I underwent a terrible heartbreak last Oct and even though I've already found better and in a relationship with him; I'm not really head over heels with him. No I'm not madly in love.
I'll likely never have the capability to be infatuated with another man ever again. However, I do love his company, his dedication towards our relationship and appreciate all he's doing. I would be willing to form a family with him even if I'm not in love with him. I don't mind.
So is it overrated to think someone will fall in love again that easily. How about if you're happy you found better even if you're not in love with them?
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I think my age and current goals (different from an 18 year-old's goals) also plays a role. My brain just doesn't produces those hormones responsible for falling in love anymore.
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Falling in love in the 'head over heels' kind of way, is kind of overrated in my opinion. I do think it is a possible way to fall in love, regardless of age, but I dont see it as the only way to form a meaningful relationship. I relate to what you're saying about goals and all that, I think I feel sort of the same way. I like to believe that making a conscious decision, regarding who you spend your time on, and start a family with, is more important than the crazy love. I do think it would be hard to stay emtionally involved in a relationship if you're not really in love though, and I'm not sure I could marry someone I did not have a wild love for.
This exactly. The only thing falling in love (oh the passion, oh I'm in my highest moment) did to me in the past was hurt me badly and I ended up falling in love with a terrible man. It wasn't worth it.
Now it's like I can make better decisions and judgements without the ''I'm over the clouds, in love'' part overtaking.
I don’t think it is.
Heartbreak is a terrible thing, and it cuts deep. It can damage you for years to come.
It’s always fine to take time to heal, to come to terms with what happened. Learn to love yourself and do better before you go into another relationship (I mean you already got into another one but just work on loving yourself and being better right now then I guess-)
And love has many ways to come to being. It doesn’t need to have that immediate spark. Sometimes it has a slow burn. It slowly comes to fruition.
I understand if you shut yourself off from love to avoid another heartbreak, whether consciously or subconsciously. However, sometimes it just finds a way.
All you’d need then (at least, I think) is someone who makes you comfortable enough to be yourself. The rest comes naturally.
Yeah I thought there was nothing worse than getting cheated on but yes there is. My heartbreak was about getting lied and used for years as a commodity, used for pleasure and also money and wealth. I was dealing with a narcissist and a sociopath who never had intentions of marrying me, purposely draining my years, purposely keeping me as just a girlfriend, never progressing things because he had another hidden agenda... to go after our money. I got cheated out of a life basically.
The thing is when I realized all this, I wanted to move on faster and already get into another relationship. I felt total disgust and hatred for that monster that I didn't care about mourning for him.
No ma'am you just need one great fuck..
That's it. This all nonsense will fly away from your head.
What about commitment? I want to form a family. What's the use of one great fuck and the man never commits nor gives you kids?
Ideally it would be great both things at the same time, a great fuck but also commitment.