When getting to know a potential partner, what are the most important things you need to know from them before making a decision to go further? (Page 2)
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1. If they're open minded about food - I want my partner and I to try new dishes together.
2. If they're able to both stay home and chill or get dressed up and go somewhere fancy or go for a hike.
3. Who they admire.
4. If they don't one up something I show them.
Ask him what are the limits after which he would think the marriage is in problem.
Ask him what does he think his responsibilities are as far as being head of the house/family is concerned.
What is "family" to him? Just you and him and possibly kids or the extended family, at least the immediate extended family like parents and siblings on either side.
Really good points here.
That they are not using you for money An gifts they are not a thief or there not a cheater who cheats behind your back they are not a beater who beat you an say you made me beat you I had an ex who liked to see me in physical pain during love making by pouring hot wax on my body have a few scars from that girls mean pleasures
That is so evil. What a sadist. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Do you have a girlfriend or more importantly , a wife? There s lot of guys who lead double lives. They’re not serious about marriage nor a not concerned whether or not they hurt someone.
Watch out for signs like being evasive.
Who many girls have had their boyfriends cheating with their best friend? Careful ladies.
Her outlook in life and relationships, this one is weird but: Her Weaknesses. So I can learn to cope with it or if she has self-control and last but not least her attitude towards men, dating etc.
Their views/opinion on marriage, kids, abortion, SW, drugs, drinking, mental health, physical health, kink, just to name a few things. We’ve got to have similar/the same morals and wants, otherwise we’ll clash too much.
I think core beliefs need to be the same or similar.
But I think things you like to do... or 'likes' can be different because each can learn new things. It's fine if they don't have all the same likes anyway. Couples should do some things separately sometimes.
Okay, I'm a guy so some of this may seem male brain.
1. Attraction: if there is none there why are you in a relationship.
2. Likes: what I mean is do you both go to church or are you both republican stuff like that.
You need to find common ground besides everything you do revoling around one specific thing. If this makes sense then cool glad that I helped.
she's a great cook.
she's unemployed or under employed.
She works out and eats healthy.
Unemployed? Under employed
Yes. I only date women who are inclined to traditional roles. Usually women who dont have a job are doing something... often things like taking care of family or something. Thats highly attractive.
Oh ok 👌
I could have a full time job and still be a mom and wife … 😑
I greatly prefer a woman who can focus at home not split duties.
Similar beliefs, kind/respectful to everyone, honest, has a stable job, if they're open to marriage, and if they if they want kids.
Beliefs
Sexual compatibility
kids & parenting
lifestyle (both homebody or social)
financial stability
If you can make me laugh and hold a long ass convo about nothing really important
Intellectual curiosity is a big deal.
are you a good fit in intellect and life perspective.
future goals.
It’s important that both minds see generally the same future
Further as in Engaged : credit, criminal, medical eval and records...
I don't have deal makers. Just deal breakers. I am very open-minded. She doesn't have to conform to a specific factory mold. As long as she doesn't have what I DON'T want, she's good!
It is what her values are and how closely they are to mine.
That there is willingness to bond and bonding is taken seriously.
Are they empathetic? Do they have a good sense of humor?
these two are my main big ones
Also if they are open minded in the bedroom heh 😏
Point of views on everything that's important and relevant to any sort of decision-making in the future.
Personally, a person's professional and personal goals and how well they align with each other are quite essential to know.
Make sure there's no mental issues like your own that will collide possibly with religion or non-religion