My girlfriend told me that I need to solve my mommy issues?

[Anonymous]

I am jealous of to see the love my wife gives to my newborn son. my mother threw me when I was little. And my girlfriend knows it and she pets me a lot, its help to to feel loved if there is one day she is not petting me- I start to feel depressed and not loved. After my son borned she pets him with so much love. And sometimes I just enter when she pets him and act like a baby so she will pet me too.

“ shs told me that he is a newborn now, so its ok but she said that he won't be healthy if he will feel that his father is jealous over my affectiin, she told me to start act like a grown up and solve my mommy issues already because she pets me everyday twice a day for 2 years and she even help me to go sleep, and I still want her affection like a ”boy from his mother. ”

we tried to try only once a day, and I got depressed.. I really need to feel her touch while going to sleep.

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1 mo

She told me she knows I am conntected to her and became really clingy, and she doesn't want to be the second female who hurt my feeling and abandoned me- therefore she decided to keep pet me even if it will affect our son. But she really asks me to be a man and find a way to lower my need for her emotinal support.
Or at least to find a way to not show jealous toward our son and show him more that his father loves him

[Unit1]

And that's how some of us intend to get a second girlfriend, that'll give us what we want. When a woman is affectionate on such a level it becomes irresistible and a sense of belonging activates.

Such are mommy issues. Oh well.

[DarkWinterNights]

I don’t know what this “petting” is all about, but you need to grow up and be the father your child needs.

[Asker]

She puts me to sleep on her legs or chest and she pets my head untill i fall asleep

[jahaims]

Go to therapy you are fucked if you get jealous of your own kids

[Asker]

She tells me thats only in my mind but something in her is diffrent when she pets a newborn vs when she pets me. And. I want the attention she gives our son.

[Asker]

Something in her eyes and affection feels more like a “connection of a mother and a son” than the affection when she pets me- and I when I see her lovely eyes - I am jealous that I sometimes need to act like her man when actually I wished I could be a real newborn of her. She is so kind to our son and the lack of affection i got really sometimes make me just enter and tell her now its my turn pet both if us…

[jahaims]

You are a loser. Get it together for the sake of that poor kid.

[Asker]

Loser? Why does he gets a wonderful mom like her and I couldn’t? i see it and can't think why I can't be her son. Why be her husband?
As a husband , i need to protect the family and she just pet me as relaxing after a long day. As a son she would pet me as a mom who protects her offspring from the bad world. -and thats something I want much more than doing sex with her. I like doing sex with her. But I want her as a mother much more than I want her as a girlfriend who acts like a mother for me. I want to feel protected by her like my son feels.
I can't tell her that of course but thats the truth. I want her to her to be my real mom.

[jahaims]

Stop being so pathetic. Life isn't fair. Get over it. Your job now it to learn how to be a big boy so you don't raise a burden to society.

[Asker]

How can i get over it when I see her breastfeeding and all i think is i want her to breastfeed me also.

She was the stable at home, I was the brain and the money and the man who looks tough to the outside but inside I need her softness and untill now it always worked. and now after she is a mother she is not stable anymore. Actually she makes me a little unhinged , because she is starting to lose her touch to make me stable because she constantly make me jealous with her love. i start to regret having a kid with her, because before she was perfect. Now she split her love.

[jahaims]

Lame troll

[Asker]

Before it felt like she is really acting like my mom. Now it feels less natural after i see her as a real mom.

[Asker]

She is the mom i always dreamed.

[Anonymous]

Your girlfriend is so right.

[Asker]

I see her pet our son. Thats a different from how she pets me, can't stop wishing i was her newborn