I met this guy at work we work together and we became good friends and we got along well but The problem is that I'm from Europe and his black?

[Anonymous]

We have different culture and I view life differently and I'm religious. He started to have feelings for me and I was kinda interested in him too but he went to far telling me how he really likes me and he sees future with me. I tried explain to him that it might not work out with us in future bc I am different race and have different culture and religion and in our culture we don't marry different race ( for the most part) so after all this time we been talking and stuff I had to break it off he got very heart broken bc he said he spended so much time and effort on me and said he can't love any girl anymore after what I did. Than later he comes up to me and says is it bc I am black? I personally can't do anything about it bc my parents would of disapprove me being with him so I had to break it off am I wrong?

[whereismyjohnny]

Yep, you are wrong.

[Asker]

How so?

[whereismyjohnny]

Did you like him?

If you did, and if you “clicked” I think it’s wrong to leave him purely because he is of a different race, culture, etc.

[Asker]

But what was I supposed to do continue this on if sooner or later I know it won't work out in future

[whereismyjohnny]

I agree that he was moving too fast, and it would scare me too. I wouldn’t be opposed to trying and taking things slowly.

I wouldn’t see a difference in race and culture as an obstacle when it comes to dating. Neither parents’ opinion could stop me. If they really love you they would accept him. It’s not like you are bringing the murderer over. But that’s just me, I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

I forgot to add I have different religion too

[whereismyjohnny]

It still wouldn’t be a problem for me, tbh.

I know some religions forbid being with someone of a different religion but I think if two people love each other, it shouldn’t matter. I don’t see the problem in it as long as they respect each other’s religion and one of them doesn’t try to convert the other.

[Asker]

I understand thank you for being kind with you're answer! But about religion he actually wants to convert to mine

[whereismyjohnny]

You are welcome! ☺️

I hope it works out for you two if you give it a try!

[Asker]

Well after I broke his heart I don't think he wants me back now. Bc we haven't talked in months :(

[Asker]

He might have moved on now

[whereismyjohnny]

I really don’t know what to say 😔 I think most of us would be hurt and disappointed in a situation like that if we were in his place.

Maybe you could try to reach out to him?