My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. That with different time zones, I still feel lonely and have no one to talk to. Or during the moment whenever my mom says something that hurts me, I have no one to turn to. Not even my siblings or my father who wants anything to do with my mom drama. Then I wallow in silence myself contemplating all the negative stuff my mom told me. For hours carrying this pain.
Till later on, my boyfriend texts me “Good morning love ❤️“ “how was your day?” That at this point I don’t want to talk to him or rant about what happened to me. Cause then it’ll stress him out and avoid me even more.
What should I do? So when my feelings and emotions are hurt, it doesn’t stress my boyfriend out and drive him away?
How can I cope with my emotions so I don’t drive my boyfriend away?
your boyfriend should be there to support you and you should talk to him about thse issues or any other like of your fears of him avoiding you. If he would avoid you cause of this thats not a good sign. If he is owewhelmed things should be compromised and mutual understaing should be achieved where both of you would be happy with your relationship. As of your mom, try to understand why she is the way she is, that helped me with mine and other people way different than me. If she really is horrible person you need to set some boundaries and spend you time with people that are good for you.
life is much more difficult when you don't have people to confide in, so it's understandable to suffer. but to sit for hours and wallow in pain and self pity is not the way to go. when you feel so sad and have no one to talk to, this is the time for you to direction your focus towards good things.
do you have any hobbies? do that! you want to start a new hobby? do that! have work to do? studying? exercise (that can be yoga, pilates, a sport, whatever gets your body moving)? instruments?
victims blame their outer world, creators build their inner world. are you going to be a victim or a creator in your own life?
Get a therapist to help you learn positive coping mechanisms.
There's not shame if your parents didn't teach you how to handle these things or communicate well.
Unresolved issues do affect relationships and friendships so it's better to work on yourself earlier as it will significantly improve your life earlier.
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