Is the female equivalent of an incel a woman that can't get a man to commit? (Page 2)
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No lol The female equivalent of an incel is a woman who is involuntarily celebate... It's right there in the name
Though it's rare for a woman to be an involuntarily celebate but it's common for us to find ourselves in ''forever childless girlfriend'' zone. Too many stories on forum with the title ''We've been together for 6+, I love him, why won't we proposed, I'm depressed'''. She isn't an childless, unmarried woman by choice.
Maybe for the women you know, but that is not true fot the whole world. In my state and countrt alone, there are thousands of women and girls who are 20 or over and never had sex because they are deemed too unattractive by others. And there are several others who allow themselves to just be hookups just so they aren't incels, but being used for sex your whole life sucks too. Honestly, that might be connected to the women you are talking about who are girlfriends forever. Is ot possible they aren't marriage material? Is iy possible the guys have no interest in marrying those ladies because those ladies don't offer anything other than sex? I honestly don't know, but it's possible.
Maybe but if the guy never has intention of ever proposing and already knew this for the longest (that she isn't the one), he's being selfish by keeping her around for sex, keeping up with the false promises of ''one day'' instead of setting her free.
The woman doesn't want to be a girlfriend forever, very few of us would be happy with that deal. I can't think of any girl in my family that never wants marriage.
As for a woman being an involuntary virgin due to her bad looks, I think either those guys are going after model type women (asking too much) or she must be having some weight issue I guess. I don't know of any woman in my area that hasn't gotten any male attention, rare case.
Well obviously that's awful when guys just keep girls around for sex, but that doesn't change it 🤷♂️ It's up to those ladies to be wise enough to move on. We have to do the right thing for ourselves and not rely on others to do what is right.
Of course most women don't want to be gfs forever. That's why you break up with guys who aren't serious 🤷♂️ Easy as that. You can't force a guy to marry you. Just find a guy who will.
Where are you from? Sounds like I should live there 😂 That's shocking that all the womeb around you get male attention. Where I am from, there are several girls who are obese, sometimes morbidly, who have never even been flirted with by guys. A few of them are my friends. But I know people from all over Oklahoma and in several different states, and plenty of girls my age have never even kissed a guy because no one finds them attractive. It's sad, but I know it's definitely a prevailent issue. There just aren't as many female incels as there are male incels because most women who are undesirable will fall for it when gross guys manipulate them for sex, while a male incel never gets offers for sex from girls at all.
Incel is gender neutral. An incel can be a man or woman. So the female version of an incel is an incel.
there's plenty of ugly girls that can't get ANYTHING from men on reddit's ForeverAloneWomen.
black girl called lonelysadbitch11.(for some reason recently she's more into learning programming though).
That's not the majority of girls though. Those are minor cases.
I thought that the women in the ''forever girlfriend'' situations (living together with boyfriend for 5+ years and no proposal) seem to experienced similar depression to the men that can't get a woman. They both are stuck at a stage and things aren't progressing.
lol whatever. The word is really stupid and meant to insult single men anyways.
People live there life: Most aged 18-25 year old girls seem content with playing video games all day and unlike their male counterparts, do NOT seem to "need" sex, or care about companionship.
Hence the lack of internet female incels: Women simply are fine with playing video games and eating all day.
Maybe men and women aren't exactly the same after all. Perhaps baby fever and getting married (feeling secured) eventually to us is already the equivalent of men's needs for sex and craving it. We crave security and long-term commitment and you guys crave sex. Both after all are cravings.
Did you read my post? A young woman's cravings amounts down to playing video games, eating food, listening to music, and, if she is that type of woman, getting her clitoris rubbed as a narcotic for depression.
Nah. An Incel is someone who can’t form even the most basic connections with women. A woman who can’t get men to commit is just misreading the situations
Did you know it was actually a female who came up with the term incel in the late 90s, and she herself identified as one?
The female equivalent of an incel is also an incel, but female and hates men.
nah she's a strong independent woman. what are you talking about?
wtf?
dude this is even a CM close to an incel. incels can't even get a date and boy do they wish they can have their crushes get action out of them without committing
She's called a "femcel" or an r/nicegirl
incel is just short for involuntarily celibate so no... the female equivalent to a male incel is just a female incel..
That's a unicorn. Every girl has kids now unless she's under 25 and that's probably too young for a 33 year old at this point.
Plenty of couples are fine without ever having kids
If both are on the exact same page then it's fine. It's not ok when one wants something totally different than the other.
I'm referring to the stories I've been bumping too many times. The stories I read have the title ''My boyfriend and I have been living together for 6 years, why isn't he proposing, when are we getting married'' and the woman is indeed depressed about being an eternal childless, girlfriend. She doesn't want to be a forever girlfriend. She wants to be a wife with kids. In that case, she isn't unmarried out of choice. She isn't unmarried because she never wanted kids nor married. She's unmarried because the man won't propose, won't marry her.
I make my intentions clear on the second date. I will have sex with you before marriage. I will not have sex with you before we've been dating for 3 months (6 if you're a virgin). I will not propose before we've been dating for 3 years. I will not wait more than 2 years to have sex with you. I will not propose to you until we've lived together for a year. This last one has a caveat since my girlfriend lives here whenever she doesn't have work, but it hasn't been a complete year yet. Mainly I just want to make sure I can deal with the bad times before proposing and for that you need to pretty much live with a person. All of this is disclosed on the second date. Girls know exactly where they are with me and therefore they don't expect me to even float proposing before the third year. I don't care if we've lived together for 1 or more years. 3-year minimum of dating for a proposal. If I don't propse by then, I'm not 100% sure I want to marry you. By the 6th year though, if I'm not proposing I'm probably not going to marry you.
All a woman has to do to get a man is go get a homeless man at a shelter or under a bridge.
But easy sex isn't the goal for most of us. We already can get sex from even a desperate man hence why she wouldn't be an involuntary virgin. We rarely lack male attention.
However, we have a harder time getting a man to propose marriage. That's the goal most of us want, a man that gives us commitment and kids. Usually she's in a long-term relationship, has been living with said boyfriend for 4-6 years, and oh he loves her so much and is ''the love of his life'' (sarcasm) that he keeps her as a ''girlfriend childless girlfriend'', decides he needs more time, makes excuses meanwhile she's all sad wondering why won't he propose, what's taking him too long, wondering why he doesn't enough her love to make her his wife after long long.
In that example is isn't childless and unmarried out of choice. It's the man that won't open that damn gate, that won't advance the relationship after he claims he loves her, bs.
Or the guy is feeding her BS about marriage not needed and the woman feels forced to agree with his stance but deep inside she wants marriage and is sad that he's not giving her that. She involuntarily unmarried. She isn't a woman that never wanted marriage. She's a woman where it's the man that won't marry her.
Hard truth, feminism has destroyed the trust that men had in women along time ago. They Bragg on the divorce rates going down but failed to mention the marriage rates are falling faster. Bottom line is, with the no fault divorces, chil support, divorce courts highly favor women in court. Men getting married is like playing Russian roulette with his life.
and now some of my friends are already distrustful with the ''living together'' and being another forever girlfriend for years. They don't want their fertile years taken away by men that won't commit. Just like men looking after themselves, they are too so I guess it's an war alright.
Sadly, if a man wants a woman that never wants marriage, I believe he's going to have a hard time finding that. I can't think of any women in my family that never wants marriage. That's like asking if there is a man that never wants sex or a child that doesn't like chocolates.
Unless she's infertile from a disorder (not because of age), has been abused or raped by men to the point of being traumatized or has deep hatred... ok maybe she might not want marriage.
Actually there was a specific woman that really never wanted marriage (one of my friend's co-worker) but she wasn't actually the norm and her personality was off. There was just something off about her, something that was so unnatural about her. She had personal issues too.
So if you find such woman, she might not really be a normal person or have issues. She'll be a minority just like an asexual man is... because both are going against their main biological functions.
Oh nono
It's the same on both genders.
I've seen women who couldn't get men to touch them.
It's sad
Those are rare exceptions though. I'm not joking but if I were to hypothetically speaking ask men ''do you want to have sex with me'', already many would be lining up.
But to get a man to propose marriage and not take too much of our time, damn that's a challenge. Those women that stayed in the ''forever girlfriend'' zone after living with their boyfriend for 5+ years and are already asking on forums when is he going to propose, aren't happy about the situation. They want to get married. They aren't unmarried by choice. It's the man that won't proceed.
No… I think you’re confused on what an incel is. It’s involuntary celibate
Yes it is. The woman in my example is an involuntary unmarried woman.
The female equivalent I was referring to is a woman that has already moved in with her 2nd or 3rd boyfriend, always wanted marriage and kids but again, the man never proposes. All those bfs she lived with kept her in the ''forever girlfriend'' zone, gave excuses, told her the same ''one day we''ll get married'' line, etc and she's already going to turn 30+ and is sad about her situation.
Do you know what the word celibate means?
yes and that's why I couldn't come up with an exact example because a woman is rarely ever an involuntary celibate. We can find sex easily in comparing to the man that has been trying to attract a woman for years and can't.
However we can struggle in getting a man to propose marriage to us. While nope, she's not a celibate... she's unmarried not out of choice. She's unmarried because the man won't propose to her.
So then that answers your question
No. She is just unmarried. Incels are only equivalent to incels.
No, the female equivalent of an incel is a feminist.
Feminists are the original incels.
That’s the way shitty people view it, but unfortunately most people are.
I don't know, how can a man become incel? if i dont have kids or girlfriend am i incel?
if you broke-up with your high-school sweetheart and never went to college, then you are one.
whereas if a woman is like that, she's just a loser.
@vennominaga all that happend, so is incel a bad word or good word?
you never went to university? You're an incel.
You're a woman who never went to university? You're just a loser.
@vennominaga never cared about uni
You mean a femcel, the term already exists.