Am I a people pleaser?, if so, how to stop it?

[Rei02]

Am I going to be seen as a people pleaser if I apologized 2 or 3 times and I don't receive any answer?

What can I do to reprogram myself to stop looking in pleasing others but also don't be a jerkass who doesn't want to eat part of the humble pie?

[Hugo8990]

You're only a people pleaser if you bend or compensate your own boundaries. Saying sorry isn't necessarily people-pleasing. People pleasing only comes from putting others' needs above your own unnecessarily.

[dreamstar72]

Just say no, but saying no is the hardest thing for a person who likes to making people happy. You GOT to make yourself happy first.

[D_Bone_Steak]

You just stop giving a shit. "Not my problem" becomes your personal rule. Being like this doesn't make you anything like some braggart that sounds like a gangsta rapper just bragging about his money, guns, and killing people. On the contrary, you're just not involved, don't want to be involved, and you don't care about their bullshit unless their bullshit starts to infringe on your ability to not have it be a part of your day-to-day life.

[MiamiMadness]

Just say sorry once?