Me and my best friend have a crush on the same girl. I don't want to lose the girl. How do I move forward?

[Anonymous]

Me, my friend and this girl are now friends. But I had a crush on this girl when I saw her for the first time but didn't tell anyone. After a week my best friend says that he also has a crush on this girl. He didn't tell just to me, but everyone in our friend group except the girl. At that moment I didn't know what to tell and didn't say anything. I really like this girl and don't want to lose her because of "BRO CODE". Everyday he tells me how she looked and what she did. Hearing this I feel bad and guilty bcoz in his opinion he was the first one to bring it out. Even if the girl like me everyone in our friend group will look at me like a piece of ****. What do I do now?

[Anonymous]

He's your friend, so you know better than anyone what she means to him. Whether it's a passing fancy. Or of he's really sweet on her. You also know your feelings and how deep the run. Talk to your friend if need be about it and get a clarification. No, you don't undercut one of your friends. But if she just another girl to him and she's not to you then alls fair. And if he's truly your friend he'll respect that. I would never undercut one of my pals. But if I truly liked a woman and I knew he didn't I wouldn't consider it undercutting.

[Guy13]

This is just a thing. You two compete and see where it goes. Just be friends and "share'

[Avicenna]

Work something out with him otherwise he may undermine or cockblock you

[andreasderjuengere]

A ''crush'' in my eyes is just a wishful phantasy.

Nothing to risk a friendship for. Both of you have alternatives.

[dustybiker]

Let her decide?

[Asker]

It's the girl who's going to decide. But how do I deal with my best friend

[dustybiker]

Be the bigger person. Sometimes that’s hard.