Am I an asshole/hypocrite for telling my girlfriend I don’t feel appreciated?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years. She was the perfect partner. She provided everything I needed and more. She did so much for me while I on the other hand did the bare minimum. Well we broke up and I got my shit together. We got back together and now I feel like the roles have changed completely. I feel I do so much more for her and she doesn’t do enough for me. When I say do things for me I don’t mean materialistic or shallow but just anything that genuinely comes from her heart. I surprise her with flowers, fill up her gas tank and i just detailed her entire car no questions asked or for anything in return. I take time out of my busy life to do anything for her now and she just kind of doesn’t. She asked if I wanted her to buy me things and I don’t. That wasn’t the point. I now know how she felt before and yeah is sucks. She began to cry because she said I made her feel bad since she hardly works and has very little money. But again it isn’t about buying things. Am I wrong for asking for her to return some effort when she spent well over 3 years in my position first?

[Guy13]

You want respect and she is not giving it to you. Men want respecet and women want love and communication. She needs to read about that IF she wants relationship to succeed. Look up Family Focus and husband respect online and they have TONS on that subject...

[JosyJosy]

No you're not wrong. It's not about buying things, it's not about material love, but just love. She needs to make time to appreciate you and do things for you that actually matter. She needs to show you what she brings to the table besides existing. If she fails, so will the relationship I feel.