Have you ever found yourself in a relationship you weren't sure you wanted to be in?

[FunkyMonkee]

For instance, you meet someone who kinda takes your friendship more seriously than it is and they treat you like their new lover but you don't really want to go there but, at the same time, you don't want to hurt their feelings by telling them to stop it.

[jennifer_bloom]

Yeah, the last guy I dated was a kind person, but very inefficient at speaking and showing affection or humour because he has no experience. I felt like I was having an argument with a manager at work and not like I was in a loving relationship with a joyful and cute friend.

[Anonymous]

Oooh that's pretty specific... I'm currently in a relationship ingot into because the girl I had been dating immediately before just broke up with me and my ex asked me out while we were out night fishing and my reasoning was "I've got nothing better to do"...

Now I'm working with and discussing building a house with a woman I've loved for 10 years, but am still in it with my ex because she hasn't done anything to merit breaking up, especially during the holidays.

My girlfriend knows about the other girl and is okay with it, but neither deserve to be in a triangle, and I feel horrible for not being more careful about things

[NathanDavis]

no... I would rather things to be clear between us and that we're both on the same page

would not like to mislead them onto something that is just not, or it would not be fair for either

[RobT312]

Yeah that happened to me. I entertained it a little, had a few dates, had sex. But really it didn’t go anywhere. Didn’t change how I felt but at least I tried

[catiecatie]

Yes I have been in one. Wasn’t really a relationship, but he basically left me at a restaurant because I told him to buckle his seat belt. I told him that I liked him after I got home then after talking with my mom she says he would’ve hit me. Yep nope then proceeded to text me after that and even said Happy Thanksgiving. Hopefully he got the hint to leave me alone. But he was an idiot.

[lachuppacabra]

i was dead sure that i was in a relationship that i didn't want to be in. i realised when it was over for real that i had just massivly overthought the entire situation and that things wasn't as bad as i thought that things had been.

[Sixgunsound]

It's happened back when I was a people pleaser and cared more about what other people thought of me than what I think of me.

[SnowedIn]

Thankfully I've never been in that position.

[humanearth]

Yeah, that's has happened a few times in my lifetime

[BJP21]

My recent was abusive, I questioned why I was even still in the house.

[Bob92220]

I've been in a few verbally abusive relationships. I really liked them too. I saw a therapist and she said it was because my Mom was verbally abusive. She also had a difficult personality. So I was always attracted to those types of women.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and I dumped him, but he proceeded to stalk me for about 2 years.

[FunkyMonkee]

I never had a stalker, but I did have two girls who kinda took things just a tad too far. Well, farther than I initially intended. The first one I KINDA got into it for a very short time but, I just didn't feel it was gonna work out so, I eventually broke it off with her.
The second one WAS my girlfriend years before but, by this point, I just didn't feel that way about her anymore. I TRIED to make it work the second time but, after about 3 weeks, it just didn't feel right.

[kramchancel]

Yes actually my first relationship.

[Akam93]

Yes.