Do you tell your friends about your fight with your boy/girlfriend? If you do, do you refer to your boy/girlfriend with derogatory terms?

[marish01]

I mean when you fight with your boy/girlfriend. You want to ease your pain so you decide to tell your friends or close people about your fight or how your partner hurt you. And in your conversation with your friends you refer to your boy/girlfriend as a piece of shit, things like this.
Do you do this?

For example a woman texts her female friend and tells how she is hurt by her boyfriend. She says lots of horrible things about him.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

This has only happened once for me.

When my ex-fiancé revealed he hadn't done any of the work to immigrate - at the border. Welp, clearer sign could not have been sent.

I actually didn't call him terrible things at first. My focus was on getting us safely back to where he could stay and I could catch a flight home.

It was our friends that I told that insulted him, rightfully so. His own best friend called him a manchild with the brain of a goldfish, lol! And she was so right!

It was crazy. Like, the second he thought his future living in Canada was assured, he just... Reverted to full manchild. Mother had to buy him international minutes for his phone (not that he ever paid his own phone bill, as I also found out).

Since then, literally everyone I've spoken to about him has called him a bastard or a manchild. Or both. I don't say it, they do.

I try not to speak too badly of my exes on a whole. Except when it comes to why I broke up with them - the first for cheating, the second for 3 years of lying about his immigration status and actions.

Like, yeah, they have bad sides. But everyone does. It's just that their bad sides were so fucking all-encompasing that it totally fucked over their good sides.

[Adele_26]

I do, but not because I want to “talk shit”. It’s because I want to hear their perspective. My friends/select family and I don’t call people derogatory terms unless valid. For example, I called an ex of mine a sociopath. Turns out, he is. Usually if I’m the person calling my SO a derogatory term, it’s something like, “he’s being a bitch right now”. But that’s also the way I talk. It also depends on the term. If I call him an asshole, he’s definitely being an asshole. Anything I say to others is something I’d say to my SO’s face. It’s never something like calling them a piece of shit bc I wouldn’t be with them in the first place if I felt that way.

[ohshee]

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I work with huysyounget than me some are married some have girl friends some are single.
Before covid we would go to a club on Friday night sometimes they would try to hook me up if I was single every Monday morning afternoon there is always a guy giving play ny play on the things that happen that night.
I would look at these married guys and say hey dude I know your wife why are you saying this crap they would always want to know what I did if I took the girl home or what have you and I would say ask her to me it's nobody's business and I sure and not going to tell the guys that I work with anyting
And that's why the wives introduced me to one of their girlfriends because they know that I'm not a big blabbermouth

[OlderAndWiser]

Horrible idea to talk about relationship problems with your friends. Here's why:

You: "Dalita, you won't believe what Armen has done! He called me a stupid bitch and I hate his fucking guts!

Dalita: "Marish, I hate his guts and I think we should set his house on fire. He is lower than a snake's belly!"

One week later:

You: "Dalita, I made up with Armen. Do you and Gor want to double date with us Friday night?"

Dalita: "No, he's as stupid bitch and I still hate him."

Do you see the problem?

[SixFootSexy]

Venting your relationship dirty laundry is a red flag and mark of immaturity. If it comes to that point you need to breakup or get to a counselor.

[NathanDavis]

nope... our relationship, OUR matters, it stays there

and I really didn't have some of those "bad" fights, but even if I had had them, I would not be talking shit behind their backs, that's just would be very low of me to do

[HighValue]

When I have a disagreement with an SO, I keep it between us. I don't like to involve other people in something private like that and I don't try to turn other people against an SO to "win" a dispute either.

[whereismyjohnny]

I’m single, but I wouldn’t share details about our arguments with friends or talk shit about him. It’s between him and me, why would I talk about it to others

[Eliena]

When you share your problems, the only thing you would be doing is hurting your partner reputation... by mistake let us say.. your personal life is for you only and only you. i always prefer to enjoy the company of friends instead of talking about my problems. thank you

[TommyMountainFigure]

If or when I fight with my g/f I tell nobody.. It's nothing to do with anyone else. It's something we have in common, and it works extremely well.

[ImNoOne111]

No. I usually don't say that stuff to my friends. But I can't remember any time I got in a fight with my girl and talked shit about her with my friends. That just doesn't happen. I might throw some swear words at her in my mind but I never say them

[Hanrej]

Ofcourse. Otherwise she'll go around telling her side only and eventually they'll pick her side when we break up.

[crmoore]

Not really but even if I do I wouldn't refer to them as derogatory terms

[Anonymous]

The closest I’ve ever done to that was ask advice on how to calm down my so after a bad spat but that was it. After the breakup I went into full detail with my best friend

[loveslongnails]

No, I don't. What happens between me and my SO stays between us. Anything else is pure bullshit.

[Jamie05rhs]

I wouldn't say anything derogatory about my wife to other people. That's not classy.

[Sevenpointfive]

no. i've never had a girlfriend

[exitseven]

No , I never would do this.

[cth96190]

Friends?
I have no friends.

[Zygum]

We fight but never tell to 3rd person

[hafinjun]

No I don't do it

[Thesamejohn]

In a joke way ahahaha

[Preeti161101]

Never happened it

[roy_ricky09]

Never