Why am I self-sabotaging my relationship? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2022-10-03T23:45:01Z

My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5+ years now. Things have always been so great between us. The one challenge I have is that he's not an emotionally expressive person. He doesn't tell me he loves me, he's not physically affectionate, etc. But he's always there for me when I need him, he spends a lot of time with me, he makes plans with me for years in advance, he remembers tiny little things that I once mentioned in passing. The logical side of me knows he cares, but I think NEVER hearing it is starting to catch up to me. I sit here and try to analyze the things he does that SHOW how much he cares, but it's just at a point where it's mentally exhausting to try to figure it out on my own without hearing it from him. I've started picking at little things trying to get him to open up. It doesn't work. Instead, I just end up making things awkward between us. I feel dumb because I really do know he cares, so I don't understand why I'm doing this. But it's almost like I can't help it. I told my boyfriend I need verbal reassurance but he still doesn't say anything. He grew up in a very non-emotional family, so it's just not something he is used to doing (I'm not even sure he knows how to). Still... I know he cares. So how do I stop self-sabotaging my relationship?

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Because you are a drama queen with issues

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  You're the drama queen with issues. If you don't like my question, don't answer it. It really is that simple.
  
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  LoL you have a lot to learn
  
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