How do I stop obsessing over love?

[Anonymous]

I really want to be the type that doesn’t care about these things, but I seem to always seek out love. It’s become an obsession, especially these days. When I was younger, I would ship couples on shows/movies and just obsess over them and their romance. Now, I really want one of my own and I have never been able to find anything like that. And I don’t know if it’s because I feel like I’m getting old, but it’s like I can’t focus on anything else these days until I find someone for me.

It’s really keeping me from having a successful life and I really feel like it’s some sort of mental illness at this point.

[Alyssa_11]

Then don’t stop obsessing! We have a funny way of going about love and relationships in this day and age. We glamourise independence and being single — and if someone’s wants to be single then all the power to them! But we were made to form relationships and pro create. Codependency is a biological fact.

[Agem123]

Stay busy. Like work harder, make new friends, go out more often with the current ones, and most importantly talk to several guys until you find the one lol

[ms_and_ms]

Great advice!

[Asker]

I guess I just need to have more willpower, which I truly lack at the moment.

[Agem123]

@ms_and_ms 🤍

[Kaneki05]

Could be a mental illness, anything extreme could be. But also could just be lonely. Most of us want love and have such thoughts of fantasy's we want. How to stop tho, just always distractions though I don't think one truly can.

[AdithyaR]

Telling myself that I won't chosen by anyone for relationship helped for me 😂

But in seriousness. Try to focus on new hobbies, making friends, try traveling. Try to have fun with your life.

[Asker]

I like that first part. I think it might actually help me.

[AdithyaR]

Oh no please don't, that's not a rabbit hole you wanna go down. 😅 Save yourself!

[Asker]

Well, I can’t have fun with my life at the moment because I’m in school. And I’m not really social/outgoing at all. So, that seems like the best options to get me away from this.

[Asker]

option*

[AdithyaR]

Who says you can't have fun in school?

[Asker]

I have social anxiety, so it’s pretty hard for me to have fun in a place that does the best job at bringing it out. lol

[AdithyaR]

I understand how you feel, i struggle with social anxiety too. I've actually found a lot of good friends online, joining discord servers etc

[Asker]

Really? That seems interesting. I might give that a try.

[AdithyaR]

I wish you good luck!

[SAMI_DABBAB]

If you have more important things to worry about you'll stop worrying instantly, I remember being obsessed with it until something big popped up, I totally had no space for it, so a time will come where you'll be too busy for it

[Honesttguy]

Are u a girl? How about swipe yea on timder and actually go meet up with them not just sit there and smile for attention.

[Anonymous]

Me and you are in the same boat.

its on my mind. 24/7

[Asker]

Really? Didn’t think guys cared about this stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

Some do, Theirs nothing more in the world that i would love, Than to find that 1 person you can truly trust 100%. The real thing. Il take that over sex any day.

That bond you have with somebody emotionally, Mentally. Everything. Where you can just pour your heart out to un affraid ,

[innerman]

When u find people kissing in the park, throw your milkshake at them, otherwise God will not hear your prayers. YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING

[Iron_Man]

Don’t make that your life concern do what you have to do live your life

[KoolKidKv93]

I'd give up on it these days. It seems impossible to find love and be loved in 2022

[KoolKidKv93]

Seems like something of the past... Who needs love anyway?

[KoolKidKv93]

Don't get me wrong I'd love to be loved. But no girls seem to want me. I'm a creep 😭😭😭

[Danny_dan92]

By thinking of other things

[ms_and_ms]

@Agem123 said it best

[Guslove]

It makes you feel good loved it’s hard not to!!

[Meatunnel69]

Human nature

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Animal behaviors