Very recently started a friends with benefits and it’s a lot more drama than I am ready for?

[Anonymous]

I met this girl on a dating app, we both agreed we weren’t looking for a relationship and just wanted to hang out and hook up. The hang outs and sex are great, and we agreed we would tell each other if we were going to sleep with other people. She has told me she is talking to other people and has even showed me some texts from weird guys.

She is severely depressed, and she had a breakdown the other night over text with me. She told me about a past relationship that didn’t go well and she had texted him again that night and was really struggling and regretted texting him. I don’t care that she texted him at all, but she was saying that everyone leaves her and she doesn’t feel like she is valued. And I don’t want to accidentally do the same thing, despite us being open that I don’t want a relationship.

I don’t want to be in a relationship for a variety of personal reasons, and even though we have been open that we aren’t dating and that we are talking to other people, I am getting nervous and can’t tell if her telling me all of this is about me because she wants more from me or if she is telling me as a friend who just wants to vent?

[fembotnpc777]

There's no such thing as a free ride in life. Women always try to angle it into a commitment, even if that wasn't the intent in the beginning.

Look at all these posts from women, "I have this friend with benefits, but get this, I CAUGHT FEELINGS DOES HE LOVE ME?" Like wow, what a mcfucking movie miracle moment you're having there mommy. Who would have ever thought that could ever happen? Unbelievable.

The only girls who do that kind of thing are extremely dumb honestly, because they lack both basic common sense and a modicum of foresight. Stupid girls.

On the other hand, a woman who can angle a blowjob into a giant wedding and eight kids? Genius.

You don't like her back because she a big fat dummy ret, tbh. Her little attempt at holding your attention is to reenact a character from Girl Interrupted to make her seem more complex or something. That's all she knows how to do because her fatass sits around watching TV and crying and painting shitty-looking pictures all day. She's a moran. Don't worry about her, she's just stupid.

I've dated ugly guys before, kind of from pity, and they ended up being really terrible people and causing me problems. Don't give this girl the opportunity for a pityfuck relationship. She won't appreciate it. She a big dumb hairy bish.

[Anonymous]

It’s not about you, she’s just with you because she feels like shit and being with someone (you) temporarily makes it feel less lonely. Slightly comforting to not be alone in your misery. I’ve done this before, not the friends with benefits or sex thing, but because of my depression/anxiety/ptsd seen a bunch of guys and stayed over at their place sometimes multiple times just cuddling and shit, keot them around venting and chatting to them, even though I had zero interest in them.

[Asker]

That makes me feel better, I am more than happy to help her feel better and be a comfort, but I can’t give more than that and I didn’t want to
Make things worse for her

[lightbulb27]

This is a mess dude...

You get her pregnant, you'll be in a place of suffering you didn't imagine possible.

You are a rebound and a crutch to her, filling a void which is a mile deep. It's not good for her either, although she will have a lot of pain when you depart.

She needs to go into group therapy, or find healing, a social group. All she's doing is taking drugs to numb the pain... you. It's a mistake.

It's good you realize the mess and get out. This is not what you think it is.

I'd suggest you wisen up and straighten up before you get yourself into a real fix...

[Guy13]

STOP whining STUPID... One does not Negotiate then void contract with further negotiations. Get out or go LTR now. YOU Both violated Contract the first violating sucker being the Suggestioner about "don't sleep around without notification". Love to sell you guys a car home or rent to you...

[Jdjfjcjj]

-I'm gonna guess she's in her forties,

-possibly single mother

-has told you that every relationship she's had, she listen all the bad things wrong with the guy, but says, "while she was in no way perfect", she really didn't do anything wrong

-uses sex as outlet

-justifies everything

- and finally, I'm gonna guess you live in a college town

[fonduegirl]

She's not your girlfriend. You don't need to comfort her depression. And she's clearly not over her ex. So. Mission abort on this.

But on the other hand, if regular sex without commitment is particularly hard to get — well, many men around say it is — then you may wanna work on this. You're attracted to her, and she's attracted to you too, and the sex is great.

Pros and cons.

[bubblegunnn]

She just vent to u and u should make her sure again if there's no relationship but friends with benefits.. and if she wants more and u couldnt agree, ask her to find other guy

[sheikalana]

This doesn't sound good and doesn't seem to be what you sign up for. You're supposed to be her friends with benefits not her therapist. I suggest moving on.

[rachel776]

these have to be fun only, with fun people, you can't take on another person's problems

[Anonymous]

Women can not be just fuck buddies, they always get attached. It’s Chemical.

[melanieeeB]

Then break it up and leave

[Jltakk]

Forget shagging, she needs therapy.