Is it healthy to be completely independent and talk to absolutely no one at all?

[Anonymous]

I am a freshman in college and for the majority of my life it's just been me and myself.. occasional boyfriend here and there but I could never find a way to connect with people. My mom seems to think I'm autistic but I do have some beautiful art I've created. My brother is and was my best friend but we are growing apart now with his new girfriend.. he's also never had a problem with romantic partners but could never really make friends and keep them.

[Nomina]

I don't see not speaking to anyone at all as independence. It sounds like reclusiveness. It is possible to have relationships and be independent at the same time.

I don't see the connection between being autistic and creating beautiful art? I don't think one can't create beautiful art even if they are autistic.

You make weird equivalencies lol.

I would say you're reclusive. Now as a matter of healthiness, does this behavior benefit you and your life overall? Can you still function just fine? Can you still go after your goals? Do you feel at peace within?

There have heen stories of recluse and hermits who are perfectly happy, that happens. It's a thing. But you have to be honest with yourself about whether you truly are perfectly happy being one.

[Asker]

lol thanks

[Bethany22]

If you actually are autistic, it might be healthy for you. If you've been able to have boyfriends before, that sounds like a good balance you have

[Asker]

so what do you think it is?

[dreamstar72]

It could be something like emotional detachment. I’m like that with people but did fine the girl that was meant to be and fell in love and still love her. Like sucks most people suck, but there are people that actually are loving, caring, kind, helpful, etc (positive traits). You will find them but find the right ones. Good luck and smile

[Anonymous]

It surely is more healthy if your classmates are trying to get you to do their homework.

[kylee2437]

Not very healthy in my opinion. Being social is not avoidable in the real world when it comes to jobs and such. You don’t need to be extroverted, but you definitely need to be able to communicate