Was his response to what I said his way of gently rejecting me, or was he speaking out of his own insecurities?

[XHopelessRomanticX]

I’ve had a crush on one of my guy friends for years. I’ve always been close with his family, and although we rarely talk, there are times where we can talk to each other for hours. I love our friendship, but I’ve never had the courage to tell him how I feel out fear that he wouldn’t want to be my friend anymore if he knew. He has so many wonderful qualities, but I also know that he has his own insecurities. I wish he could see in himself the things I see.

I'm not very good with words, but I told him the other day that I hope, if I ever get married, that my future husband will be a lot like him. He told me that he hopes I find someone who is ten times better than whatever it was I see in him. I’m both touched and sad by what he said because I think he is good enough for me, but I’m also wondering if his response was his way of letting me know that he’s not interested.

[Charlesbrandonf]

I might be wrong. But as man. Here is something I’d share.
It could be insecurity. He is your friend for years.


Let’s say you’re not interested in him. And If he tries to flirt or anything with you, he clearly know it would ruin the friendship and the bond between the two of you and the families. He would end up being a villain in the story. So someone men rather not want to end up like that.


If you’re a dear girl to him then yes he would do everything to keep you around which he is doing now.


Keep going with all the tricks, if he likes you he wouldn’t hide it for long.

If he is not into you, then make sure the situation don’t turn out to be awkward between the two of you.

[spartan55]

What you said didn't indicate that you are interested in him.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

How so?

[spartan55]

By saying you hope your future husband will be like him you have already put him in the friendzone. Besides, guys don't pick up on that hinting nonsense. Just tell him (directly) how you feel.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

I finally mustered up the courage and told him I liked him, but he never responded. He never said anything, and now I'm nervous to see him because we are going to be at the same party this weekend. I'm worried things are going to be awkward now. Is he ignoring me because he doesn't like me? If he doesn't like me back, why not just say so? Why be silent?

[spartan55]

Because he knows it would really hurt your feelings if he said that to you.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

The silence is hurting too, I think I'd rather he just get it over with.

[spartan55]

Sounds like he can't win either way.

[turnpost]

Sounds like he needs to grow cahonas honestly hate it when people can't be straight.
Be straight with someone tell them this is what it is. being silent is the worst, you need closure so one can move on.

[Summeroflove]

I think you should be direct about going on a date. At that point the balls in his court

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Thank you for your reply. He did not reciprocate my feelings but we have remained friends.

[Summeroflove]

It happens to the best of us. You’ll find someone else and wish you the best. Glad you have remained friends.

Just remember it’s not a problem with you or him. It’s just not meant to be

[AmeerX]

What happened to him? Did you go off with him? I think your name is really like how you really are. Hopeless romantic but I think what you did was good by speaking your mind up to him

[XHopelessRomanticX]

We didn’t wind up together, he just didn’t reciprocate my feelings. We did remain friends, which I’m thankful for.

[AmeerX]

It's so sweet)). Yes if he is your friend then just remember he is not really a bad person. At least he didn't try to sleep with you and then tell you, "umm I don't know".

Keep his friendship))

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Thank you for your reply 🙏