How to cope with being ugly and a loner woman?

[Anonymous]

I am starting university son and decided to become a loner for good. Since I know that my relationships only fail because of my strange behavior and social awkward personality, I just want to stay away from people, so they don't have to deal with me or can avoid me from getting hurt. I also made peace with the fact that I am not the kind of women men would want to be either, so l gave up on romantic relationships along with friendships. I just still have this issue of me being, well, unattractive, and I wanted to change that.

In general, i just want to make peace with these things and accept my new life as a loner, forever.

Where can I start? What must I do? Do you have any tips?

[love_conquers_lust]

I don’t see a reason to give up friendships. Exercise is good advice. I wouldn’t advise “muscling up” unless you want that look, it’s high maintenance. But having good tone gives you more energy and confidence. You eat less, less work on your joints, spend less to take care of yourself, it’s EASIER to take care if yourself when you are in your BMI. Your metabolism won’t be high forever.

You’re going to be learning a lot of interesting stuff, and you’ll likely be surrounded by more females with females surpassing men in total enrollment, but it depends on your major.

BE VERY CAREFUL when exposing yourself to Leftist agendas. You should listen to them, but form your own opinion and question everything they say. Listen to other perspectives as well. I wasn’t exposed to this when I attended, but apparently a lot of this crap was going on on the other side of campus where I wasn’t. You hear more than once in subtle or not so subtle ways about climate change. I myself have learned enough across multiple disciplines to not deny its existence. Why this topic was hijacked by the Left, I don’t know. It’s not like they have universal rights to it.

Some girls you meet might help you with being unattractive. You shouldn’t have to wait for college though. You should start now with your current school.

[roy_ricky09]

Hey!!!
First thing you aren't alone who feels that way. Period!
2nd, don't make yourself vulnerable and weak, by sounding like you accepted the defeat
3rd, do not join clubs or any such community, that can get you into bad habits. Instead start writing a journal of every thing, that you think is a problem and work on finding solution to those.
4th, start reading some good books
5th, workout even if don't feel like it. Just do it!
6th, maybe start writing online blogs or articles, there will always be people who would like them and might become your friends
7th, do not please people at all. Learn to say No with no explanation if inside of you says No
8th, there is nothing wrong with being lonely. Just don't be disappointed about it, cherish it. You can achieve great success.
8th, never self doubt.

[roy_ricky09]

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Do listen to this video

[hIopinionated_]

You can start by accepting the FACT that looks are subjective. What one may find unattractive another may find appealing and dare I say, sexy.


From one socially awkward person to another I have an idea: Practice! Regardless of the consequences, Say hello to strangers, SMILE at strangers. It’s so simple but the more you do it, the easier it’ll become. Talk to many guys, get a cuddly buddy even because why not, etc


One thing I did in college was avoid spending too much time alone in my dorms more than what’s necessary. So instead of being my normal loner self, when I wanted to study, I went downstairs where people pass by and I studied. Even made a friend doing it. She came up to me, started a conversation with awkward me, and it flowed perfectly. That was the beginning of one out of the many friendships I gained in college

[Smallboobsgotohell]

... U can't stay alone forever. I recommend u join a club since u got into collgege whatever club it is. Just one. U it doesn't bother u studying. Days like Halloween or after the final exams it will be more fun.

[Asker]

Thank you. I will look forward for these clubs, but my opinion on relationships/friendships doesn‘t change for the moment.

[Smallboobsgotohell]

Once u join the club u will meet guys in the club and u will drink (This is a huge difference from high school) be careful and enjoy ur college life

[MTC29]

It's too early in life for you to give up. Focus on your studies and then, after you graduate, make a fresh start.

[Asker]

Thank you for your comment. I just feel like people don't like me and that all my relationships will fail at some point. I'm just afraid of getting hurt again and history repeating itself.

[DEondeBeaumont]

Social isolation is bad for you and can make you feel worse. You need to talk to people. And it sounds like you're just depressed. The only thing I can see is that you're so negative about everything. You need to forgive yourself and love yourself. Your last relationship was just a learning experience. Don't give up.

[mobiusforniner]

Smile often. Indulge in new things and talents and grow yourself from the inside out. People will see and feel this and want to be part of you. This is true, whether you're man or woman, ugly or hot...

[FunkyMonkee]

Is that you in the picture? If so, from what little I can see of it, that doesn't look at all ugly, to me!

I've been a loner most of m life and, I'm here to tell you, it fucking sucks large rubber donkey donegals!!

[jshm2]

That's called "depression" deary. You can get help for it.

[TheFlak38]

Yeah must be very traumatising. I mean it's not like you have a vagina which allows you to play life on tutorial mode.

[Anonymous]

Seems rather defeatist at such a young age. It sounds like you should make friends with yourself and boost your confidence.

[Anonymous]

By liking yourself, enjoying your own company, happy with your life overall otherwise, and don't care about what others think or say.

[Anonymous]

You have a vagina. You can literally just sit at a table and guys will approach you.

[loveslongnails]

He's right.

[EnglishEuropean]

Have you considered going full goth? Like Ally Sheedy in The Breakfast Club?

[In_Trance]

You made the decisions; what tips do you need now? Live your life