Are these the reasons why people repeat the pattern of abuse in relationships?

[Anonymous]

1. You seek out abusers
2. You frequently play the "victim"
3. You're afraid of being single
4. You don't feel you deserve love, even though you crave it
5. You feel like you deserve the abuse or unhappiness

https://www.yourtango.com/experts/jade-lotus/5-reasons-you-subconsciously-attract-emotionally-abusive-relationships-instead-healthy-ones

[Fireguy17]

because they have probably been abused when they were younger and it seems normal.
So if they aren't eing abused the relationshio doesn't seem normal.
It's a very sad cycle.

[Kaneki05]

Can be for sure.

[Anonymous]

Depends. Are we talking about emotional abuse or physical abuse?

Emotional abuse is usually performed by a person who feels unhappy and they can’t solve the problem the other way so they try to hurt your emotions.

Physical abuse can be seen in people who have been physically abused as children and they subconsciously believe, violence is a way to solve the problem, and maybe it’s okay to be violent, because the people they loved the most were violent to them.

Both of the people need to identify their mistakes, weakness and go to therapist to get help, because if you don’t get help, the feeling of guilt can ruin your life and the pain you cause to your partner, someone you should love and care for the most, will always stay with you and will never stop hurting.

It’s especially important to get help when both of the partners are abusers, one of them being emotional manipulator and abuser and second one being physically abusive.

As when the first one tries hurting his partner emotionally (maybe out of his own untold worry or sadness) and the second one can’t deal with it or can’t find a way to peacefully solve the problem even though she tried, she feels threatened, hurt, and the second one will respond with physical abuse. Because that’s the only way she knows.

Even though emotional abuse can be no less painful, physical abuse is unforgivable, can cause pain not only to the abused person but to the abuser, as she will carry the guilt of hurting her partner forever. She will not be able to sleep of guilt, she will suffer.