Should I break up with my boyfriend after my abortion?

[Anonymous]

I'm pregnant and I don't feel that my boyfriend is actually here for me. He's definitely not here physically cause he lives in a city 3 hours away from here. I wasn't able to leave because I'm having some important exams going on. I was expecting him to be really supportive and to actually show me that he cares about how i feel. When i call him he's always busy so we talk for few minutes during the day. He seems to be more worried about his work than about the way i feel now that I'm pregnant and alone. He send me money for the abortion and the only thing he keeps saying is that the doctor should be careful so nothing bad happens and I'm going to be able to have kids in the future. I'm trying to explain to him how difficult that is for me and that I'm feeling really depressed lately but he's saying that's gonna get better and stuff like that. He's just keep saying to make sure it's safe and I would be able to get pregnant again. Isn't this egoistical? So not only we gonna stay together but we are going to have kids in the future?

[Nawlins34]

I can't tell you what to do, it's your decision ultimately.

My recommendation: Drop him. Choices reveal priorities. You were a priority when it was time to have sex, now the baby living or not is an option.

Other than timing, what's the difference between a baby now and later? Especially when later (marriage, kids) isn't guaranteed? You two aren't married. So you abort the child and you two break up, he walks away with clean hands and your body wrecked, lowering your odds of getting a man in the future.

You have to deal with all the risks, he doesn't... and he can't even physically be there even though he's half the reason this is an issue?
Drop him.

He's not even discounting your feelings/thoughts, that at least requires his attention - he's flat out dismissing them.

You're getting an extremely good view of who he is as a person when you're in a dark place right now, you'd be a fool NOT to drop him.

Be safe and good luck.

[Gent207]

You should leave him and keep the child. There are many good wholesome ministries that are able and willing to help you with whatever you need including prenatal care, find housing, obtain baby supplies etc.
Please look up Abby Johnson ministries
And There They Were None

Send them a message explaining your situation and they will most definitely help you

[LazerBean]

I would never have kids, or associate for that matter, with someone who is okay with killing some of them, especially if it's for his own convenience. That's just me though.

[LazerBean]

Also I would, personally, keep the child.

[SiberFox]

I'm with her on this one

[boggboss]

Have you told him that I need more support from him I get u shouldn't have to but clearly not everyone is ca9ablr of stepping up and supporting

[baserunner611]

Wow, I got a question; well, sitting down, get sheet of paper start written you a letter.
Think and talk pro and con your life and future you like.
What did you want to do?
If you need some to yell that I am here

[Jamie05rhs]

Why do you feel like you have to have an abortion?

And if he wants to have kids with you in the future, why can't he be a father now, when you both have already made a child together?

[driven159]

he doesn't want children and he doesn't care about you get your abortion and once your better get on with your life

[JohnK123]

Why did u end up having a baby if u we’re gonna have exams and stuff…?
doesn’t seem like the good time to me

[Cubus]

The best would be to break up with him and keep the child. There are many people who would help you.

[Agape93]

Go for it. It's your life.

[MountAverage]

Aborth both the baby and him.

[MountAverage]

*Abort

[Anonymous]

Yes, dump him