My boyfriend is a coach, he works with celebrities. When I first met him, he did strike me as someone who is “cocky”/competitive/“pretentious”, but he turned out to be a shy and sweet individual. He is competitive in his work and it’s why he is good at it. Lately he has been working a lot and he insists that I should come visit during his training sessions with these celebrities. I’ve done it already but I feel out of place. Don’t get me wrong, some of them are super nice but I can’t help but to feel intimidated or inferior with all the wealth surrounding these people and to see my boyfriend getting along with them as well. I love to spend that time with my boyfriend, is just the uncomfortable feeling I get with this people that I don’t like. I tried telling him about it but he said he would like us to spend that time together. Am I overreacting for feeling this way? How should I deal with this situation?
My boyfriend works with celebrities and I feel out of place, how can I deal with it?
Well for one thing he really loves you. Thats why he wants you to come and train with those celebrities. He wants you to be a part of it. You should stop being nervous around them and see that they are just random people like you
So what, your boyfriend is a personal fitness trainer? He shouldn’t ask you to come along at the same time. Don’t really understand why he’s trying to mix his worlds like that. He wants you to scope out the celebrities? Just tell him you don’t feel comfortable, and that should be the end of it. If you want to push yourself socially then go and diffuse some of your anxiety and you may feel more comfortable over time. But mixing business with pleasure is not necessary or often beneficial. And his clients probably don’t want that either.
Understand that the worth of a person should not be dictated by who the work with or what job they do. People are people, even celebrities. Society tends to hold celebrities on a high pedestal for all to worship, but at the end of the day, they are just people and should be treated as such. Look at it this way, your boyfriend works with people who work in the entertainment profession. Changing the thinking to that makes it sound less glamorous (which the job isn't actually glamorous. Imagine working long hours on a tight schedule, only to get off work tired, then get constantly harassed by starstuck fans & paparazzi. Then once you get home, you only get only a few hoursof sleep before doing it all again while sleep deprived and possibly jetlagged).
You're not overreacting. You're reacting. It feels uncomfortable to you. Rather than forcing your comfort zone, why not pull a Carl Dean? Parton's husband stayed out of the spotlight her entire career after one outing made him feel uncomfortable. He respected her role in the spotlight and she respected his preference to be out of it. What matters is how you feel with him on your own.
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I think it’s good to surround yourself with high value people, not to pin a “rating” on people, ya know? But still… I think just being around successful people can do wonders for your confidence. We are all the same at the end of the day. Just depends on how much we empower ourselves to achieve and push ourselves further.
Maybe you should look at this as an opportunity. If he is a fitness coach, it would lead me to believe that you are also a fitness oriented person. You can watch what he does and learn, and then get paid to coach them when he is busy with other clients
First thing his job I am sure he makes a good living and as far as feeling out of place that's on you being a celebrity is not fun for them, they feel more uncomfortable than you do they are just people like you they are not special just like any human and they really don't like to be treated that way
You should definitely go and not be nervous. I don’t think you’re overreacting, I mean, you have a boyfriend that loves you so that should give you motivation to go.
Don't be Intimidated by celebrities they are right there with politicians for the worst of humanity nothing but parasites living off the hard work of others like yourself they need us to survive we don't need them
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