’t any more chaste. They had more sex than today’s youth.

[Jamie05rhs]

That is categorically false. No previous generation (in modern times) has matched the sexual promiscuity of the current generation.

[kyleelyn199723]

I don’t know why people equal the old days with keeping your V card. Women back then were literally popping out kids at 16 and sometimes more younger. It was more common also.

[Asker]

But some of them were marrying their bfs and forming a family. There were less ''living together for 8 years and no proposal'' situation back then.

[kyleelyn199723]

Living for 8 years with no proposal doesn’t describe what you described above though. You described hook up culture, or “pump and dump”

[kyleelyn199723]

To answer your question though : I think the reality is no. The way us women dress doesn’t have to do with the fact that the world has gotten just a little more free and the world has became a little bit more accepting of what wasn’t accepted before. For example, I am a woman that has no desire to get married. Back then that wouldn’t be acceptable to voice.

[kyleelyn199723]

And lastly, you have to remember that divorce wasn’t common back then, so lots of those women were in abusive relationships AND were married to Cheaters. Girl I worked at a strip club before. Our clientele was 90% married men

[Asker]

Then what should be the solution for girls that want marriage and kids but continue finding themselves in the ''forever girlfriend'' situation, where man doesn't proposes after several years of living together. How should more of us get out of that position of getting string along?

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker you have to go for a guy that actually wants that. I’ve been in several relationships, and a man will pretty much let you know. I had an ex that was very very sure he wanted to get married to me and I did not want to. I found myself someone that prefers the same as me and he let me know from the start. I feel like women try to change men’s minds about this stuff pretty much instead of just going for someone else

[kyleelyn199723]

I think the problem is, marriage social norms have far sailed so no matter how women change themselves to be “old fashioned “ you may just not find someone who wants to get married.

[kyleelyn199723]

Legal systems created people to think getting married is a huge loss- which many many cases have proved how ugly outcomes become if the marriage so doesn’t work out. Men don’t want to be involved with that anymore

[bamesjond0069]

YES! Finally one girl gets it! Pull all the stops we need a parade! Serious i try to tell girls this all the time and they look at me like im weird and just dont get it.

[SeekerOfBooty]

The only men willing to wait for marriage are the ones who can't get laid by other means.

But good luck.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's not true, dawg. I've been waiting since I was 11. I've had plenty of opportunities.

[Waldoe]

yes, being more old fashioned will get rid of the "Users" a real man will want to make an honest woman out of you.

[Anonymous]

By old-fashion, are you only referring to not having sex before marriage? If so, good luck with that.

[Asker]

To everything:
Waiting till marriage
Not drinking or smoking for the sake of being equal to a man... as if that's some turn on
Be a family oriented girl
Don't move in with a man without any real commitment (don't give everything to him for free)
Don't do dutch on the first date. If he pays, then let him... don't fight against it.
Surprise him with good meals... all coming from the heart
The girl being happy to embrace her feminine traits

[Asker]

Overall
... she'll get treated like a lady instead of some cheap girlfriend that he'll never marry
She in returns acts like a valuable lady

[Opinion Owner]

So you embrace the traditionally female gender role, including doing most of the house work, being a real mother to the children?

[Asker]

Sure. I think it's beautiful. In comparing to what the modern dating mentality (this ''but we're totally equal to men, stop opening my door'') and the going dutch has gotten, I'd rather go traditional.

[Opinion Owner]

Well then you sound like a high value woman and I hope you get a high value man, because you deserve one more than most women today. Cheers

[Anonymous]

Yes. But let's be honest you won't do it so why ask this question lol.

[Asker]

Why assume things? I've never move in with a boyfriend ever. I refuse to play the role of a wife to a boyfriend. lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Absolutely! 👍💯

[Anonymous]

Yes.