How can I get over my suspicions?

[Cass510]

My boyfriend and I been together going on 4 years, great nice guy. He’s stuck around with my crazy toxic self and worked with me to become healthier so I guess you can say he’s love me tremendously. Now he’s respectful and I haven’t seen anything crazy shady like he was unfaithful now that being said I still always think the worse examples, if he doesn’t answer his phone I think he’s out with someone, when he answers and he’s sleeping I think I he’s acting that way and has a weird tone like he was just having sex and I interrupted those intrusive thoughts. I also look through his phone often and when he gets upset or wants it back I think oh what are you hiding now it’s not like this all the time obviously but these thoughts ruin my day and I can’t stop thinking until I eventually let it go. Any advice? I know he loves me but I question “is it enough for him not to cheat? Does he even like me or think I’m beautiful? “ now he reassures me always but I find my self so sensitive and these thoughts take over HELP

[Katyalov]

Sounds like you may have fear of rejection. Maybe you were rejected in the past and that wound never healed, was never dealt with. This will continue to sabotage your relationships until you deal with the issue. Seek counseling/therapy

[A_Bell]

Just make s choice to not hsve negative thoughts. Just repeat to yourself that everything is fine.

[Anonymous]

I think maybe you should talk to a therapist/counselor to teach you way to overcome and deal with these intrusive thoughts

[Opinion Owner]

i was in the exact same situation and two and a half years of cognitive behavioral therapy has resulted in 95% positivity throughout the day with no depressed/anxious breakdowns for about a good year. its taxing on mental resources and time as well, but if you truly want to become a pinnacle of positivity or at least become devoid of non-incidental negative thinking, its the only way, in my opinion, you can go.