Issue with my love help me out?

[Anonymous]

hey guys, I have an issue with guy a fall in love with. My crush! We have been through a lot of things, shared a lot with each other, met his friends and his brother knows about our situation from day one. Now ur issue is, my crush is very rude when I say something he gets angry and out of evil wants revenge to ignore me I already called him but pushes me away every time. We were supposed to meet on Monday but he was too tired so I said, oh go and have a rest we were suddenly very sweet to each other sent me gift hugs. I ask him what do you need he said, a hug let's meet tomorrow and he text me after 6 hours Babe, I think I can’t not made it I’m sorry, but I’m so tired. The next day I sent him a message saying 'I think you're playing with my feelings, not even serious every time you come up with an excuse I wanted to see you so badly but you don't want to see me as badly as I do. I guess I'm not the only one you spend time on. He got mad just responded with OMG OK BYE! What should I do just delete him I’m so upset 😭

[HollyK21]

Maybe right now is not a good time for him to date. I understand you have a crush, but what you don’t want to keep doing is chasing him. I’m not saying he doesn’t like you as well, but if he’s just too busy for a relationship then that is just something you have to accept until he proves otherwise.

[Asker]

Thank you. That’s what I did for longer then 6 months after six months he come back want to see me and having s€x, the thing is he doesn’t like me as I do that’s the huge issue he has to be clear because both are mature I like to communicate no matter what he has proud what’s come first 😩

[HollyK21]

I definitely get where you’re coming from. One thing I’ve realized with guys is if he is playing the role of boyfriend (in any way) but won’t commit, then you should assume he has all the info he needs to come to a decision and has made his choice to not be with you, unfortunately. Giving him time in situations like this is only wasting yours, and it’s unfair for you to go through being let down constantly and strung along. You deserve a better person, and unless he can prove that he is worthy of your time, then I would just end it. Sure it sucks when you invest so much into a guy and it doesn’t work out in the end, but that’s just life.

[Asker]

Just write this to him ‘God. I invest so many times on u no matter what even u was wrong, did wrong to me doesn’t matter for me. Everytime u being like a child blocking me unblocking me, not communicating just ‘ok bye’ u don’t know what u want, your proud comes first anyway. So pathetic!! I just wanna say I really in the beginning love u, wanted you had feelings for u and in the beginning fall in love with u and still and even u still fucking hurt me, letting me go in tears u never give a fuck about it men I’m tired to seeing myself doing harder then u…’

I’m really tired almost 2 years we knowing each other still the same. It’s hurting me and true we all deserve someone is good for us. Spent my time on this person and give him 3 months space he text me now ‘ it is unnecessary, we were good and have no time for this you ruined it’

[HollyK21]

Sorry you’re feeling this way, girly. If you want to send that message it is your choice, but I’m just not sure if it would make much difference. His actions right now are already showing that he isn’t caring enough about your emotions, otherwise he would do what he does to you, like always canceling plans and not making you a priority in general. If you send that message, I think that is you hoping he will chase you back or act better, but he should just want to do that on his own, you know? So if you send that message, do it with finality. It needs to be the last time you say all of that, not just another time, because then he won’t take it seriously.

[Asker]

I just sent him message. I feel much better I was holding my feelings to long I go to therapy because of him. He know that he ruined it more then I do. But he doesn’t care like you say he doesn’t care about my emotions. So I’m gonna stop talking to him and delete him out my life it’s best thing 😔

[HollyK21]

Sending you virtual hugs! I know this sucks a lot but just think of it like this, now you can be open to meeting the right guy. This one was a distraction, and only taking up your time. Now if the right guy comes along, you can put your focus on the right person who has the same interest in growing with you and being just as invested in your relationship. Until then, focus on healing from this negative situation, growing mentally and finding yourself again. You deserve to be the most happy!

[Asker]

That’s really kind of u thanks. Yes, really sucks but I have to let him go for my own self care and meet the right person like you say 🤗

[PrettyPriya]

Huge red flags here. He sounds incredibly immature and doesn't know what he wants or how to control his emotions. If it were me, I'd cut him loose and move on to a guy that appreciates you all the time and not just some of it.

[Asker]

I know right huge red flag 🚩. I really don’t know what he wants first he saying I start having interest in u again and then after I said something to him he doesn’t like not even take the time respond back to my calls or text while is coming online. Yes, that’s what I want to do cut him off and just leave him 🤦🏻‍♀️

[PrettyPriya]

@leowomen32 I completely agree with you and think you are doing the right thing. You deserve better than that. I hope you find some closure in it all and good luck to you.

[Asker]

I always wish for it, but always attract to wrong person that’s why have a trust issue. Thank u girl!

[PrettyPriya]

@leowomen32 You are welcome and don't worry! I was the same way for a long time until someone fell right into my lap. It happens at the oddest of times. 😊

[Asker]

Wow! u most be lucky women. I wish you guys a lot of happiness and love girl 😊..

And wish myself the same I hope he’s gonna find me makes me the happiest women ever we good women’s deserve it 🥺

[PrettyPriya]

@leowomen32 You couldn't be more right that you deserve it as much as the next woman. He is out there somewhere waiting. The hard part is finding each other. Sometimes it seems hopeless, I know.

Just stay strong and keep your heart open to finding him. ❤️

[Asker]

Thanks for u nice & kind comment I appreciate girl. I will keep myself strong and my heart open for love ❤️

[In_Trance]

You're not in love with him you don't even know him

[Asker]

what do you base that on? I know him longer then a year, we where seeing each other every time he’s 6 minutes close to my place..

[In_Trance]

Attracted yes; being in love is a different thing. You're in lust

[Asker]

Not attracted! I have feelings for this person don’t judge you don’t know my feelings I don’t easily fall in love.
If I feel attracted I will stalk him, being annoying, so i just stay away from him still hard for me. That’s why I focus myself on my work, school, my interneship

[babylina96]

Stop talking to him. He’s toxic, and will only get worse.

[Asker]

I try to stay away from him

[Anonymous]

what do you want?

[Asker]

I wanna know if a man does this what I should do just cut him off or wait for his responding back to my message?