How do you trick your mind?

[Anonymous]

I'm in an awful relationship with a man who obviously doesn't like me. Thing is he completely lied about who he was and what he wanted so I already caught feelings and probably a trauma bond. For whatever dumb reason I am having a hard time letting go and despite me saying ok when he talks about wanting to leave he doesn't. So how do I trick my mind into thinking we aren't (technically) in a relationship so I'm not as invested in what he does or even talking about things. I really wish I could let this go because my mental health is awful.

[DubiousIntentions]

You have to be kidding. You already know he is not good for you. Why are you still so intrigued with holding shit in your hand from this guy? Why are so many women on this site so set into being treated like shit? Does no one have any self worth/self esteem or self respect? In fact, this is so far out of it that it makes me think you are trolling with some story you read in a dime-store novel. No one, with any brains, would settle for this from some douche bag.

[Asker]

To be clear I want to do that so I can detach and let him go. I should've clarified.

[Izzy_3991]

Sister, I've been in the same situation as you. His name isn't Jack by any chance? 🤣
Sadly, you've formed a trauma bond. It takes a lot to break that now.
It's best to cease all contact from him. You can't trick your mind into anything at this point.

[Asker]

Problem is we live together. I just want to try amd trick myself so I can try and detach to leave.

[Izzy_3991]

Oh yep. I've been in that boat too. I was dating my ex for two years but lived with him for another 5 years. It was really a bad idea but I couldn’t leave because he would guilt trip me and I had a bad trauma bond.
My best advice is to move out whenever you can. Go no-contact and give yourself time

[Asker]

Its my place :/

[Izzy_3991]

Kick him out. It sounds like he used you. I am so sorry 😔

[Sparkie460]

You don't need to trick your mind. You need to have respect yourself and kick him out. He used you. You deserve a lot better than him